To not be taking step daughter on honeymoon with us?

It's a honeymoon not a family holiday;how weird.

Has anyone considered that the step daughter probably doesn't want to go on a honeymoon with her dad and step mum either.

The honeymoon is for getting loads of sex in before life goes back to normal. Why would your DSD want to be in the vicinity

Of course YANBU

sounds like you have a lovely relationship and your dsd knows she is loved so won’t feel resentful she will have a lovely time being part of your wedding

Some people love to make mischief

when I've been talking to various people the first question I get asked is 'are the 3 of you going on honeymoon then' or 'aww poor DSD' or 'that's a shame for her' or similar things along the same line.

They sound like jelly nellys. Safely ignore.

Weddings are about the happy couple and (taditionally) their future family / kids.

Whoever said that was stirring the pot and needs to be kept at arm's length.

Your wedding, by the way, sounded lovely and I hope you had a brilliant time. And got to hide the bodies well xxx

Edited for crap spelling.

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I wouldn't take my own, or anyone else's children, on honeymoon.

"It our honeymoon, Jenny, we'll be fucking like rabbits. Why do you think that's an appropriate trip for an 11 year old to join?"

People like to gob off about stuff. Doesn't mean you have to listen and definitely you don't need to take it to heart.

It's a honeymoon, not a family holiday!

Come on now. Who takes a child on a honeymoon? Cor blimey. Why don't you take MIL as well, you can all share a room 😂

Ignore - just let it go over your head.

before DH & my wedding I was asked if (and why not) I was

having his children walk me down the aisle.
writing vows to especially include them.
buying them a special wedding present.
planning a child friendly honeymoon.
inviting DH’s ex girlfriend, their mum, to show the children we are a big family.

This all being said in front of the children didn’t help matters at all. A few weeks after the wedding (a very quick 15 people affair, no reception but of course the kids were there it goes without saying) the kids who were 8 & 11 at the time & exploded, said they didn’t want to see their dad any more & that they were angry with me because I didn’t do a speech about them, that mummy & nana said weddings were about the kids and we didn’t even get them a bouncy castle. I was flabbagastered, I asked them if mummy did a speech at her wedding a year earlier about their step siblings & it seemed to click for them that what we’d had wasn’t totally unique or out of the ordinary. They are generally really lovely kids.

around 3/4 of the wedding cards we received were written out to ‘bride & groom & SKs’ which seemed so bizarre to me, I’ve had plenty of friends marry after children but I’ve never thought to include the childrens name on the card or gift.

Wow, people are so weird!!

If it happens again, say

'Erm.. it's our honeymoon. I don't think the kind of activity we have in mind is appropriate for an 11 year old'.

Pretty sure that would shut them up 😁

Why would you take a child on honeymoon with you?

Those people are simply agitating the brown stuff. Ignore them and break their spoons.

I didn't take my own kids on honeymoon.

Ridiculous response

Honestly OP YANBU at all!
and this is coming from a former stepchild who always felt left behind etc
go have fun and enjoy your honeymoon and marriage x

You sound like you e got a great relationship with her. Enjoy your honeymoon and don’t feel a second’s guilt. It’s a perfectly reasonable thing to do.

And DSD is 11.

It’s not like she could be left to her own devices and you just meet up a few times a day at the pool or for mealtimes, or whatever.

Have a great honeymoon. FOR TWO!!!

Sorry but giving kids the impression that they should always have the best of everything, even if for an occasion that's not about them, is how you make spoiled, entitled kids.

DSD is 11, not 4. She's old enough to understand that a honeymoon isn't about kids.

It's ridiculous to suggest they should have a cheap honeymoon so they can splash the cash on a holiday for DSD. She's lucky she gets a holiday abroad every year. She's hardly going to be scarred for life by a week in Cornwall!

Taking a child on honeymoon is the weirdest idea ever

I can see that if you had kids with no one whatsoever who could look after them, you might have to, but otherwise - bizarre

Surely no one takes children on a honeymoon? My sister fobbed her kids off on me for hers. It was at the start of a new school year as well so I got to do all the obligatory social media back to school photos. I made them all pose by the front door with their uniforms and school bags all dramatic 😂

YANBU. I think it's batshit that anyone would think anyone other than the newly-wed couple would go on the honeymoon!

I was also that step-child and around the same age.

I did not go on DM and her new husband's honeymoon, not did I go on DF's honeymoon or any of the subsuquent ones

Why on earth would I want to go on my parents honeymoon?

Sounds like you are being a lovely stepmmum @poppy33xx please don't listen-people are going to have opinions about everything you do so let it slide off of your back.

Congratulations and best of luck!

Amen to that! ❤️