To be expected to run around after another's child?

Just say no I'm sorry I can't pick up nor drop your daughter off anymore. You dont have to give a reason.

Op, I think you need to own your right to decline and stop getting enmeshed by school gate politics.

Also if your DD is naive you should talk to her about frenemies and how to spot one... I talk about all this stuff with my kids, give her some emotional wisdom, then she won't be so naive... If she slowly realises this girl isn't her friend she might think it's down to there being something wrong with her, instead of it being a character flaw of this mini queen bee ... Help her see through the bs.

@Blondeandbeautifullol i wouldn’t call you spineless @Onetiredbeing as that’s too harsh but as has been mentioned I genuinely can’t understand why you can’t just say “sorry no that won’t work for us”. Unless you have a massive backlog of favours to her that you haven’t declared then you just need to say no.

I marked YABU just because all you needed to say was “I am sorry I can’t commit to that”.

Remove all the competitive/ competition stuff and just say “so sorry I cannot help with that.”

I think the OP should engage as little as possible with this woman, she is bad news. A firm 'no' to collecting her child and refuse to engage further if she tries to argue back.

And no offers to alternate collection of both children, that works only if both mothers are on friendly terms and the children well behaved. I would not want the OP's DD to be in a car on her own unsupervised with this woman and her child (who we already know has been unkind to the DD).

Di you (or a parent) have to be there while it's going on? You could tell this woman that you need to alternate the drop off/pick up. So one week you do it, next she does (make sure she does the first week). If she doesn't agree say that you can't be responsible for her child and if she should message you while you are there say you have plans and can't bring the girl home.

I think you obviously hate 'confrontation' of any kind, and maybe are a people pleaser by nature, in which case the easiest way out would be to tell a little lie to say you have to go to an appointment or visit a relative straight after pick up every week, so cannot spare time to drop their child off anymore, say you hope she can arrange alternative childcare.

Or, you could be a bit blunt and just say "I am too busy in the evenings so cannot help you out anymore" - don't offer any more info at this point, but if the mother questions you just be vague in your response, such as; "various things I need to do". If you can text this woman in advance of the next activity it will give her time to make alternative arrangements and will remove the need for you to speak to her in-person if you find that awkward. Good luck!

What an encouraging little pep talk

This. I just can never understand spineless people like you op. So she gives you and order to do it and you jump and do it. How do you even function as an adult and make normal everyday decisions if you can't even say a perfectly reasonable no to this. She's not making you do anything, you are cheating of your own free will to do it and then complaining about her.

just tell her it's personal.

No, you tell her to mind her own business. No means NO.

I honestly can't believe that anyone has actually said you're being unreasonable, the other mum is selfish and seriously taking advantage of you. I would simply tell her you can't do it anymore, because it's interfering or causing too many problems with your own life all the time! If she asks how it's causing problems, just tell her it's personal.

Come on
@Blondeandbeautifullol what did you message to piss taking entitled bully mum?

Pray tell us you aren't going to run daughters enemy around no more!

'To be honest I felt pressured into it the last few times and it's really not convenient for me, so you will need to transport your own child to and from the activity'
And let coach know.

Just say no!!

See if you can borrow a 2 seater car for the evening. A subtle way of saying no and fuck you simultaneously.

I would say unfortunately I have to go to x on the way there so can't do pick up drop off anymore

YABU to just say no

YANBU to feel put in a position that you have to say no

Sorry @Blondeandbeautifullol you'll just have to say no

Hopefully now you have got it all off your chest. It's a frustrating situation.

The parent is choosing to not pick up her kid. Occasionally in an EMERGENCY (this is key... someone has to be in hospital or arrested) it might be appropriate or if it was arranged prior and there was to-and-fro.

Firstly, this is not personal towards you and your child. When you start saying no consistently, she will find someone else to leech off of.

Secondly, I assure you that if you say no, it will take 3 times and the child will stop going. Either because the parent can't deal with it, or because the club will not put up with her shitty behaviour.

I would say no..
And I would tell her why, probably...diplomatically /invent a lie /be firm but fair/come up with bullshit excuses like I am washing my hair /buying a kangaroo (lol) that would put her off.
Hope it helps /made u laugh.

This is a really good answer.

Op please tell us how it went!?

You know sometimes Im happy I'm too poor for bullshit.
I can't add round trips for someone else into my petrol.
There's no point in me paying for daughter's classes if. Not enjoying.
Op use practicality for you,!

Jesus are you kidding me! Practice saying "no, I'm afraid that doesn't work for us".

You absolutely don't have to say yes. Just say sorry not convenient for me we have a lot on.

You're teaching your DD to be a pushover as well.

Say no. It's not convenient.

And teach your DD that she can also say no. Teach her that she doesn't have to be nice to people who aren't nice to her.

Just say no or don’t reply to the messages. She will soon get the hint.