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To think my friend shouldn't have eaten my burger?

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knowledgeablyclueless · 17/04/2024 11:26

Out for dinner a couple of nights ago.

Me and DP, friend and her BF, and another friend.

All paying for our own food.

I ordered a burger but didn't finish it all, so offered it to DP. He said Yes please, but let me finish mine first.

Immediately after that, friend said 'Oh could I try a bite first?' - she ate about half of what was left, then proceeded to offer it to her DP, and when he said no, our friend.

AIBU to think this was fucking weird? Me and DP were both a bit like, Erm, wtf to say something at the time!

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HeadDeskHeadDesk · 17/04/2024 17:22

trippily · 17/04/2024 11:32

Sometimes I feel like people on mumsnet do not really like their friends? It must be lonely.

😂 i think you make a very good point.

Iwasafool · 17/04/2024 17:21

I'm stuck on the idea of eating someone else's half eaten left over burger. I might pinch a chip of the plate but something someone else has been biting? No thanks.

GameOfJones · 17/04/2024 17:19

I am assuming she didn't hear you offer it to your DP?

DH and I would share food like that. We have shared worse 🤣 plus if we have paid for it so I think that bit is fine.

Why your friend would want a bite and then offer it around thinking other people would also want a bite is a bit weird. But I think you should just have said "sorry, DP already has dibs on it."

viques · 17/04/2024 17:12

statetrooperstacey · 17/04/2024 11:38

It r sounds like she didn’t fully hear or comprehend the arrangement between you and your DH tbh rather than anything else , also how big was this burger?!!!

I think it was the burger equivalent of the legendary MN chicken that feeds as many as needed!

Calliopespa · 17/04/2024 17:10

statetrooperstacey · 17/04/2024 11:38

It r sounds like she didn’t fully hear or comprehend the arrangement between you and your DH tbh rather than anything else , also how big was this burger?!!!

Yeah it sounds like Jesus miraculously feeding the 5,000 with the five loaves and a few fish.

I think she must have not heard OP or thought when your DP said not yet that he said no, I’m eating mine. I can’t think of any logical reason she would offer it to the friend ahead of your DP unless she thought that.

How was saliva was on this burger by this stage anyway ?

qotsa · 17/04/2024 17:06

This thread makes my head hurt. It's not hard to understand. Yes it's weird and really rude actually. I would've called it out at the time.

diamondpony80 · 17/04/2024 17:01

If I'd already offered it to my DP (and it was accepted) then it was rude of her to ask for it. I wouldn't expect him to want it after it had been passed around.

Buffypaws · 17/04/2024 16:53

Yes, yes this was weird.

Baconking · 17/04/2024 16:47

Ledci · 17/04/2024 14:31

I'm probably missing the point here but who wants to eat a burger that other people have taken bites from 🤢

This!

The thought of it is making me feel sick. I never eat anything someone else has had their mouth on, not even my DH or kids

GinandGingerBeer · 17/04/2024 16:40

FTLOG this thread is insane.
Taking a few leftover chips for example = fair enough but getting your hands and mouth round a burger before the op's DH finishes it off is disgusting. 🤮

Fookintired · 17/04/2024 16:36

I can be a bit of a minger at times, five second rule for dropped food, eating something my kid has left on their plate. This however, is gross even by my very low standards 🤣.

susiedaisy1912 · 17/04/2024 16:35

Can't get past other people wanting to bite into a burger that someone else has already been handling and eating. Surely she wasn't that bloody hungry. Grim

godmum56 · 17/04/2024 16:32

memyselfi · 17/04/2024 11:42

Weird and actually gross . Who wants a burger that someone else's mouth has touched ?
It was your DP's , he said yes . Her asking for it , basically slabbering over it and trying to give to to someone else , pure boke !
Not surprised your DP passed on it .

this

Hoppinggreen · 17/04/2024 16:27

knowledgeablyclueless · 17/04/2024 14:27

Yes because she said "Can I try some FIRST?"

I thought she would take one bite and hand it back, not then pass it round the table like a hot potato!

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And you/your DH would have been happy to eat if after she had taken a bite out of it?
Grim

RazzberryGem · 17/04/2024 16:26

... how big was this bloody burger ...?

LuckySantangelo35 · 17/04/2024 16:23

Why the fuck are none of you bothered about germs?!

PoppyCherryDog · 17/04/2024 16:14

I don’t really see the issue. You didn’t want it, your partner still had some of his burger left.

FrangipaniBlue · 17/04/2024 15:51

Passing a burger round that everyone had had their hands and gob on is very very weird.

But do you know what's even weirder? Some of the bonkers replies on this thread.

ShakeNvacStevens · 17/04/2024 15:49

IncompleteSenten · 17/04/2024 11:53

Yabu OP.

When you offered your spaghetti to your daughter and she said no thanks, it would only have gone to waste if your father hadn't said he'd have it.

It was kind of your father to then offer the rest of it to the stranger dressed in the clown suit sitting at the next table and I'm not sure why you're even mentioning the horse you had tied up at the bar, it doesn't seem to have anything to do with anything.

Can't you read? The spaghetti packet said on the front of it that it contained alcohol, the horse could have been poisoned!

coxesorangepippin · 17/04/2024 15:48

It's a bit yuck let's face it

As if your dh would munch that after two other people have had their mouths around it!

mrsm43s · 17/04/2024 15:47

I think it's odd that anyone would want to eat someone else's half eaten burger tbh.

But ultimately, you didn't want it so someone ate it. I really couldn't get het up over who finished off a half munched burger.

Your OH presumably didn't go hungry, since he had his own burger to eat, so the whole thing is weird, but of no real importance.

PollySolo · 17/04/2024 15:45

This is one of those situations for which ‘USE YOUR WORDS’ was invented.

ForestForever · 17/04/2024 15:40

HotChocolateNotCocoa · 17/04/2024 15:20

Well said, @ForestForever. There’s a friendship issue thread running at the moment where almost everyone agrees that the OP’s friend is a total arse - yet STILL someone has popped up with the “Oh, so you don’t actually like each other” guff.

I’m honestly tired of seeing it, it makes me eye roll every time I see it because it’s so petty and ridiculous. Just have some originality for the love of God. 🤦🏻‍♀️ It’s like the over use of the term “Karen” by every half wit who can’t think of anything else to say, just don’t say anything at all then. 🙄

greyandbluewool · 17/04/2024 15:38

Well I would never eat food from anyone other than my husband or possibly my teens.
I would think her odd to ask to be honest, seeing as she presumably knew your husband wanted it. The only way I wouldn't think her odd was if she mistook husband's reply as a no.

Flocke · 17/04/2024 15:34

OhSighAgain · 17/04/2024 15:02

So you and your DH paid for a meal each. You didn't want all your meal. Your DH presumably had a full meal.

I can't imagine being so mean spirited as to only offer my unwanted food to my DH and not my friends who I was enjoying a meal with just because DH and I had paid for it.

I would just say something like 'I can't finish this, you lot feel free to take what you like from my plate."

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I don't think most of my friends would eat a burger that I'd been biting into. And I wouldn't want one from them. Chips, Yes. Similar things that don't require your mouth all over it yes I'd probably offer around. But a burger? Only my partner would I offer that to.

I'd also assume her friends had had a full meal not just her partner. So it wasn't like they were sitting there starving and she offered it to the only other person who had food!