To be expected to run around after another's child?

You are not abandoning the child there the parent is. You need a reason to tell the coach why you can't take the child it is the coach and the parents responsibility. Have a reason ready. Ignore any request from mum directly. Don't use phone during lesson/leave it in your car etc so you can reply once home. Didn't see your message until we got home. Be uncontactable and unavailable.

If child asks directly just say no or that we aren't going your way tonight. It's hard but honestly need to stop anyone thinking it is your responsibility for that child.

She asks, you say no can do. End of. You're not the one 'abandoning' her child, she is.

If you're feeling charitable, give her the heads up before she asks and tell her she needs to make alternative arrangements in future.

But DO NOT give in when she ignores you and asks anyway, the cheeky cow.

I don’t get how some other people are such doormats?

You call her a frenemy so don’t want her to go anyway. Why on earth would you facilitate it! Why did you ever say yes??

Don’t take her, then she won’t be there-isn’t that a win win?!

Oh come on! Fully expecting your next post to be that you've decided to withdraw your daughter from the session instead, to avoid doing anything about this and then spending the next decade telling a story about how you and your child were driven out by this woman. Then of course the perfect ending would be the mum miraculously finds time to collect her daughter without fail once you stop going, because that was her wicked plan all along. Bonus if your daughter loses her team place to the other child as a result. Bloody hell OP, parent your own child, give over with teaching her such awful lessons.

Say no?
Or if thats too difficult say you have to go/come from elsewhere in a different direction?

‘Sorry, I can’t drop her off, we’ve made other plans’
not your problem

I had a mother that kept leaning on me to collect her son or she would drop him at mine just before 7am for me to take to school 😳 She asked again just recently and I literally replied with “Sorry I can’t commit to that” and if she was gonna be cheeky and ask why, I’d be damn cheeky back and tell her. The best part is I live about 4 miles away from the school and she lives in the same close as the school 🙃 Make it make sense

You can absolutely refuse to take the child home at the end of the session. "We have other plans today. Sorry."

It's the mother's responsibility: not yours.

Her Mum would be the one abandoning her. Not you.

. I obviously can't abandon a child there. But it's every week

You wouldn't be the one abandoning them though, the mother would. Even if the coach asks just say no. You wouldn't even need to tell the coach why or any explanation. That actually makes it easier.

I'd leave child with the coach and say no sorry you have something to do and keep walking

Not your problem. Not your responsibility. You are not abandoning anyone. She is. Just say no and keep saying no.

YOU are not abandoning a child anywhere, their parent is. The bloody coach can volunteer himself to take the kid home.

If say the girls don't seem to be getting on so you can do any lifts.

'Sorry, I don't have the time to go so far out of my way.' Done.

Ah a brass neck mum, you have to be as rude and pushy as they are unfortunately. It never sits well with me either, but that is their currency. You probably need to be a bit sharp too as she will try it on.

"Hi - we have another family commitment after sports club now so wont be able to take Frenemy home. Please make other arrangements as I will not be able to help out anymore xx"

And then you have to stick to it. So if sports club come to you to say can you take Frenemy home as mum cant get here in time, you say oh no sorry we're going in the opposite direction this evening, Frenemy will have to wait for her mum.

That’s appalling of the coach and I’d point out that a) it’s their responsibility not yours to ensure the child gets home and b) you’ve been doing it at cost to your own time as it’s not actually convenient.

If she keeps the coach waiting that’s her/ their problem.

Simply say to the coach that she’s not your responsibility to get home and you’ve indicated this to her mum so if she can’t get there then that’s their issue. Text the mum and say that following the last few weeks you’d rather not continue dropping off as it’s not convenient and is becoming taxing to be dropped in it each week. She has no shame and she really won’t get the message unless it’s direct, people like her will push it till the cows come home banking on people to just roll over.

I’ve had it she even wanted me to have her child after school for tea and then take her to sane activity as mine. I had to say No I can’t.. no discussion no engagement she soon found another victim to do it! I appear to be the quiet unassuming person she’s the extrovert blah blah at school but at the end of the day if it’s not convenient just say No and don’t elaborate

yes you can. You tell the coach you have another commitment so sorry no you can't take her. He will have to or call the mother back to make other arrangements. I bet that would only ever happen that once!!

You need to message to say you cannot do it and please don't ask again. Tell coach the same.

I’m sure you wouldn’t have minded helping out on the odd occasion if frenemies mum was genuinely stuck. Some people can’t help taking the piss OP. This woman is one of them. Just make it clear you will not be continuing with this “arrangement”. You don’t owe her an explanation.

YABVU! I wish someone would have me transporting anyone that is mean to me or mine. You don’t have to do anything other than stand up for your daughter, if not for yourself 🤦🏾‍♀️.

Yes you can leave the child there. They are not your responsibility. Think of the message you are sending to your child.

That allowing people who are not even nice to you that it is acceptable to control and manipulate you.

Say no and walk away. From the mum, child or coach.

I can't believe you make your daughter endure spending time with someone who isn't nice to her outside of school and watch her mum run around after them.

Hi. I have a lot going on. If I'm honest I don't want to take on any extras so it's a no from me. Good luck sorting it out.

Take a deep breath - message this other Mum - "Can't collect or bring up flossy anymore. you will need to make alternative arrangements. No need to reply"

Then also message the coach and tell her too - you are not available to take this child home - ever again.