To do my own birthday?

I can't see an issue with it. If you were stomping your feet or sulking because your DH wouldn't hang a banner very childish and not ok. Hanging a banner for your birthday because it makes you happy why not. Life throws enough shit at most of us, so we shouldn't miss the opportunities to do the little things that make us happy. Happy birthday.

Happy birthday! Hope you've got your banners up and made it really special!

You deserve it 🩷

Do it nothing wrong in celebrating yourself you're worth it! I used to go all out for my ex and when the kids were little we would make a paper happy birthday banner and colour it in,make and decorate a birthday cake and then after my shift at work I would blow up balloons hang the banner up and get the the living room ready with his presents ready for morning. He always had the day off because he wanted to celebrate. While he always helped with the kids birthdays, he did absolutely zilch for mine.

Do whatever makes you happy

Generally speaking adults don't have banners and balloons on their birthdays. You do sound a bit childish needy.

Do what you want to have the day you want!

Everyone in our house gets the birthday bunting which involves someone walking about on the island in the kitchen threading it through the handles of the velux window, it feels even more special because you know someone has risked their life for you to have birthday bunting 😂 that and a homemade cake.
Banners not so much because I won’t want anything stuck on the walls but for milestone birthdays we get extra decorations. And the same applies to adults. It’s nothing dramatically over the top, but just nice gestures.

aibu to do it myself

The biggest advantage of being an adult , and having inevitable death and taxes, for me is that you get to do things exactly the way you want them.

Do whatever you want for yourself.

Just don't build up any expectations that anyone else will want to do this for you and that that says anything about their feelings for you or your value as a human being.

My dc have always had banners and balloons for their birthdays and now I get them for mine! I’m not actually too bothered about decorations but they think that because I do them for them that it’s what I want and I do love the fact that they make the effort for me. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a fuss on your birthday, get your banners and enjoy!

Happy birthday OP 🎁🥳🎈🥂🎂

I made bunting and we reuse it year on year

Happy birthday!!!!! 🎂

The banners thing is strange, Apart from special birthday eg 40, 50 I can't see why you want a banner. But your birthday you do what makes you happy and if a banner, balloons etc helps do it! Happy birthday 🎈 🎈 🎈 🎈

If you can’t be a brat on your birthday when can you be! Get the banners if they will bring you joy! (And treat yourself to a ballon whilst you are at it!)

Make the fuss for yourself but also stop making the fuss for your DH. Just match his effort for his birthday, don’t go above and beyond.

And yes, your dc should grow learning to appreciate you on your birthday too.

It's been a long winter. If banners & balloons will cheer you up, they will probably add as much for your dcs and maybe even your dh. If you have time, why not. Do it.

Enjoy. 🙂

Do what works for you.

Seeing as you asked, I'm not sure you're quite a brat yet, but it does also seem OTT to have banners etc.

Happy Birthday OP! 🎈hope you have a fun day X

Do what brings you joy and never mind the naysayers. If we all lived and enjoyed the same things (or nothing) then the world would be a very dull place. Instead, it is quite a sad and scary place so if these small things bring happinness then do it!

Even our cat gets banners put up for his birthday so bar humbug to all you non birthday banner people. 🥳
Yes I would do it myself with the kids. X

do it if you want it. But I would cringe at another adult wanting balloons. And they’re terrible environmentally

I guess if you want to put up banners and balloons on your birthday, and you can afford them without having to forgo any essentials, then go for it! Live the life you want!

I know quite a few adults who have loved ones who decorate and make a fuss if their household members on their bdays.

I don't think you sound like a child at all and there's nothing wrong with enjoying those things.

My closest friend is quite gothic in style and we decorate the house like Halloween for her bday, I go and help her daughter and her mother do it, her dh used to do it but they've split up now, it makes my friend feel very loved and very happy in a way that token cards and gifts don't. She appreciates the cards she gets but it's the decorations that make her feel special because it shows people listen to what she likes and dont make her feel weird for not wanting to celebrate her bday on the way they celebrate theirs.

Another friend has reusable paper decorations and hand sewn banners she puts up for every household members bday and her dh and kids put them up for hers, they all love it and even though it's not something I'd want to do for my own bday, it brings them joy and her photos she sends me look lovely.

Put the banners up and enjoy your bday and don't let anyone make you feel weird for it. I dont like a fuss for myself but if the people I love and care about like banners and balloons, I'll be doing it for them.

Wow banners seem to have caused a lot of outrage. I totally get this and am on team birthday for sure. Yes, I think unfortunately you have to make your own fun when nobody around you is as bothered about celebrating these things. I tell DP exactly what I want and make plans myself for my birthday and if I get even one surprise I am over the moon. Happy Birthday for Friday love, please do make yourself happy x

How old are your kids? Will they want to do something to make Mums birthday special (i.e. balloons etc)? My kids would - any reason for balloons in this house.

If they want to, and your OH can't help, lay a few strong hints, and place a couple of bags of balloons or banners in a drawer that they can "find by accident".

Doing your own is not right - but lots of hints is perfectly acceptable!

I wouldn't bother with banners and balloons, bad for the environment and all that.

I do make the day about what I want though, book theatre tickets to a show I want to see, go to a restaurant I want to go to, buy a cake that I like, give myself a budget and treat myself to things I wouldn't normally buy myself. I'm a single parent so don't have another person to do those things for me but even if I did and they weren't into birthdays I would still do it. DD is autistic and not great at gift giving but is happy to give the gift of quality time with no phone interruptions and to completely do what I want to do on Birthdays and Mother's Day and as she's a teen that's worth it's weight in gold.