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friend asking me to go away - AIBU ?

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Bigbusheyeyebrows · 16/04/2024 17:36

My friend is single and will be child free bank holiday weekend while her (practically adult) children are at their dads. She has suggested me and her going away for the weekend

AIBU to think she's BU by asking her me to go away with her for the whole weekend, when I have a partner and younger (12, 14,15) DC at home ?

"Sorry partner & DC, amuse yourselves for the 3 days. I'm off for a jolly from the Friday. See you Monday bank holiday evening sometime"

I think it's out of order for me to just bugger off the whole 3 days and for my friend to think this is OK/expect me to go.

OP posts:
Aaron95 · 16/04/2024 17:40

Josette77 · 16/04/2024 17:40

I think it's weird you can't go away and leave your partner and three teenagers alone.

This. Especially as the kids are not young.

TunaCrunchy · 16/04/2024 17:40

Not U at all, it’s nice she asked you and it’s also fine to decline.

I also don’t think it’s ‘out of order’ if you did want to go, it’s nice to have some adult time with friends sometimes.

Josette77 · 16/04/2024 17:40

I think it's weird you can't go away and leave your partner and three teenagers alone.

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 16/04/2024 17:40

12, 14 and 15 are hardly young...

And no, it's not weird or unreasonable to ask a parent if they want to go away with a friend when there is someone else there to look after them

Is this a reverse and your friend has called you unreasonable and you want to know?

BananaLambo · 16/04/2024 17:40

She’s not doing anything wrong to ask - y oh might want a break from them. I went away with friends last weekend and it was brilliant. If you don’t want to go all you have to say is ‘Not for me, thanks. Planning a weekend with family’.

kinkyredboots · 16/04/2024 17:40

Unless you have anything else planned, why not?

StephanieSuperpowers · 16/04/2024 17:39

Why is it unreasonable of her to ask? It would be unreasonable of her to kidnap you.

Akamai · 16/04/2024 17:39

Yikes, she just asked, you can say no.

Unless you’re going to drip feed that she’s there right now holding a gun to your head.

It sounds like you want to go but feel angry at wanting to do something for yourself for a change.

Your kids are 12+, not 2.

Shoxfordian · 16/04/2024 17:39

Yabu, and a bit of a martyr really

Cosycover · 16/04/2024 17:38

I think your partner is an adult and can take care of himself and the children.

I don't think this is weird at all tbh.

FrangipaniBlue · 16/04/2024 17:38

You're over reacting.

She is not unreasonable to ask but also you would not be unreasonable to say no and explain you plan to do family things over the bank holiday.

EffortlesslyInelegant · 16/04/2024 17:37

She suggested - as per your OP. She did not demand. She cannot force you. Go or don't go but don't blame your friend ffs.

Whatwillitbenext · 16/04/2024 17:37

🤣🤣 you're weird. Just say no thanks. Personally if it was a one off I'd love that! Hope she has some nicer friends than you.

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