For refusing to move in with his previously aggressive dog...

You’re not being unreasonable in any way whatsoever.

I would never move into a house with a large dangerous dog. This dog has already killed another dog and you’ve seen it snapping at people.

Your dog wouldn’t stand a chance if it turned. Please don’t even consider bringing a baby into this situation. A small defenceless baby screaming for hours on end sounds as though it would potentially be prey for this dog. I feel sick at the thought of it.

The dog can never be deemed safe. I think you should also be worried about your own safety around this dog...

Hell no.

He sounds thick as shit and your dog and any future children will not be safe.

People like him are exactly the reason that every other day on the news one of these vile dogs has ripped another person to shreds.

You can do so much better.
It is the dog and it is the owners.

How old is the dog? From what you've said, minimum 8 years old? He might not live much longer since Pitbull life expectancy is 12-14 years. If he's 10/11 maybe you could make the compromise knowing it won't be for long? Just an idea. YANBU though.

Just report him to the police anonymously. Dog gets destroyed. Problem solved.
(apart from the fact he’s probably an arsehole for owning one in the first place).

I am making multiple sacrifices to be in this relationship already; which is why I feel strongly about him making one

Why, why, why do you want to be with someone like that?

Never mind the dog - do not have DC with a self-centred tosser man who expects you to bear the brunt whilst he floats on

I thought it was bad enough you moving in with just your dog but then you mentioned about bringing a baby into the mix and this has disaster written all over it.

Are you mad? Either have your own dog put down and decide to not have children while your psycho boyfriend hangs on to his 'mine's bigger than yours' aggressive dog or ditch him and have a happy life. Choose. Those are your options.

We can all see the giant red flag, but you’ll move in anyway, maybe not straight away but when one of the dogs dies or when you get pregnant.

When the original aggressive pit bull dies he’ll replace it with another poorly trained dangerous breed. You’ll put up with it because you think it’s just a difference of opinion, when in fact he doesn’t care about you, doesn’t respect you and he is an idiot.

but sounds like you’re going to do it anyway if all you do is keep dating him and keep posting about it.

The narrative that his dog ‘accidentally’ killed another is extremely worrying. In this situation i would at the very least have expected him to own this (and his part in it). He’s damn lucky he hasn’t been prosecuted. I knew several owners who have for less than this. I would honestly not even consider moving in with him and this whole incident would be red line for me. I’m sorry but when I hear this situation I can only conclude that the owner of a dog like this is a selfish arse with no sense of empathy or responsibility. Walk away.

A dog-aggressive dog of a breed/type that was banned in Britain in 1991

No way would I be letting my dog anywhere near it. And no way would I be giving up a dog either. Cohabitation can wait, a dog's safety cannot.

Nor would I have a child living at, or visiting, a dog with a bite history (against other dogs or humans) until the DC is old enough to decide for themselves and essentially adult-sized (so likely mid-teens at the earliest)

What sort of dog did he think he was getting? When it became obvious that the dog was going to meet a (banned) pitbull type, did he get it properly exempted and does he comply fully with the restrictions?

And how old is it?

Yup, she did, and we all told her to get rid of this absolute idiot. Some people simply insist on being their own worst enemy.

Not in a million years would I go anywhere near that dog. He’s willfully ignorant and plain stupid.

I don’t trust his judgement

Then why in the fuck are you with him?? And considering have children with him? Only absolute idiots own pit bulls. How could you ever move in with this man knowing how stupid he is? How much time do intend to waste on a man like this?

Honestly, I despair sometimes.

Why would you want to be with a man who chose to own a banned breed bred for blood sports…then was stupid enough to put the dog in a position where it was able to do the thing it was bred for and kill its own kind.

Dont have children with this man for gods sake.

You posted this a while ago.

The last time posters unanimously said not to move in - he’s choosing his dangerous dog over you, you’d be stupid to have a baby in these circumstances, etc etc.

Why have you posted this again?

You posted this a while ago.

The last time posters unanimously said not to move in - he’s choosing his dangerous dog over you, you’d be stupid to have a baby in these circumstances, etc etc.

Why have you posted this again?

I wouldn't move in while the dog lives there. Obviously there are always risks with dogs but this dog is aggressive. Why wasn't he put down after killing another dog?

I wouldn't want to live with an aggressive dog. I would not risk my dog being around him and I would never bring a baby into a house where an aggressive dog lived.

What's worrying is your dp is so blasé about this. That would be very concerning for someone I plan to eventually co parent with .

As soon as his dog killed another dog it should have been put to sleep, I couldn't be with anyone that allowed a dangerous animal to live and potentially kill again. I certainly wouldn't be allowing him or his dog near my dog.
Have a serious word with yourself about this.

I have a ‘dangerous’ dog. She never used to be but someone assaulted her and it made her reactive. She randomly bit someone (I was devastated) who I assume she thought looked like the man who hurt her (same age and build, also in jeans). She started barking on walks and getting aggressive with men and other dogs. I recognised something was wrong. We went to the vet, we got referred for behaviour therapy and I’ve worked hard with her to help manage this. She wears a muzzle for alll walks. She is much, much better after a year…BUT I would NEVER expect her to share her home with another dog. I would not risk the safety of that other dog nor would I do this to her because it would cause her stress. The youngest child I’ve had around her since this happened was 4 and I watched her the whole time, I took her out if she showed signs of being stressed. I do whatever I can to keep her calm because she is an anxious dog and that can make her aggressive. I do this both for her and for everyone around her. Funnily the dog behaviour therapist said I was the most engaged client she’d worked with - most people are referred by someone else whereas I requetsed it. I explained that I love my dog and I wanted her to be happy and I hated that she was so distressed. I’m glad she’s better but I will always be cautious with her now.
I agree with pp, the key issue here is that you r DP doesn’t recognise that his dog is dangerous, he won’t take any steps to change things and seems unwilling to acknowledge there’s a risk to your dog or any future DC. I would think very carefully about any future with this man.

So if you’re in the UK, he owns a banned breed dog that has already killed another dog, he seems to be severely lacking in judgement and you’re thinking about moving in, taking your dog along too and having kids with him. Seems like a disaster waiting to happen. Ditch him and find someone who isn’t a complete twat.

Leave him! He's a twat who'd rather choose his dangerous dog over you. No way could you have children with his idiotic and dangerous lack of common sense!

Owners of dangerous dogs don't want to think the worst of their furred friend and so they minimise the danger constantly. Look up fatal dog attacks in the UK, you'll see pitbull-types (including but not exclusively Bully XLs) kill the most people, and the number of fatal incidents has been increasing.

Some dogs just don't like living with other dogs...it would be miserable for all involved if you have to keep them separate-: but fail to do so and it could all end really badly.

It would be no way to live and that's before you think about putting a child into the mix

You would be mad to do this and if he can't see that he isn't very bright

Someone once said there are something like 7 billion people in this world, half of them are men.

throw this one back, keep your dog and find another man - there are plenty of more fish in the sea.