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... to think this woman is unbearable?

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BillieTheFish · 17/04/2024 15:44

https://www.express.co.uk/celebrity-news/1889037/Amanda-Holden-age-outfit-pictures-dress-Instagram

No I am not jealous as I don't want to look like her, want her job, her kids, house, brain or husband or even money. I'm also 20 years younger.

AIBU for thinking that she hasn't all that much of substance to offer so she relies on shocks, attention seeking stunts that she calls "cheeky"?

Some of you out there must love Mand, so let me know what you think and if you think I'm being a Mean Girl.

Amanda Holden pulls her zip down as star goes braless in jaw-dropping dress

Amanda Holden had fans demanding to know how she maintains such youthful looks, as she showcased her phenomenal physique in yet another sexy dress this morning.

https://www.express.co.uk/celebrity-news/1889037/Amanda-Holden-age-outfit-pictures-dress-Instagram

OP posts:
5128gap · 17/04/2024 16:48

Usernamen · 17/04/2024 16:35

Oh behave, she’s only 53.

Plenty of 50+ women on TV, this isn’t the 1970s. You talk like she’s 80.

I happen to like Holden - she’s fun, silly, entertaining, wears great clothes etc.

OP referenced her age. There was a similar thread recently about her dancing at her daughters party which was full of references to her behaviour and clothing choices and how 'sad' it was 'at her age'. You might think 'only 53' but there's plenty of people seem to feel it needs a mention.

5128gap · 17/04/2024 16:44

PollySolo · 17/04/2024 16:19

I appreciate your point in general, and have no strong feelings about Amanda Holden, but do you not think that AH, Carol Vorderman et al are in fact actually keeping firmly in the Older Celebrity Woman lane in terms of self-presentation? It would be far more out of lane these days to rock a grey perm, unshaven pits and a sensible Per Una outfit.

I think there's a difference between straying from the norm, as in what many women of their age now actually look and behave like, and straying from their lane, which is what people think they should by rights look and behave like. Women with grey perms wearing clothes associated with middle age do not get scrutinised and criticised for their appearance or accused of 'attention seeking', nor are they typically the subject of this sort of thread, unless they actually do and say things that are controversial. AH barely says a word of note, good or bad, yet here people are finding her 'unbearable' based on her self presentation.

Usernamen · 17/04/2024 16:35

5128gap · 17/04/2024 16:04

I think you're reacting in the way a lot of women do to an older woman who doesn't stay in the lane you expect her to. Countless women in the public eye behave in similar ways, yet the older ones tend to cause the most 'irritation'. I think Amanda, (and Madonna and Carol Vordeman et al) disgust you not because of what they do, but because they are older. Age frightens and repels you because you know its coming for you too, and it's easier for you to deal with that if older women help you by making themselves as invisible as possible. I'm no fan of Amanda, but if the woman were 33 rather than 53, i bet you'd barely notice her, never mind feel compelled to start a thread about how unbearable she is.

Oh behave, she’s only 53.

Plenty of 50+ women on TV, this isn’t the 1970s. You talk like she’s 80.

I happen to like Holden - she’s fun, silly, entertaining, wears great clothes etc.

IncognitoIsMyFavouriteWord · 17/04/2024 16:31

BillieTheFish · 17/04/2024 15:44

https://www.express.co.uk/celebrity-news/1889037/Amanda-Holden-age-outfit-pictures-dress-Instagram

No I am not jealous as I don't want to look like her, want her job, her kids, house, brain or husband or even money. I'm also 20 years younger.

AIBU for thinking that she hasn't all that much of substance to offer so she relies on shocks, attention seeking stunts that she calls "cheeky"?

Some of you out there must love Mand, so let me know what you think and if you think I'm being a Mean Girl.

I am with OP. Vacuous woman.

Thedogscollar · 17/04/2024 16:28

BillieTheFish · 17/04/2024 16:25

Read it again, and you might get the point of the post. I have not asked for anyone to agree with me, never mind "all".

Judgemental that's all I see.
You don't actually know her only what you see on TV and in newspapers.
Far more to be irritated by in life than AH.

BillieTheFish · 17/04/2024 16:25

Thedogscollar · 17/04/2024 16:24

Exactly what is the point of your post ?
If we all agreed with you would you feel happier? 🤔

Read it again, and you might get the point of the post. I have not asked for anyone to agree with me, never mind "all".

OP posts:
Thedogscollar · 17/04/2024 16:24

Exactly what is the point of your post ?
If we all agreed with you would you feel happier? 🤔

BillieTheFish · 17/04/2024 16:24

5128gap · 17/04/2024 16:04

I think you're reacting in the way a lot of women do to an older woman who doesn't stay in the lane you expect her to. Countless women in the public eye behave in similar ways, yet the older ones tend to cause the most 'irritation'. I think Amanda, (and Madonna and Carol Vordeman et al) disgust you not because of what they do, but because they are older. Age frightens and repels you because you know its coming for you too, and it's easier for you to deal with that if older women help you by making themselves as invisible as possible. I'm no fan of Amanda, but if the woman were 33 rather than 53, i bet you'd barely notice her, never mind feel compelled to start a thread about how unbearable she is.

That's not it, not really, there are plenty of women in their 50s and above who I respect for their attitude and their work. CV and AH are not in that list, though. They focus on how they look and shock tactics rather than anything of substance and I think that is sad.

