Buying a house, blending family and finances

You're happy to take a 16 year old's PIP when you're on £200k per year?!? Disgusting.

It's a wind-up isn't it.

Wow. Fucking wow. This can’t be real? Someone on 200k plus says ‘brought’ and nicks a child’s DLA? I’m in the wrong job!

Buying you the New Forest would be expensive. Bringing it jolly difficult. Twat.

I don’t believe someone earning £200k PA believes it’s ‘brought’ instead of ‘bought’. WTAF is this thread? All those people spending time to type out thoughtful responses on the OOP and this is what you say? Are you really that sad that you’ve done all this for entertainment? Whether this is real or fake, I have come to the conclusion you’re a twat.

You took disability benefit off a 16 year old in full time education? Either this is a joke or you’re a joke of a man.

WTF!

Yes YABVU you forgot to mention your 100k bonus and that you want your partners 16yr old to pay rent out of her PIP when she is STILL in FT education!! Whilst you are saving your sons DLA payments!! What the fuck are you on seriously!! Yes u pay more as you earn considerably more, if you want your partner to pay 50/50 then you’re going to have to buy a house you can both afford. She needs to sack you off tbh with that mindset

This ⬆️ and the fact you want to take DLA monies from a teenager, you have more than enough to live off and would happily see her with very little!!

I hope what she said on her other post is true and that she has stopped this process!

Surely an equal amount of your income is fair?

If this is a genuine post... YABVU. I told your partner she'd be mad to buy a house with you.

Who on earth thinks it is responsible parenting to be buying a home with a partner of only 2 years when there are children involved?! If you were both single and taking this step after 2 years I'd still think ye were a bit mad and giving yourselves a huge financial handcuff to each other too soon, but to be trying to blend your children into a family so soon is selfish imo.
Re the finances, the partner earning less is daft to contemplate moving in, the high earner sounds like an ass

Hahahaha, not mentioning your 200k+ income. Yes, you are a 🔔🔚.

If you're the OP, quit trolling, we're not dumb.

If you're the partner trying to sort your domestic dispute, you are 1000% in the wrong. Pay a fair share (70:30) and leave the kids out of it or just cancel buying a house.

Both work out your total monthly income and go from there.....

Having read through the pages and pages of responses on the other post, there are a few things that would help the reviewers and responders.

Are you saying after being in a relationship with someone for 2 years, viewing and putting and offering on an house. Getting mortgage agreements etc - you have not discussed repayments once? How have you both got into a position where you have a house being purchased and not discussed this?

What are your motivators for moving in together ?

Why are you feeling it’s unreasonable for her to pay less when she earns so much less?
surely if it’s a relationship and partnership it should be treated as one and not treated like a business deal.

the figures flying around are confusing. 30k, 100k - bonuses, stocks, dla etc.
why is a % of annual work income not satisfactory ? with a package of over 200k surely it’s a comfortable lifestyle?

Do you plan to marry your partner? Have children? Then what? Will you view things differently?

The other poster mentioned you currently both have your own homes. How different will monthly outgoings be on a joint home for you?

your partner is set to loose CB and Tax Credits as you are a high earner, already reducing her income. Why would you think it fair for her to give up the children’s disability benefits ? Are you giving up your child’s benefits ? Why is it fair for her to be worse off and you have large bonuses and shares/stocks sitting there ?

in short - what are you losing financially by making this move? Or is it more if a principle thing where you feel it should be 50/50.

Either way, lots of discussions should be had before moving forward.

I’ve also read the other thread.

On the off chance you are the op’s dp I just want to tell you that trying to take money from a disabled child is utterly scummy behaviour. Leave this woman and her dc alone and go and find someone else to fleece.

WTAF is the point of this? Thread about a thread. If you are the partner you're a tosser and your partner should dump you. Definitely not buy a house with you. But I guess you're actually the Op of the other thread trying to get different answers.

Thank you @TeaKitten

I hope she did/does!! Earns waaaaay more than her plus rental income plus 100k bonus.....and he's going after her kids PIP money! 🚩 🚩 🚩 🚩

You forgot to mention you want her disabled 16 year old daughter to pay rent from her PIP!

I am presuming this is OP from the reverse previous thread.

If you go ahead with this move you are both going to resent each other whatever you decide.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5051126-finance-issues-blended-family

Ignoring the figures 65% of each of your base wages is fair. It's not your DP's fault that they earn less.

It sounds like you're expecting your DP to live in poverty while you live in luxury, which cannot be right for you sharing a life with someone you claim to love.