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To think my friend shouldn't have eaten my burger?

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knowledgeablyclueless · 17/04/2024 11:26

Out for dinner a couple of nights ago.

Me and DP, friend and her BF, and another friend.

All paying for our own food.

I ordered a burger but didn't finish it all, so offered it to DP. He said Yes please, but let me finish mine first.

Immediately after that, friend said 'Oh could I try a bite first?' - she ate about half of what was left, then proceeded to offer it to her DP, and when he said no, our friend.

AIBU to think this was fucking weird? Me and DP were both a bit like, Erm, wtf to say something at the time!

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StedeBonnet · 17/04/2024 18:42

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StedeBonnet · 17/04/2024 18:41

Do you normally have a sandwich snatched from your plate and bites taken from it by several people when you had already offered it to someone else who accepted it......Jesus some people must have odd eating habits

It wasn't snatched off her plate, her friend asked if she could have some and she said yes. I mean I my friend literally snatched food off my plate and ate some and offered it round I'd think it was a bit weird (but wouldn't get worked up about it.) But this didn't happen!

Xmasbaby11 · 17/04/2024 18:35

I mean yes it's rude, but I'm not sure it's worth getting upset about. Next time don't offer it round /agree to let her have some - or cut a bit off for her.

SnowyPetals · 17/04/2024 18:34

Meh, nobody needs more than one burger. I'd have probably just asked if anyone wanted it rather than offering to anyone specific.

sandyhappypeople · 17/04/2024 18:31

HotChocolateNotCocoa · 17/04/2024 18:24

Because you don't normally go around snogging your friends?

No, but unless you’ve lived a very sheltered life, you’ve probably had the odd late night game of tonsil tennis before you got married.

If you're determined to make this into a kissing analogy then the equivalent of this is if OP's DH leant over and snogged their friend...

There's something about blatantly sharing DNA outside of your relationship/family that is pretty grim, to me anyway.

StampOnTheGround · 17/04/2024 18:31

No problem at all, we have a friend who often doesn't finish her food and anyone just grabs it 😂

PrincessOfPreschool · 17/04/2024 18:30

YABU not to have eaten the burger.

LordSnot · 17/04/2024 18:30

This story is weird on so many levels. Are you all seagulls?

Bournetilly · 17/04/2024 18:29

Maybe she thought your DP said no which is why she offered it to everyone else apart from your DP. If that’s the case then I think it’s fine. If not then it was really weird.

Moonshine5 · 17/04/2024 18:28

I've never heard anyone be controlling over a burger 😂

jannier · 17/04/2024 18:28

Blondeshavemorefun · 17/04/2024 12:47

How big was this burger

You ate half.

Dp Was going to have it after his

Friend ate half of a half so
A quarter

And then offered to her dp and friend

Why didn't your dh say hands off that's mine

Not sure I'd want it after someone else had even picked it up do you eat food other people put their dirty hands on?

jannier · 17/04/2024 18:26

trippily · 17/04/2024 11:32

Sometimes I feel like people on mumsnet do not really like their friends? It must be lonely.

Do you normally have a sandwich snatched from your plate and bites taken from it by several people when you had already offered it to someone else who accepted it......Jesus some people must have odd eating habits

sandyhappypeople · 17/04/2024 18:26

Ohlookwhoitis · 17/04/2024 18:19

Where did the OP say her DH was happy to eat it after the friend munched on it?

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She described it in the OP and then later on confirmed it:

Yes because she said "Can I try some FIRST?"

I thought she would take one bite and hand it back, not then pass it round the table like a hot potato

the bit they are annoyed about is the fact she didn't give it back for her DH to finish.

HotChocolateNotCocoa · 17/04/2024 18:24

Because you don't normally go around snogging your friends?

No, but unless you’ve lived a very sheltered life, you’ve probably had the odd late night game of tonsil tennis before you got married.

DrusillaPaddock · 17/04/2024 18:23

Yeah it's weird and rude. Your husband had already said he'd have it. I'd assume she had worms or FOMO or both 😆

sandyhappypeople · 17/04/2024 18:22

HotChocolateNotCocoa · 17/04/2024 17:47

Have you never kissed anyone? How is it any different to that?

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Because you don't normally go around snogging your friends? I'd share food with my DH or children but I wouldn't want a friends leftover burger when they had held it in their hands and made full mouth contact with it!

Ohlookwhoitis · 17/04/2024 18:19

sandyhappypeople · 17/04/2024 18:16

jeez calm down! OP/OPs DH happily gave it the friend to have a bite of.. the bit they are not happy about is that she didn't give it back for him to finish.

People are rightly grossed out by the fact that OPs DH would let their friend put their hands on it and 'have a bite of it' before receiving it back to eat the remainder of it, I think it's grim.. and so do a few others on here by the looks of it!

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Where did the OP say her DH was happy to eat it after the friend munched on it?

jannier · 17/04/2024 18:18

CutthroatDruTheViolent · 17/04/2024 11:28

I don't think it's weird.

Seriously....op offered her partner food....he wanted it....friend grabbed it ate half and then handed it to someone else....I don't want to eat at yours

sandyhappypeople · 17/04/2024 18:16

Ohlookwhoitis · 17/04/2024 17:45

FFS what is wrong with people? Of course the OP isn't happy about it HENCE THE EFFING THREAD ABOUT IT!

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jeez calm down! OP/OPs DH happily gave it the friend to have a bite of.. the bit they are not happy about is that she didn't give it back for him to finish.

People are rightly grossed out by the fact that OPs DH would let their friend put their hands on it and 'have a bite of it' before receiving it back to eat the remainder of it, I think it's grim.. and so do a few others on here by the looks of it!

Cowhen · 17/04/2024 18:14

OhSighAgain · 17/04/2024 13:29

I think it's a bit rude that you only offered the burger to your husband and not the rest of the table.

I wouldn't have done what your friend did but maybe she was trying to make a point about your rudeness.

Huh???

louderthan · 17/04/2024 18:13

It was a close relative of the MN chicken....

Not to mention the massive salad.

TextureSeeker · 17/04/2024 18:12

StedeBonnet · 17/04/2024 17:58

It's a mostly eaten leftover bit of burger. Who cares who eats it. The things people choose to get worked up about amaze me sometimes.

Exactly. All that fuss over someone's sloppy seconds.

louderthan · 17/04/2024 18:10

I couldn't deal with all that pawing of food and offering it to other people to eat. It all sounds a bit grim.
(Disclaimer: I have some quite complex issues around germs/contamination)

Moonlightdust · 17/04/2024 18:09

I find it weird that people don’t find it weird asking friends to have a bite of their half eaten meal. Yuck 🤢

ForestForever · 17/04/2024 18:07

Ohlookwhoitis · 17/04/2024 17:39

I would guess that these are the people who are nightmares in real life to deal with. If you don't agree with them they become a victim. Hence the if you don't agree with me then you mustn't like me nonsense.

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I think you’re most probably correct in your assumptions. What a way to live.