The media is to blame for encouraging this attitude in people. It's all about being hot, sexy and so on rather than any real achievements.

I don't expect them to act like old fogeys or stay in any "lane". I think the same about the Love Islanders as I do about AH. It's not about their age. I mentioned the age so that nobody thought I was the same age as her but "jealous" because I didn't have lots of work done have her figure.

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BobbyBiscuits · 17/04/2024 16:23

I don't like her, she makes me cringe. The pics she does with her teen daughter. Gawd spare us.
Yes, you have the body of a 21 yo. And the surgery of a 70 yo. I remember reading her daily food diary and she said she had an egg sandwich and drinks. That was it. No wonder she's so thin. Sad, attention seeker. I loved Sharon Osbourne's recent rant about her!

HesterPrincess · 17/04/2024 16:23

I pity her, to be honest. No one with any level of self confidence would have had the amount of surgery that she has clearly had. I was quite shocked seeing her on Saturday night takeaway the last few weeks.

It must be shit getting older in the public eye.

pastypirate · 17/04/2024 16:22

I don't dislike her personally but I find her tireless pushing of the narrative that it's all about the male gave very dated. She is a bit 'but look at me I'm sexy'

PollySolo · 17/04/2024 16:19

5128gap · 17/04/2024 16:04

I think you're reacting in the way a lot of women do to an older woman who doesn't stay in the lane you expect her to. Countless women in the public eye behave in similar ways, yet the older ones tend to cause the most 'irritation'. I think Amanda, (and Madonna and Carol Vordeman et al) disgust you not because of what they do, but because they are older. Age frightens and repels you because you know its coming for you too, and it's easier for you to deal with that if older women help you by making themselves as invisible as possible. I'm no fan of Amanda, but if the woman were 33 rather than 53, i bet you'd barely notice her, never mind feel compelled to start a thread about how unbearable she is.

I appreciate your point in general, and have no strong feelings about Amanda Holden, but do you not think that AH, Carol Vorderman et al are in fact actually keeping firmly in the Older Celebrity Woman lane in terms of self-presentation? It would be far more out of lane these days to rock a grey perm, unshaven pits and a sensible Per Una outfit.

BillieTheFish · 17/04/2024 16:16

FriedGold · 17/04/2024 15:59

I was totally indifferent to Amanda Holden, but recently watched her in the programme with Alan Carr where they renovate a €1 home in Italy. They were really funny, down to earth and likeable on it. Give it a watch and see if it changes your opinion at all!

I wanted to watch that as I love Italy, I love Chatty Man and I like the concept, but she put me off it so I didn't. I'll have a look though :)

OP posts:
LindorDoubleChoc · 17/04/2024 16:13

NITS I think you'll find.

XFiler · 17/04/2024 16:06

yanbu, I won’t watch anything she’s in.

lazyarse123 · 17/04/2024 16:05

I'm with you op. Not much talent and a pure exhibitionist. She does have a good figure but how many times do we need to see it?

Popetthetreehugger · 17/04/2024 16:04

Totally agree re the Italian house renovation. She doesn’t affect my life one iota , I’m not onboard with running down another woman . Her life and choices are only her concern. Grow up OP

5128gap · 17/04/2024 16:04

I think you're reacting in the way a lot of women do to an older woman who doesn't stay in the lane you expect her to. Countless women in the public eye behave in similar ways, yet the older ones tend to cause the most 'irritation'. I think Amanda, (and Madonna and Carol Vordeman et al) disgust you not because of what they do, but because they are older. Age frightens and repels you because you know its coming for you too, and it's easier for you to deal with that if older women help you by making themselves as invisible as possible. I'm no fan of Amanda, but if the woman were 33 rather than 53, i bet you'd barely notice her, never mind feel compelled to start a thread about how unbearable she is.

Bluevelvetsofa · 17/04/2024 16:04

I think she’s an exhibitionist and I think she is way over the top, but I don’t watch anything she’s on, so can generally avoid her.

What annoys me is slebs who think they can post anti semitic or homophobic, or any other type of drivel and get away with it.

elevens24 · 17/04/2024 16:04

I quite like her and I think she has a fantastic life. She had of course had her ups and downs like everyone else. I think she looks fab!

KeinLiebeslied54321 · 17/04/2024 16:03

I can't stand the woman tbh, but I'm pretty sure she's not losing any sleep over it! I now just ignore anything she says or does.

BillytheMountain · 17/04/2024 16:02

Yes I agree OP she’s ultra boring but willing to expose herself quite literally and therefore given a platform to inflict her inane nothingness onto us as pp says to ‘keep her celebrity career going’.
We are the public and we are allowed to comment,

Oh and to all you ‘just scroll past’ why did you comment on this? If you normally ignore what do don’t like, why not in this instance? BS

FriedGold · 17/04/2024 15:59

I was totally indifferent to Amanda Holden, but recently watched her in the programme with Alan Carr where they renovate a €1 home in Italy. They were really funny, down to earth and likeable on it. Give it a watch and see if it changes your opinion at all!

InTheShallowTheShalalalalalalalow · 17/04/2024 15:56

There's loads of celebrities I can't stand, so I just scroll past any articles and pretend they don't exist.

I firmly recommend it, and it's very easy to do.

SirenSays · 17/04/2024 15:54

Vaguely recognise the name, but not her face. If she annoys you that badly, avoid her, it clearly can't be that hard.

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