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To feel like cancelling whole party due to stress?

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partypoopp · 17/04/2024 16:48

I mean I won't really do that (although I want to!), but I don't know what to do.

DD is very clever. Birthday party this weekend. Booked x amount of places, can't do more. Dd found spare invitations and invited other children she hadn't already invited. Phone bombarded with 'thank you, we'd love to come messages' (some asking if they can bring younger sibling). AIBU to just want to cancel at this point? Don't know what to do 😭

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mitogoshi · 17/04/2024 16:54

No to siblings, that might cut down some other people coming too. I'm guessing the spares were not to be used, does she understand?

Spitalfieldrose · 17/04/2024 16:53

If it’s a home/village hall kind of thing buy some extra food and leave them to it. If it’s a venue and it’s £20 per child or whatever I’d cancel it.

How old is your DD?

kiwiane · 17/04/2024 16:52

I don’t see how you can go ahead not knowing how many are coming; she is a pain in the arse not clever. How old is she? I’d be minded to make her pay for the extras.

Tempnamechng · 17/04/2024 16:50

Just say no to extra siblings and get an extra plate of sandwiches, extra cupcakes and some cheap, sugar filled party bags and style it out. I'm impressed by her ingenuity, but I would be panicking too! Just remember, you laugh about this when she's older!

craigth162 · 17/04/2024 16:50

HaggisBurger · 17/04/2024 16:49

DD is not “clever”. She’s been devious. I’d think about cancelling for that reason. Not “stress”.

Agree with this.

Sandwichblock · 17/04/2024 16:50

Oh. I think I might be inclined to cancel actually. I'm a big fan of natural consequences.

How old is DD? Could she be the one who has to explain to the extra guests that they're not really invited?

HaggisBurger · 17/04/2024 16:49

DD is not “clever”. She’s been devious. I’d think about cancelling for that reason. Not “stress”.

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partypoopp · 17/04/2024 16:49

I'm also not sure when she sent them out, although the influx has been today. Haven't seen spares for a while, but assumed they were in cupboard.

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