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To ask if there was ever a time in your life

56 replies

AquaBee · 17/04/2024 19:58

When everything was perfect and just as you wanted it to be ?

I am late thirties now and have never felt this way except maybe when I was about seven or eight years old.

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ComtesseDeSpair · 17/04/2024 20:04

I’ve felt this way for the past five years or so. I love my lifestyle, my many wonderful friends, my career, my home, my neighbourhood. Perfect from my point of view possibly doesn’t look like a lot of other people’s idea of perfect, but I wouldn’t change a thing. Perhaps that’s the secret: not comparing yourself and your life to other people’s and finding what you have coming up short.

WhiteLeopard · 17/04/2024 20:03

I think I have usually felt this way? Maybe a combination of good luck and having fairly ordinary aspirations (marriage, kids, job etc).

NuffSaidSam · 17/04/2024 20:02

I have times where I feel like it's perfect, moments of absolute happiness.

Of course it isn't perfect and eventually you remember that.

YouAndMeAndThem · 17/04/2024 20:01

When I had my daughter. We had been trying for years, had a miscarriage then a surprise pregnancy straight after. I had a brutal pregnancy with severe mental health issues.

Then she was born, naturally, calmly, gas and air only. The black cloud lifted, the anxiety melted away and I have never felt joy like it. I had a well paid maternity leave, my husband worked good shifts so was around a lot. I breastfed and was so lucky to have no issues with it. She was the most perfect angel baby, we snuggled, fed, napped, for weeks and weeks. I was so happy in my newborn bubble and will always remember it as the best time of my life. I thought we would never be lucky enough to have a baby after trying so long. It was all I had ever wanted in my life.

Emotionalsupporthamster · 17/04/2024 20:00

I’m pretty much there right now. I mean, of course it’s not actually perfect and I’m stressed out regularly and there’s never enough time or energy, but overall this feels like the good times.

Actual perfect, everything as you’d want it to be is a fantasy though

StoatofDisarray · 17/04/2024 19:59

No, not even when I was 7 or 8. But I have always been the sort to look on the gloomy side. You will get more cheerful responses from people, I'm sure!