friend asking me to go away - AIBU ?

I love my kids to bits but would love a weekend away with a mate! There’s no medals at the end of motherhood, you are allowed to put your happiness first occasionally. Go! X

I probably wouldn't go away on a bank holiday either, but I wouldn't be angry with my friend for asking... Surely you can just say it's lovely that you thought of me but I won't be able to...?

Why can’t you just ‘swan off’? Live a little

Yes 😂 I don’t really get the point of them. I like Rimmer’s line on Red Dwarf - “I’ve come to think of you as people I know”

In that case, if a friend ever asks you if you would like to go away for a bank holiday weekend you should say 'no thank you'.

Don't get all incandescent about it like the OP.

If she asked someone else and not you you’d be on here whinging about that 🤣 it’s quite obvious you look down your nose at this woman but it seems like jealousy deep down.

You're going to end up one of those people who gets all surprised Pikachu face when your kids have grown up and flown the nest and you have no friends left.

Friendships need nurturing too, like any relationship, and I really don't see that there's anything wrong at all with spending the bank holiday weekend with a pal instead of with your family. Your kids are teens not babies, they'd probably relish a weekend to just do their own thing too, they're getting to that age where they're not going to want to spend every spare moment they have doing "family stuff" anyway.

Oh get over yourself. She's not unreasonable to suggest it at all. As a single mum myself she wants to make the most of her child free bank holiday weekend. We all need a break from DC sometimes it does us good. There's also no harm in your DH being in soul charge of DC. Does he never go away without you and DC? If DH agrees then go if you want. If you don't want to then tell her you don't.

I’m a single parent, my single friend suggested booking a hotel and doing absolutely nothing for the Easter weekend. I loved it. Peace and quiet.

Such drama. You are completely unreasonable. She asked you, which is a nice thing. And if you do not want to go, just say you can't go. That's it really.

Girls weekend away, whats not to like? Shes not BU at all..

“Friends are ok”. 😂😂😂

I think it's unreasonable that you are happy to bugger off on a long haul holiday for two weeks without your family, yet get all twitchy and offended when someone asks you to go away for a couple of days without them because (gasp) it's a bank holiday!

So bloody what, it's an extra day on the weekend, it's not particularly special

Yeah, I mean, what an AWFUL friend inviting you away for a weekend!!

You know what they say: 'It's an invite, not a summons'. If you don't want to go, don't go. Although it sounds to me like you just resent her for being able to do whatever she wants.l!

I’d much prefer to spend a bank holiday with my family than go off with a friend! I love my family and they’re the ones I prefer to spend time with. Friends are ok and I do go away occasionally but they don’t compare to family.

that BH should be spent with family - are the teenagers even interested in wholesome 3-day family togetherness weekend? Most kids that age would surely sleep til lunch and play Fortnite the rest of time, appearing for meals.

How selfish of her OP. Doesn’t she realise bank holidays are for gluing yourself to your kids and having enforced family fun times without any outsider intervention.

those rare Mondays when you don’t have to go to work are so precious. You only get what? 8 a year? How could you go a single day off work without your young adult children in tow?

LTB, go NC and eat some naice ham OP you deserve it.

Perhaps she didn’t realise that you consider Bank Holidays to be on a par with Christmas & Mothers/Fathers Day and just thought she’d give you the option of going somewhere nice for the weekend, thinking that you could decline if you’d rather spend time with your family instead?

YAB unbelievably unreasonable to think that she’s the one in the wrong. Also, are your DC aware that Bank Holidays are sacrosanct and that they can’t make any plans with their friends as they get older?

Well it's quite tight to have an enjoyable full weekend in Spain over a normal weekend, you'd spend half of it in transit. Or if it's selfish to use bank holidays, isn't it even more selfish to use your annual leave for a jolly?
If you don't want to go and you don't think married people should travel with friends, fair enough, you do you. But she's definitely not U to ask.

I just asked my friend (married, young children) if she'd like to come to Mexico with me for a week, during school holidays of all time. She said yay. Our respective husbands said to go and enjoy. Nobody was U.

I say this in the kindest way but honestly a bank holiday is fairly irrelevant in this... My kids are similar age and probably wouldn't even notice if I went away providing the food fair appeared with some sort of meals (sod it let them have take away all weekend) IF you don't want to go just say although ever thought maybe your single friend might fancy some company, it might be quite lonely.

But if it's just you don't want to leave them it might be some bonding time with their dad and a chance for you to have a bit of fun, compromise and only do sat morn to Sunday evening??

Side note I am also off to stand in the corner as I leave my children far younger (and here's the real shocker it's with their adult sister not even their dad for a night occasionally)... Take aways, no boring mum rules and their big sister to themselves. They are gutted when I come home

They will love to be ''mum free!''
We used to love it when mum went away for the rare weekend with her friends, as Dad was very lenient, and we had more treats, could watch rubbish on TV, and have takeaways as Dad couldn't cook.

Go on that short break @Bigbusheyeyebrows - The teens will have a great time with their Dad.

Am sure husband and children will happily wave you off for the weekend! Really don’t understand your comments TBH !

Will do you and your children the world of good to spend a bit of time apart.

All she's done is ask. Because you feel bad about saying no, you've spun her invitation into an aggressive demand. But it wasn't - you do have the right to say no though, if you don't want to go. Just tell her that you don't feel comfortable away from your kids for that long just yet. Which is perfectly fine btw.

She’s not at all odd to ask; and it is totally fine for you to have a weekend jolly without partner or kids .