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To think he had one job....

32 replies

WatermelonWaveclub · 17/04/2024 18:50

I'm not well ATM and stuck at home. I asked ex-H If he could pick up some groceries on the way back from picking DD up from school. He kindly agreed.

It wasn't a long list:
Apples
Brioche rolls
Yogurts (let DD choose)
Eggs
Sausages
4 pouches of sweets (for DS's birthday)

I'm not exaggerating when I say I had 5 phone me calls about the items during the shopping trip. Exactly what to get? Where in the supermarket to get? Was DD's yogurt choice ok? Can DD get a drink?

There was one item he didn't ask about. The sausages. He chose some and DD told him she didn't like those kind (type of vegetarian sausages) and he told her oh don't worry you can have something different!! I don't have anything different because I can't go shopping!!

I didn't specify a particular brand as wasn't sure exactly what this supermarket has and thought he would be guided by 12 yo DD. I wrote in the message with the list that DD will know what to get. Every time he phoned me I reiterated he could just ask DD!

I don't know if it's just he's so unused to shopping for a family now...but honestly he had one decision to make!!

OP posts:
WatermelonWaveclub · 17/04/2024 19:08

misszebra · 17/04/2024 18:52

at least hes trying. much more than many exes would do. and I'm sure you'd rather he asked rather than buying the complete wrong thing.

That's true. I just wanted him to ask DD not me as using my brain is a bit difficult atm.

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nadine90 · 17/04/2024 19:05

Well you already ltb so not sure what you can do 🤷‍♀️
It’s not easy shopping for people you don’t live with. I don’t think it’s necessarily that he can’t shop for a family, more he isn’t used to shopping for your household anymore.
I remember shopping for my Dad in the dark days of Covid lockdown and I was phoning him every 2 mins x

Namerchanger1 · 17/04/2024 18:58

Ask your ex to do a favour
he does it
you gripe and moan

hmmmm

MassiveOvaryaction · 17/04/2024 18:58

I'd have sent the list to the 12yo.

Was he controlling in your relationship? Were you?

BettyShagter · 17/04/2024 18:54

Why on earth didn't you ask your DD to get the list?

I thought you were going to say she was 5 or 6 or something.

She would've been my first choice considering some/most of the items will be for her.

misszebra · 17/04/2024 18:52

at least hes trying. much more than many exes would do. and I'm sure you'd rather he asked rather than buying the complete wrong thing.

MumChp · 17/04/2024 18:51

He tried.