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To think my friend shouldn't have eaten my burger?

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knowledgeablyclueless · 17/04/2024 11:26

Out for dinner a couple of nights ago.

Me and DP, friend and her BF, and another friend.

All paying for our own food.

I ordered a burger but didn't finish it all, so offered it to DP. He said Yes please, but let me finish mine first.

Immediately after that, friend said 'Oh could I try a bite first?' - she ate about half of what was left, then proceeded to offer it to her DP, and when he said no, our friend.

AIBU to think this was fucking weird? Me and DP were both a bit like, Erm, wtf to say something at the time!

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Hobbesmanc · 17/04/2024 11:55

I think I'd have probably offered it to the table if there was lots left although I can't imagine how big this burger was. Were they special burgers? Unusual,fillings etc? I couldn't be bothered to waste energy over the sharing of leftovers.

YourSnugHazelTraybake · 17/04/2024 11:54

IncompleteSenten · 17/04/2024 11:53

Yabu OP.

When you offered your spaghetti to your daughter and she said no thanks, it would only have gone to waste if your father hadn't said he'd have it.

It was kind of your father to then offer the rest of it to the stranger dressed in the clown suit sitting at the next table and I'm not sure why you're even mentioning the horse you had tied up at the bar, it doesn't seem to have anything to do with anything.

😂😂

IncompleteSenten · 17/04/2024 11:53

Yabu OP.

When you offered your spaghetti to your daughter and she said no thanks, it would only have gone to waste if your father hadn't said he'd have it.

It was kind of your father to then offer the rest of it to the stranger dressed in the clown suit sitting at the next table and I'm not sure why you're even mentioning the horse you had tied up at the bar, it doesn't seem to have anything to do with anything.

C1N1C · 17/04/2024 11:53

I find it weird how much of this burger was actually available!

A Macdonald's burger I could probably finish in 5-6 bites, and a larger one maybe 10-15.

Say you had half, then friend had a quarter... is it really worth handing over a 'guy mouthful' to her DP?

I might suggest just a side next time if you don't want to waste food or make others feel like you need help.

femfemlicious · 17/04/2024 11:52

knowledgeablyclueless · 17/04/2024 11:34

No, she offered it to HER OH, who said no, and then when her OH said no, she offered it to our friend. Before she asked to try a bite, MY DP had already said Yes please.

Why didn't you say something?. How's everyone eating the same burger. I'm no clean freak but I wouldn't want a burger several people have held with their hands and bitten into. Unless they were eating it with a knife and fork?

badger2005 · 17/04/2024 11:51

I don't think I've ever not been able to manage a whole (veggie) burger...
<misses point of thread>

Arlanymor · 17/04/2024 11:51

Yes it is a bit odd, but also odder still not to respond with: “Well DP has already said he will have it - do you two want to share?” And then take it from there.

Unless she plucked it from the plate without waiting for an answer - did she? Sounds like she might have done, in which case fairly cheeky, unless she misheard your DP.

Either way, one to sort out at the table rather than brood over later I think.

TheWayOfTheWorld · 17/04/2024 11:49

I despair of the lack of reading comprehension on here sometimes Hmm

easylikeasundaymorn · 17/04/2024 11:47

Dear God why can't people read!

You made it perfectly obvious who she offered it to in your post OP -i.e everyone else on the table APART from your DH

I agree its weird. Most people would be happy to finish off something that their own spouse had partially eaten, but wouldn't be up for being the last mouth on a burger that had potentially been nibbled by four other people beforehand! (If there was even anything left had all the others tried a bit!)

Akamai · 17/04/2024 11:47

It’s really odd of her to do that. You offered the burger to your husband, not her. Why would your DH want to eat a burger that has her and her husband’s greasy lips on it?!

We would do this with my sisters and nieces in my family but we love each other and don’t mind each other's leftovers.

DrJoanAllenby · 17/04/2024 11:45

Gross. Pig as at a trough.

CustardySergeant · 17/04/2024 11:44

It clearly says in the penultimate paragraph of the first post

"she ate about half of what was left, then proceeded to offer it to her DP, and when he said no, our friend."

so I don't know why so many posters are saying that she offered it to the OP's DH. She didn't. Only to her own partner and then their friend.

memyselfi · 17/04/2024 11:42

Weird and actually gross . Who wants a burger that someone else's mouth has touched ?
It was your DP's , he said yes . Her asking for it , basically slabbering over it and trying to give to to someone else , pure boke !
Not surprised your DP passed on it .

Therealjudgejudy · 17/04/2024 11:41

Your friend is weird...

YeahComeOnThen · 17/04/2024 11:41

I wouldn't mind her trying it, but as your DP had said yes to having it, it was rude of her then to offer it to her DP & the other friend.

was your DP still hungry, could he not afford to order any more food? Unless that was the case I wouldn't be too bothered, but it was rude, yes.

Preachingtotheconverted · 17/04/2024 11:39

Floralnomad · 17/04/2024 11:32

When she said ‘can I have a bite’ you should have said no , at the end of the day the burger was going spare what does it matter who ate it .

I ordered a burger but didn't finish it all, so offered it to DP. He said Yes please, but let me finish mine first.

It wasn't "going spare" 🤔

burnttoad · 17/04/2024 11:39

FranticHare · 17/04/2024 11:33

You didn't want it, she ate a couple of bites, offered back to your OH who said no. Why shouldn't she finish it? Better than binning it surely, and her finding something else to eat (assuming she was hungry)?

I mean it would be nicer if she had cut off a piece to try - but that doesn't seem what you were worried about?

Why would it be binned? OP offered it to her DP who said yes. It wasn't being binned. Fuck people are weird on MN. It wasn't going spare anymore. It was now OPs DPs

Beatrixslobber · 17/04/2024 11:39

Why don’t people talk to their friends? I would have laughed and said sorry Dh wants it, ask him or something.

statetrooperstacey · 17/04/2024 11:38

It r sounds like she didn’t fully hear or comprehend the arrangement between you and your DH tbh rather than anything else , also how big was this burger?!!!

burnttoad · 17/04/2024 11:36

trippily · 17/04/2024 11:31

Why was it weird? You didn't want it!

Because she'd already offered it to her DP and he had said yes duh

Original poster
knowledgeablyclueless · 17/04/2024 11:36

Fiddlerdragon · 17/04/2024 11:35

But you didn’t want it? She presumably thought it was up for grabs, ate a bit and then offered it to your dp? If it was a problem why didn’t you say no? I couldn’t fall out with a friend for having a couple bites of your leftovers ffs

She offered it to her DP, not mine.

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Fiddlerdragon · 17/04/2024 11:35

But you didn’t want it? She presumably thought it was up for grabs, ate a bit and then offered it to your dp? If it was a problem why didn’t you say no? I couldn’t fall out with a friend for having a couple bites of your leftovers ffs

Original poster
knowledgeablyclueless · 17/04/2024 11:35

FranticHare · 17/04/2024 11:33

You didn't want it, she ate a couple of bites, offered back to your OH who said no. Why shouldn't she finish it? Better than binning it surely, and her finding something else to eat (assuming she was hungry)?

I mean it would be nicer if she had cut off a piece to try - but that doesn't seem what you were worried about?

That's not what happened - it was her OH she offered it to.

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billyt · 17/04/2024 11:35

Yep, weird. Wasn't hers to eat or offer cheeky bitch.

iamwhatiam23 · 17/04/2024 11:34

Its weird, rude and greedy, especially her offering it to her dp and df!! I would have been annoyed!