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Clare's Law - police visit, normal?

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MyPerfectHotel · 17/04/2024 17:13

I have had some issues with a relatively new partner (8 months) which have raised some concerns.

On the back of this I have made a Clare's Law application.

Within 24 hours the police attended my property unannounced for a safeguarding check. I have since received a telephone call and been given some information which has sealed the deal for me.

However they now want me to come into the station next week to discuss their findings. What will this involve? I am feeling nervous about finding out even more information or will they just go over the ins and outs of what happened with the 2 incidents they have reported to me?

Thank you in advance.

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Arlanymor · 17/04/2024 17:23

I think they are doing their job really well, although I can understand that the fact your fears are confirmed is anxiety-inducing as is the speed at which things have happened.

I imagine they will discuss what disclosures they can under Clare’s Law, will ask you about the initiating incidents that led you to make the check and then outline what next steps you can take and how you will be supported.

You have done the best thing for yourself by seeking out this information. Let the professionals help you now and get yourself out of danger.

Catza · 17/04/2024 17:23

I don't think we will be able to answer any of these questions. Maybe they will let you know about other incidents, maybe there were no other incidents and they will give you more information about things you already know. Maybe he is so dangerous that it warranted a visit, maybe it is their standard procedure. Just wait to go to the police station to find out and make sure you look out for yourself and your kids in the meantime.

ThePoshUns · 17/04/2024 17:20

Yes he is a danger hence the urgent visit

Singleandproud · 17/04/2024 17:19

I would imagine it would depend on how busy the team are right now they may just havebeenin the area and fitted you in, they could have a local team policy to visit all people that make a request to open up doors of communication prevention is better than afterwards. He could be a right wrong'un who is very dangerous and you were a priority.

I'd be grateful, be gladI was ridiculous of him (you are right?) and go to the meeting with a open mind. I'd be surprised if they would give you case specifics but might want updates on you on his current behaviour etc.

Neighneigh · 17/04/2024 17:19

Have they given you any advice on how to handle him in the meantime? Would you have been seeing him normally? I'd ask police what to do, to prevent him reacting in a way that puts you in danger.

ThePoshUns · 17/04/2024 17:19

The police obviously thought your hopefully ex partner was high risk so did an immediate visit to give you some information. They will want to meet you for a proper meeting to be able to tell you his full history and also check you're ok and signpost you to any support you may need / want.

Pheeeeebs · 17/04/2024 17:16

Do not meet up with the BF again!
Go to find out what you started to ensure you have all the information you need to keep yourself and any children safe.
If you do have children, then anticipate social care contacting you to discuss safeguarding the children. This seems very serious.

neverendingcold · 17/04/2024 17:16

Why do you feel nervous? Are you worried you may be in danger when you break up with him?

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MyPerfectHotel · 17/04/2024 17:14

I posted in a hurry and realised that my topic of thread was not very relevant to the questions I was asking.

I am wondering if this man is such a danger that it required an urgent safeguarding visit. People are telling me they usually ring.

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