Clare's Law - police visit, normal?

Do you live alone? Do you have children? What red flags made you contact the police in the first place? (I ask because it may help a lurker follow your example. Don't give us any identifying info though).

I'm sure everything will be OK, but take precautions, just in case, that's only sensible risk assessment. Keep your phone charged and in your hand or pocket; get that Ring doorbell as soon as you can.

Yes back and front door bells and perhaps look at extra things like window locks & change the door locks in case he has copies. Just thinking worst case scenario and not to worry you, but as you don’t know what’s he’s done, I’d consider screwing my letter box shut and putting a tin box on the wall for the mail for this next week so he can’t put something through your letter box. Well done you for trusting your instincts. If you have to find yourself in communication with him just make out you have flu or something and aren’t going anywhere- up to seeing anyone at the moment, just to keep it calm and low key until you know more from the police. Can you go away to family/friends for the w/e?

Do not do this.

This is amazing that the law is working as it should do and protected OP. What a testament to Clare Wood and her father who campaigned for this law.

clares-law.com/why-is-it-called-clares-law/

Yes normal rationally thinking people might. Other people don't care and it will wind them up

Well done OP. They'll be wanting to make sure you have access to the support you need to be safe.

Would it not warn him that the police are involved? How would it be better if he doesn’t think the police are involved?

Apologies if this is very ignorant - but in my experience when people know the police are involved they back off. But I accept that those have been motorist incidents etc .

Thank god that service was available for you to use! Take care OP hope all works out OK.

Yes good point - if it’s texts you don’t actually know it’s the mother and sister- could be him borrowing their phones.

I wouldn't do that. It could escalate things

Thank fuck you did the Claire’s law, OP.

Take along evidence of him and his family contacting you so they can log it.

I don’t know what the visit signifies, but I’d send a very blunt message to his mother that she and sister are not to contact you at all as the police are involved.

Oh god. You have every right to feel anxious. I would contact 101 if you're worried and he keeps contacting you/it gets nasty. Is it really his mother and sister or is it text based so you don't know.

Keep safe. Do you have a friend you could stay with until you manage to speak to the police?

Block his mum and sister too.

Do you have anyone to support you?

Yeah this I'd what I'd be concerned about.

How about showing some understanding towards the op and shoving your positive vibes up your victim blaming backside….

Did you mean to come across as awful in your opening sentence?

Op is likely shitting herself about a whole load of possible permeations of what's going on.

It sounds serious op. Can you get to Argos or somewhere this evening to get a ring doorbell?

It's completely normal, they either attend or ring.

However be aware that they will likely just give you the information about your ex and leave it with you - sometimes you may find out about previous DA which you may not be expecting which can be a bit shocking.

They can ask local womens aid services to check in with you, or you can ask for their details. Might help to talk things over and safety plan with them.

Also, not to sound like I'm being rude but her name was Clare (not Claire, no'i') just like to honour her and her name correctly

I think it's perfectly natural that she feels nervous. She's basically had it confirmed that her ex, who is harassing her, is a potential danger. I don't pick up anything ungrateful in her post and find the first reply very odd and tone deaf. Well done on taking steps to be informed and protected OP!

They want to make sure you have the support you need and maybe signpost you to women's aid. Probably they want to do a safety plan with you. Likely they also want to find out from you the soft intel that made you ask for the Claire's law search.
I think this man is pretty dangerous for them to have turned up on your doorstep within 24 hours. They just don't have the resource to do that. As someone else said, thank goodness for Claire's law and glad you are safe.

Trust your gut. You've had issues and concerns. And now this.

Maybe they want to check you've broken it off with him and that you're safe.

Thank god for Claire's law.

Access to PNC here .. multiple Claire's laws applications.. only the ones at high risk get this type of attention in my constabulary.. tells you all you need to know.

Follow their advice and keep your phone in your hand at all times. It sounds so stressful but hopefully the police can help.