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Do you believe in "signs"?

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Elisabeth3468 · 17/04/2024 13:10

Like signs from the universe...
we had a miscarriage in October and suffer with infertility and 2 days in a row now my OH has seen rainbows. One was an actual rainbow and another was a bridge with a huge rainbow painted on it that he come across on a walk (where he's never walked before) Both very bright rainbows.
I want to believe it's a sign of maybe our rainbow baby this month.
Obviously I have a very rational logical brain that says "don't be ridiculous, it's just a coincidence and it was raining and sunny yesterday so there's going to be rainbow".
I choose to believe it's a sign but we will see.

Does anyone else believe in signs and did they come "true"?

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cerisepanther73 · 16/05/2024 20:58

@Elisabeth3468

Yes i do too

I am pretty inuitive person

And dont see being inuitive as being woo woo either

It's essentially a Primeval protective instinct that has helped to protect us from predators since Sabre toothed tigers in stone age human times many many many eons years ago,

Reading signs from our envoriment our surroundings and people interactions can help us to keep safer...

CatsForLife · 16/05/2024 20:49

Yes, I believe in signs. Sometimes it’s nice to just not be logical. There’s a great book called Signposts about this and what the signs could mean.
https://amzn.eu/d/emnEkrb

https://amzn.eu/d/emnEkrb?tag=mumsnet&ascsubtag=mnforum-am-i-being-unreasonable-5052047-do-you-believe-in-signs

RickyGervaislovesdogs · 16/05/2024 20:45

Yes I believe.

Congratulations.

Alltheyearround · 16/05/2024 20:43

Not a believer but that doesn't make the world any less happy/sad, interesting and marvelous. If I see things like rainbows I just stop and enjoy them for what they are.

Congratulations! Hope you get many magical moments with your future DS/DD and get to point out to them and share with them the many wonders of the world, big and small. Finding joy wherever you are is the great secret to life.

PS Thinking back, I've always found looking for signs happened when I was in a crisis, or sad, not knowing what to do or what was going to happen. Looking outside myself for a tip from the universe. More when I was younger.

Now my signs tend to be there are no forks left in the drawer - it's a sign to get some washing up done 😉

Sugarcoatedalmonds · 16/05/2024 20:29

Big believer in signs!

Huge congratulations on your pregnancy ❤️

RosesAndHellebores · 16/05/2024 20:27

Yes.

Churchview · 16/05/2024 20:24

I believe we see things and attach meaning to them and that often, happily, that gives us comfort. After a bereavement everywhere I went I saw butterflies and several times they settled on me for a while. It was such a small but beautiful thing that has not happened to me in 60 years before or since. It gave me such comfort.

Wishing you happiness and lots of good signs OP.

MargaretThursday · 16/05/2024 19:54

I have a friend who very much believes in signs. She also lives down the road from me.

She was ecstatic to find white feathers all over her garden on the anniversary of a friend's death. She just knew it was her friend's way of telling her she was watching over her as an angel, by leaving her wing feathers.
I didn't have the heart to tell her that I'd found the remains of a dead pigeon left by a fox in my garden that morning. My garden was far more covered than hers.

Softycatchymonkeys · 16/05/2024 19:54

I’m a logical person. I have a physics degree for heavens sake.
But for the 6 months after my firstborn was stillborn I must have seen about ten rainbows. And then then I got pregnant with my now 2.5 yr old followed by my now 11 month old

The thing is, even if it just lifts us up momentarily, that’s not a bad thing is it

time2changeCharlieBrown · 16/05/2024 19:41

Aww congrats I believe in signs x

Elisabeth3468 · 16/05/2024 19:40

@MasterBeth hahaha this did make me laugh 😁

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SantaBarbaraMonica · 16/05/2024 19:36

No

MasterBeth · 16/05/2024 19:34

No, I don't believe in signs. It's bollocks.

I do believe in babies though and I delighted for you on your pregnancy

Elisabeth3468 · 16/05/2024 19:32

@KeepSmiling89 Thanks for sharing. It's so interesting the topic and I think there is more to it. I'm not a particularly spiritual or religious person either but I do think sometimes signs are there. Whether it's our mind that finds them or not they are still signs. I hope the white feathers bring you some comfort, I'm sorry to hear about your dad 💔xx

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choixduroi · 16/05/2024 12:46

I'm increasingly coming to the view that it is just as beautiful and wonderful if your own consciousness has generated the sign, as it would be if it came from a supernatural force. Woh deep stuff for a Thursday afternoon :):)

KeepSmiling89 · 16/05/2024 11:16

Elisabeth3468 · 16/05/2024 10:38

Just to update the thread. . I got my positive test a week or so after posting this. So maybe these were signs.

Just came across your post OP and so happy to read this update. Congratulations!
I'm a sceptical person by nature, but, more recently, I've been more open to signs from the universe. Every time I see a white feather, I like to think it's my dad (who passed away of cancer nearly 8 years ago) checking in on me and I'll find myself saying "Hi dad".
Based on your update, maybe the universe (or your unborn baby even) was sending a message to your OH - I think the fact that it wasn't you, but your OH seeing these things is significant as well.

As much as I am logical, I also see the value in having a faith in something that is beyond our control. Coincidences - are they signs from the universe? When we suddenly feel drawn to things/places/people but can't explain why. It's fascinating.

ticketproblems · 16/05/2024 11:06

This is so beautiful to read 😭😭 congrats OP

SherrieElmer · 16/05/2024 11:05

No. We are just atoms who happen to be together for a in infinitesimal small amount of time and then just void.

LookAtAllThoseRoses · 16/05/2024 11:03

No, it's just confirmation bias and wishful thinking. Rainbows are an ordinary, very frequent meteorological phenomenon, especially at rainy times of year, and especially since Covid, you see them painted commonly -- there's a mural of one on a school wall near here, and one in a children's window in a house down the street Delighted to hear you are pregnant, though, and best wishes for the rest of the pregnancy.

PrettyFlyforaMaiTai · 16/05/2024 11:00

I do believe in signs. Whether it’s the universe trying to tell you something or your subconscious making you more sensitive to your surroundings, there’s definitely something to it. The world works in beautiful and mysterious ways.

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raspberryberet7 · 16/05/2024 10:57

choixduroi · 16/05/2024 10:47

I believe that your subconscious alerts you to phenomena like rainbow or whatever when something is on your mind, so that 'signs' can be like little messages from your subconsious which are telling you something. So it's not something supernatural but it might be e.g. your body already knows you are pregnant and makes you notice the rainbow more.. Whenever I have a strong emotion, I keep noticing little things around me which I would not otherwise notice..

This is what I meant but is worded much better!!

Just ready your update congratulations on your pregnancy hope it goes well xx

raspberryberet7 · 16/05/2024 10:56

Yes I do believe in signs. I am a very logical person but I do believe if you see something and you think it's a sign then it is! Good look I hope you're pregnant xx

Whisperingsummerishere · 16/05/2024 10:55

Congratulations op...
When my mate was murdered some years ago the next morning 4 white doves appeared on his front lawn. I hoped it was a sign he was at peace and we would be in time...
The world is a strange place..
Glad some goodness is coming to your life!

choixduroi · 16/05/2024 10:54

@Elisabeth3468 congrats on your rainbow baby in any case, that's the main thing! I had 2 MC between my two DC, one at 3 months and sympathise very much.. Happy for you!