Occasionally my partner brings up a fling I had 30 years ago before he & I started going out together a few months later. He knew the other person involved & won't let me forget it ( we all worked in the same large company).
He brought it up again five days ago & I am so angry! I would have forgotten about it years ago if he didn't keep reminding me!!
I keep telling him IT'S NONE OF HIS BUSINESS, we were NOT even together then!
I haven't spoken to him since (not difficult as we have always had separate houses) & I still don't feel ready to speak to him, but this is where I have a dilemma (and the reason for this post)
In five days time he is due to go into hospital for a knee operation that he's waited three years for. He will be relying on me to get him there & well, just be there for him.
I won't see him stuck but I just feel its going to be strained between us (& I'm not ready to forgive him as its felt like a hangman's noose over my head for 30 years!)
What can I do, I will need to be there for him but my head is all over the place? 🤦♀️
YABU - He's going for an operation & doesn't need an atmosphere between you both?
YANBU - He's messed with your head & so can't expect you to just forget it?