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To think my friend shouldn't have eaten my burger?

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knowledgeablyclueless · 17/04/2024 11:26

Out for dinner a couple of nights ago.

Me and DP, friend and her BF, and another friend.

All paying for our own food.

I ordered a burger but didn't finish it all, so offered it to DP. He said Yes please, but let me finish mine first.

Immediately after that, friend said 'Oh could I try a bite first?' - she ate about half of what was left, then proceeded to offer it to her DP, and when he said no, our friend.

AIBU to think this was fucking weird? Me and DP were both a bit like, Erm, wtf to say something at the time!

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Ohlookwhoitis · 17/04/2024 18:06

OhSighAgain · 17/04/2024 17:52

Well you've clearly led a very sheltered life if you think that's a kicking.

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Are you new here? That's a well known Mumsnet phrase for when people make up scenarios (like you did), just to give the OP a 'kicking'.

HotChocolateNotCocoa · 17/04/2024 18:06

PollySolo · 17/04/2024 17:53

In fairness, unless the OP regularly attends orgies, she’s probably unlikely to be swapping saliva with three or four people in the space of an evening, like this burger.

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Depending on the quality of the guests, the burger might be a better bet than the orgy…

butterpuffed · 17/04/2024 18:02

Have you never kissed anyone? How is it any different to that?

Personally , I never kiss anyone if they're not eating a burger

PollySolo · 17/04/2024 18:02

Kangarude · 17/04/2024 17:54

This is the funniest thread I’ve read in ages. I literally have tears running down my face. I don’t know if it’s the ridiculousness of the original post or the fact that other posters are falling out with each other! Love it
It must have been a massive burger. Why didn’t you just say DP’s having it when your friend picked it up?

It was a close relative of the Mn chicken.

StedeBonnet · 17/04/2024 17:58

It's a mostly eaten leftover bit of burger. Who cares who eats it. The things people choose to get worked up about amaze me sometimes.

Kangarude · 17/04/2024 17:54

This is the funniest thread I’ve read in ages. I literally have tears running down my face. I don’t know if it’s the ridiculousness of the original post or the fact that other posters are falling out with each other! Love it
It must have been a massive burger. Why didn’t you just say DP’s having it when your friend picked it up?

PollySolo · 17/04/2024 17:53

HotChocolateNotCocoa · 17/04/2024 17:47

Have you never kissed anyone? How is it any different to that?

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In fairness, unless the OP regularly attends orgies, she’s probably unlikely to be swapping saliva with three or four people in the space of an evening, like this burger.

OhSighAgain · 17/04/2024 17:52

Ohlookwhoitis · 17/04/2024 17:50

It absolutely is reaching, the worst I've ever seen on a thread and I've been here for a hundred years 😂

I can't imagine being so mean spirited as to only offer my unwanted food to my DH and not my friends

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Well you've clearly led a very sheltered life if you think that's a kicking.

Ohlookwhoitis · 17/04/2024 17:50

OhSighAgain · 17/04/2024 17:45

For fuck's sake not trying to kick the OP just giving my opinion.

Get a life yourself. 🙄

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It absolutely is reaching, the worst I've ever seen on a thread and I've been here for a hundred years 😂

I can't imagine being so mean spirited as to only offer my unwanted food to my DH and not my friends

HotChocolateNotCocoa · 17/04/2024 17:47

LuckySantangelo35 · 17/04/2024 16:23

Why the fuck are none of you bothered about germs?!

Have you never kissed anyone? How is it any different to that?

justanotherrandomperson · 17/04/2024 17:47

It's weird. Weird enough that I'd not worry about being overly polite if by some strange turn of events something like this were to happen again. Tell her the burger is already spoken for, sorry!

OhSighAgain · 17/04/2024 17:45

Ohlookwhoitis · 17/04/2024 17:41

This is the most reaching post ever to try and kick an OP. 😂

Get a life.

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For fuck's sake not trying to kick the OP just giving my opinion.

