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To hate having house guests?!

162 replies

yellowr0se · 17/04/2024 21:15

I am not talking about having people over for lunch/ dinner/ drinks/ coffee etc.

I mean people STAYING in the house. Family coming for a multiple nights etc.

I find it overwhelmingly invasive and an incredible energy drain.

Having to make continuous conversation..

Having to offer every time you want to reach for a snack..

Not being able to walk around in underwear/ revealing / old/ strange pajamas

Having to be seen and talk to people first thing in the morning.

Having to "entertain"?

Having to have awkward convos about "what do you want to watch on TV?"

Ughhhh just hate the whole thing. It's not them, it's nearly always me. I guess I am just a very private person. I socialise in very short bursts.

Am I totally unreasonable to feel like this or do others feel the same?

Ps- any tips for how to make it feel more manageable.

OP posts:
bows101 · 17/04/2024 21:19

With you OP.
I also abhor being the overnight guest; think
Christmas with family who live too far to travel back at the end of the day so HAVE to stay. I count down every minute 😩

greengreyblue · 17/04/2024 21:19

Haven’t done it for ages. I’m ok with overnight, up , breakfast and off they go. Wouldn’t do more than that. I rarely stay at other people’s houses either. I did at Christmas and we were up and left after breakfast and clearing up. I hate putting on others.

yellowr0se · 17/04/2024 21:19

blackrosemage · 17/04/2024 21:18

100% agree. It's the worst. I also intensely dislike staying at other peoples houses

Omg me too! HATE it!!!!

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MenoBabe · 17/04/2024 21:18

Only like it with about 2 of my very closest friends. Hate it with everyone else.

NursieBirder · 17/04/2024 21:18

YANBU. Just don’t do it.

Grasshopper75 · 17/04/2024 21:18

Same. I feel like it would be easier if I had a massive house with lots of space but we're in a small 2 bed with one bathroom, small lounge and a small-ish kitchen/diner. Having more than me and DH in the house feels so claustrophobic.

Springtime43 · 17/04/2024 21:18

I hate it too. Why can’t people stay in a Premier Inn?

blackrosemage · 17/04/2024 21:18

100% agree. It's the worst. I also intensely dislike staying at other peoples houses

Noshowlomo · 17/04/2024 21:17

I could never do it. I’d hate it

TowerRavenSeven · 17/04/2024 21:17

Yanbu at all; I hate it with a passion!

Samlewis96 · 17/04/2024 21:17

Don't have overnight guests Simple

Ilovemyshed · 17/04/2024 21:16

Its horrendous. 1 night max is my limit.