To be expected to run around after another's child?

I'd never go out of my way for someone else's child - I guess you could say if she's here by x time ill take her but I'm going yhen whether she's here or not. And then your clock might be running fast

No, that is really not nice.

Text her ‘Hi Jane, can’t take Emily this week, see you soon, Sarah x’

If she asks why when you see her just say ‘oh god, we’ve got loads going on, I won’t bore you, but Thursdays are tricky for us.’

People like her are thick skinned and selfish, she won’t want to hear about you. If she asks again ‘sorry, no can do, we’re up against it on Thursdays.’

You don't HAVE to do anything.
This is a problem of your own making.

Next time she asks just text back

• sorry, no can do busy

After that just don't respond - you know that if she's messaging you on that evening she'll want a lift so don't open it
When she says something just respond that you're busy, not glued to your phone

I'd never go out of my way for someone else's child - I guess you could say if she's here by x time ill take her but I'm going yhen whether she's here or not. And then your clock might be running fast

Just say no. Do not check your messages. You are not responsible for this child, but you are allowing her mother to make it so.

This. And do not bother making up inane excuses, as suggested by some posters either. Why is it so difficult to stop other people taking advantage like this? She would not do any of what she is asking of you, for your child OP.

YABU because all you have to do is say that you won't be running her child around any more. You don't need to make excuses. It isn't convenient, so you aren't going to do it.

Keep saying no.

no to the coach or anyone who expects you to continuously pick up the pieces and run around after this child.

If you keep doing it as a misplaced martyr they’ll keep expecting you to.

Let it be someone else’s problem. Let it be for someone else to resolve. They’ll soon get onto mum/dad to sort their child out. They have no reason to if you keep backing down.

But you are not abandoning a child there. You are leaving them with their coach, who are responsible for them until their parent comes.
Just say - sorry, can’t do, and leave.
if coach asks you say sorry, but we have plans and are not able to look after child.
coach will soon have a chat with CF mother…

Another vote for say no when asked to pick up/ drop off/ wait. Your time is as valuable as hers, by her own admission she could do it but finds it more convenient to foist it onto you.
To pre empt any messaging during class message her saying that from now on you are not picking up/ dropping off or waiting.

You are not abandoning a child. The parent is effectively when they don't arrange to pick them up and don't intend to. Leave them with the coach and let the parent get an earful. The coach shouldn't be asking you anyway. Next time you are asked by either, say I can't, I have permanent commitments immediately after sports every week now and won't be able to wait or drop home. You don't need to say what these commitments are as its absolutely nobody else's business. If they ask, say they are private. Firm and final. What's the worse that can happen, someone you don't like anyway gets moody with you?! Who cares! If she fucks off, all the better.

and I feel the mother has a bloody cheek keep asking

She keeps asking because you keep agreeing to doing it!

Come on @Blondeandbeautifullol . There is being a "people pleaser" and then there is being a doormat.
You fall into the latter.

It doesn't matter how she asks you; message, through the coach, directly or via carrier pigeon, all yiu have to do is say No.

The more you say no and refuse to do it, the less she will ask you.

You can absolutely 100% abandon a child there.

It's not your child and you're not the one abandoning her.

Say "sorry I can't" and leave it at that.

Big fat no to the cheeky bitch. You can leave her there, she is not your child and you have no responsibility to her, this woman needs to be shown you won't be walked over. The coach will keep an eye on her till her parent arrives and might even give her a telling off for not planning properly.

You could always send a message tonight saying ’just a heads up but I’m not going to be able to take kid home after training going forward. Hope you can get something in place’

"Hi CF, our Thursdays are really hectic this term so unfortunately I won't be able to take fluffikins to gymnastics any more. So much to juggle, it's insane!"

Tinkly laugh, breezy smile. She can bugger off.

You can leave the child there with the coach if you haven't agreed to take them home! Say you're not going that way and can't take them. And definitely say no to taking them too, sounds like a right pain!

I'd say you can't do it, don't give it reason. Then if they call while you're there I'm afraid you'll have to make it the coaches problem not yours.

You are abandoning nobody, the child is not your responsibility

That's not your problem.

Seriously just say no. The mum will be there to pick up if she needs fo be.

Christ on a bike. You can either be fully honest and say that her child isn't nice to yours so you don't want to do it or just tell her that you're not able to drop off and pick up.

Don't invent excuses, just tell her it's not convenient for you.

Zammo didn't say 'no'. That was the problem.

'Dear cf, just wanted to let you know that things are changing here (I've grown a backbone) so I won't be able to take or pick up your dd. Hope you get sorted'

Oh no, why, it's not fair. Blah blah

'As I said things have changed and I can't run around any more'

If child isn't picked up, send her back in to the coaches.

Good Lord.

If you don't want to do it, don't.

Grow up and say no.

Well you've created this situation so you are being unreasonable.

Just say no. Honestly you sound like a wimp and have willingly gone along with this.

The saddest thing about this is you are teaching your child that you cannot say no to people even if they treat you badly .