To not be remotely involved in teen's gcse revision

Sure but you realise kids are different right? My son needed a lot of chivying along and reminders and scheduling. My DD needed nothing - I just noted when her exams were in my diary and that's it.

A parent, even with no subject knowledge, can offer an overview and some structure for revision. eg there are 8 topics, do one per session or whatever. Anyone can google a syllabus and read the overview. And a parent with subject knowledge can offer a sit down together type session for moral support, encouragement and subject improvement.

If they are bright and independent I would thank my lucky stars and leave them to it. I would just make sure I was around at exam time to provide decent meals and cover any possible transport issues.

My two eldest are dyslexic and needed a bit more support around study and exam times, my youngest just got on with it but appreciated an available listening ear when she wanted it.

Yanbu
I actually think it really harms kids if their parents needlessly get tense about gcses
Obviously some kids do need a bit of extra help..
But if your kid is naturally bright and doing well then breathing down their necks can be harmful.
I had a terrible experience doing my gcses.. my parents acted like I was lazy because I didn't revise as much as they wanted.. they constantly hounded me. I developed anxiety and depression. I got straight A* but I felt nothing when I recieved the results. I still felt like I'd failed because I was so convinced I was lazy and didn't do enough work. I dropped out of school during my A levels because I was such a psychological mess.
I don't want to do this with my kids. Mental health is top priority. Exams are stressful enough.. if your kid is a good kid and doing well anyway they certainly do not need the level of input some parents think they do.

Despite not particularly enjoying me pushing (gently) and ensuring my eldest had plenty of revision resources, he now freely admits he wouldn't have achieved the grades he got without extra support. I have no doubt he'd have done pretty well anyway, but I do think the extra support and boost helped. I think showing an interest and support without pressuring makes a world of difference to a child. As does the reassurance that so long as they know they've genuinely tried their best, that's good enough for them and their parents.

My job was to fund study guides (rubbish school ) ban gaming or at least reduce it, and nag as far as I was concerned, both dc did well

i’ve helped my dd. Testing her, nudging her to revise. Watching some english youtube videos with her. I’m sure i’m too hands on and you’re a much better parent with a much more independent child. Well done!

My son will not let me get involved, he ends up getting snappy if I attempt to help!

Crikey. It seems that some parents don't understand that not all children mature at the same rate.
Some don't need encouragement, yet others do.

Why would you deliberately set your DC up to fail if you know that they need more support?

DD needed a bit of encouragement at GCSE level, she asked me to test her at A level, and guess what - she managed to achieve a first class honours degree in a STEM subject all by herself with no input from me (except for reading through her dissertation).

Basically, not all 15/16 year olds are the same or have the same level of emotional maturity.

@driedapricots101 clearly your DC doesn't need any support, but lots do need more encouragement.

Im helping my son to revise. Like I helped my eldest. Their school isn't the best so I feel like I need to help fill the learning gaps.

Teens in our family have had a traumatic few years with multiple parental losses.

So yes, we will be supporting all of them.

Every situation is different.

If your child is able to study independantly without parental input then thats fine. Some kids might need extra support though.

Our son is in the spectrum and needed a lot of support at GCSE - revision timetables, testing of material after revision etc. It worked though, got good grades and at A levels needed very little input from us.

I have no plans to at all. For me the major part of getting ready ri go to uni, ie GCSEs, is learning ti self study.

Tbh, jokes aside - it seems a bit disingenuous.
”My child is bright and independent and has good mock grades - am I a rubbish parent?”
🤨

My parents certainly didn't get involved whatsoever in mine. Not sure what a parent can do other than ask/nag about revising?? Maybe provide food...

It’s almost like all kids are different and need / want different levels and styles of parental input.

Who’d have thought it? 🤣