Get a life yourself. 🙄

Ohlookwhoitis · 17/04/2024 17:45

Hoppinggreen · 17/04/2024 16:27

And you/your DH would have been happy to eat if after she had taken a bite out of it?
Grim

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FFS what is wrong with people? Of course the OP isn't happy about it HENCE THE EFFING THREAD ABOUT IT!

HeadDeskHeadDesk · 17/04/2024 17:44

Boomer55 · 17/04/2024 17:42

Not weird. You didn’t want it. End of.🙄

But she offered it to her husband who said he did want it.

Boomer55 · 17/04/2024 17:42

Not weird. You didn’t want it. End of.🙄

fluffi · 17/04/2024 17:41

Sharing is ok if you were all using knives and forks, which I first assumed. But if you were picking them up and taking direct bites that’s a bit gross!

Also where is this amazing place that sells massive burgers?

Ohlookwhoitis · 17/04/2024 17:41

OhSighAgain · 17/04/2024 15:02

So you and your DH paid for a meal each. You didn't want all your meal. Your DH presumably had a full meal.

I can't imagine being so mean spirited as to only offer my unwanted food to my DH and not my friends who I was enjoying a meal with just because DH and I had paid for it.

I would just say something like 'I can't finish this, you lot feel free to take what you like from my plate."

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This is the most reaching post ever to try and kick an OP. 😂

Get a life.

Halloweenrainbow · 17/04/2024 17:41

Why did she want everyone to 'try' your discarded burger? Was it something unusual that she thought you just didn't like but that others would?

sandyhappypeople · 17/04/2024 17:41

Who agreed she could have a bite, you or your DH? If it was you, as your DH I'd personally find that really gross and I would not want to eat the remnants of a burger that one of our friends had had their mouth round and would tell her to keep it!!

Either way in any normal situation where you wanted your friend to try it, you'd have cut a bit off and given the rest to your DH.. or your DH could have cut a bit off for her.

It was rude of her though.

Ohlookwhoitis · 17/04/2024 17:39

ForestForever · 17/04/2024 15:15

I honestly don’t understand this mentality that if you don’t agree with everything a loved one says and does that “you obviously don’t even like them/ you don’t like them much do you”. Such an odd stance that I don’t believe many people would hold in real life if they’ve got at least half a brain cell. It’s just a nonsense line that gets trotted out on here because people would rather have a really unoriginal dig at the OP because they don’t have the ability to think of anything constructive to say. Either that, or people are just obsessed with making other people feel small because their lives are lacking. In reality, life doesn’t work anywhere close to like this. Rant over.

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I would guess that these are the people who are nightmares in real life to deal with. If you don't agree with them they become a victim. Hence the if you don't agree with me then you mustn't like me nonsense.

Janetime · 17/04/2024 17:36

Is it just me that’s cringing like hell over this. All this over some left over burger. How desperately did your husband want it that you need to start a thread about it amd are clearly upset your partner didn’t get a bit of left over burger.

all sharing it out too. 🤯

pimplebum · 17/04/2024 17:33

Slobbering hell !

Justleaveitblankthen · 17/04/2024 17:32

Yuck! All those lips, tongues, gums and teeth sharing the same piece of food 🤢

pimplebum · 17/04/2024 17:32

All that finger mouth sharing is a bit yucky

I'm assuming she didn't hear that your oh had first dibs ?

Not something I'd get in froth about tbh

butterpuffed · 17/04/2024 17:26

IncompleteSenten · 17/04/2024 11:53

Yabu OP.

When you offered your spaghetti to your daughter and she said no thanks, it would only have gone to waste if your father hadn't said he'd have it.

It was kind of your father to then offer the rest of it to the stranger dressed in the clown suit sitting at the next table and I'm not sure why you're even mentioning the horse you had tied up at the bar, it doesn't seem to have anything to do with anything.

That made me laugh out loud ! I only read a couple of pages and couldn't believe how so many MNers get so many things wrong .

No doubt OP is just grateful she didn't offer a passing customer some of her dessert .