For refusing to move in with his previously aggressive dog...

He needs to give this dangerous dog to a shelter. His parents won’t be able to keep your kids safe from the dog. He is putting his dog before you and future family. Time to tell him enjoy life with his dog and find someone worthy of you.

Is the dog a pitbull OP? Ie an illegal dog?

In any case, as hard as this is, it’s surely closing time for this relationship. Thankfully before a tragedy happened - or you lost your mind worrying and trying to prevent one!

I wouldn't move in with him or have children with him, unless he got rid of the dog.

It’s mind blowing it’s even more mind blowing that you want to be in a relationship with this imbecile.

Do not have kids with this man. I can’t believe he said he would train the baby to leave the dog alone. He’s a joke.

This with bells on ^
Don’t even think about your 2 dogs under same roof let alone a baby between you.
Dear God! Are you mad?

I’m struggling to comprehend why you are in a relationship with such an irresponsible moron. You need to raise your bar, seriously, the man is a walking red flag.

I would rather have a baby with someone more responsible who was able to make compromises

I would never have a baby living with that dog. This is your hill to die on.

If you really want to stay with this man then you just can't live with him. So decide if he's not willing to regime the dog, if you'd rather leave him or have a baby but have him living away from you

Oh and plenty of stories from people who have unsuccessfully tried to do as he suggests and keep dogs apart in the same house. One slip up can be deadly for the dogs and incredibly dangerous for people who try to break them apart.

Why has he got a pitbull? They are illegal surely.

Take a look at the "BanPitbulls" page on reddit - so many harrowing first hand accounts of people and pets whose lives have been destroyed by pitbulls. Other dogs, children and the elderly are particularly vulnerable, and the breed is known to turn seemingly without any warning whatsoever.

With my behaviourist hat on (and im sure you've posted about this before?!)...

Whilst there may be good, understandable reasons for each individual event, which could be addressed with the aid of a behaviourist...

Not on your nelly. Not if you paid me. Not if the dog were made of cake. No way would I move myself and my dogs in with this dog.

Because whatever the dog has or has not done, whatever behaviour he has displayed... the much more crucial factor is the behaviour his OWNER displays.

He isn't taking it seriously.
He genuinely believes that the dog will just 'get used to' another dog, a child etc etc.
He seriously thinks that living with a split household, with a dog that can NEVER meet another dog, or potentially a baby, is a reasonable way to live.

It absolutely isn't and in my experience (and thats 20+ years of working with dogs and people) it is a recipe for disaster.

He will not do the work necessary, if he was going to, he already would have and most of the incidents you mention would not have happened.
He will not take it seriously - he already isn't.
Management on the level he is suggesting, will fail. Guaranteed at some point, it fails and when it fails... someone gets hurt, a dog dies.

It is not worth it. Live seperately. Ideally, leave him for someone who is less of a twat, but certainly if you stay with him, live seperately.

Oh darling. Darling. Darling.

I wish you had a good mother who would come in and swoop you away from this awful relationship.

This has nothing to do with dogs and everything to do with him being a shit partner and definitely not someone you should move in with never mind to have children with.

This really stood out for me I am making multiple sacrifices to be in this relationship already

Why are you doing this? You can can get someone much better than him. You deserve much better than him.

Believe me. Please.

Or you'll be on here in a couple of years complaining he wakes you up to clean dog sick.

Nip it in the bud now!!! Walk away. No run! Run as fast as you can.

Absolutely no way.

He can’t train his dog. How is he going to ‘train’ a baby?
Dont have children with this man

You can’t move in, you can’t have a baby in that house, it’s terribly dangerous. You can’t have a baby with him even if you never moved in, he’d leave the dog with the baby, with his absolutely wrong bullshit of ‘oh we’d train the child to not bother the dog’. All that sentence says is he will say it’s the baby’s fault when the dog attacks and kills it. I think you have to make a call. You should never bring a baby near a dog who’s attacked.

I presume the OP is not in the UK. If she is, then this is either the world's oldest pitbull as it is illegal to breed or sell them since 1991, or it isn't a pitbull.

If it is a pitbull, and she is in the UK, then the owner has broken the law as has the person he got it from.

If the dog has proven to be aggressive (I think killing another dog fits that criteria), then the dog can be destroyed and the owner imprisoned.

Both of those actions would solve your problem @sarahmoore2 as the dog would be gone, and it's owner.

I'm guessing lots of parents looking at their disfigured children (or grieving them) thought the same once.

You need to finish this relationship. It’s going no where and I would NEVER have a child with this man and he has no idea about keeping a baby safe.
How does he expect to train his dog to leave a baby alone when he can’t train his dog to leave other dogs alone? He’s delusional.
To move in with him, you would be knowingly putting yourself, your dog and any future children at risk. The only option is to walk away.

This. There is only one thing that should be done to pit bulls and that involves a vet and an injection.

No way would I live in a house with one. You are right to be wary if it - and he is an idiot to keep it.

Ok think of it this way.

If you were looking for a lodger and a potential one was another person who had murdered a smaller person before but blamed the smaller person for aggravating them….

Would you let them move in as it was 5 years ago?

No? Well why would you put your own dog in that position? That dog relies on you to keep it safe, not l move it in with something that will 1) dominate it and leave it living in fear and 2) likely rip it to shreds.

If you decide against all the advice here and move in with him, at least do the decent thing and rehome your dog to a safe and loving home.

Holy fuckballs.

No way would I allow my dog or any potential children to be around that dog. It’s a bit of a lose/lose situation for you though - your partner clearly loves his dog and will he forever resent you (and also your dog?) for him having to get rid of his dog? It’s the only sensible way to proceed but if he’s going to be arsey about it forever then it’s probably better to walk away now.