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To think that the mother/daughter duo who took Michaela to court should face some natural consequences?

586 replies

KTheGrey · 16/04/2024 15:27

Apparently the mother involved wants to send her younger child to the school she finds so unsatisfactory in September. I don't think this is reasonable. I understand the logic of leaving a child at a school where they are established, but she should be expected to find a school she likes better for a younger sibling, surely.

She also intends to bring another suit, presumably tax payer funded again. I think that she should be expected to pay in full for any further suit she brings against the school. She could apply for costs if she wins.

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Polishedshoesalways · 16/04/2024 18:19

calligraphee · 16/04/2024 18:14

Bullying and intimidation is a separate matter - pupils play football and bully, other pupils play football and don't bully.

The legal question is whether praying should be allowed. The court has answered. There may be an appeal, and the question will be re-answered.

These questions matter and in a country like the UK it is normal to ask them in court. We are not a dictatorship, we are a democracy with access to the courts.

We certainly should NOT be dismissing the bullying and intimidation in this context. This is one step away from vigilante action!

This is pivotal to the court case.
The children could have continued undisturbed in quiet prayer in groups less than four (as per usual school rules) had this not happened.

Its a secular school - the very point of such a thing is to give young people a broad education so they can learn independent thinking skills.

The child could catch up with their prayers or move to a school more suited to them.

calligraphee · 16/04/2024 18:19

mids2019 · 16/04/2024 18:13

Seems like it is an attempt to start a slippery slope of making a secular school into a faith school and it is good to make this very clear this was not going to happen.

I think if there are calls for more Islamic schools because of this again we have to be cautious as there is a lot of entrenched misogyny in more extreme versions of this religion and I don't think we should have schools that use religion to impose values against what we would perceive as our norms.

I think you should be free to practise any religion but not in state institutions necessarily unless there are valid reasons e.g. church schools which have existed for very long periods of time and even then there absolutely should be options to opt out

Pupils observing their own religion would not change any school from secular to faith.

The court have answered the question, but the question was about whether the pupils had a right to practice their own religion, nothing to do with the school's faith status.

Soontobe60 · 16/04/2024 18:18

KrisAkabusi · 16/04/2024 15:53

Again, the rule was brought in after over a thousand students had enrolled. Also, why shouldn't they be allowed to send another child? They are making an informed choice now that he court has clarified that prayers won't be allowed. Or are you suggesting that the other child should be banned from the school for a sibling daring to make a perfectly legal challenge?
And congratulations on being self-aware enough to know you're becoming a racist.

The rule was brought in after some students, including the girl in question, thought it would be a good idea to pray in the playground and try to coerce other students to also pray.

calligraphee · 16/04/2024 18:17

Johannalaw · 16/04/2024 18:13

All religions should be a private matter. No religion should be anywhere near a school.

This is not the UK position. That is the French position.

calligraphee · 16/04/2024 18:16

Rosscameasdoody · 16/04/2024 18:14

No, they were bulling other students.

That is not the question that went to court and was not the question that was answered in court.

The question was must they be allowed to pray.

No one thinks anyone should be allowed to bully.

LlynTegid · 16/04/2024 18:16

The court has to decide on what the law says, not on whether or not we or anyone else thinks is fair. It seems from what I read of the judgment that they had done so.

mids2019 · 16/04/2024 18:15

Religion historically has worked by coercion so I am not surprised at this.

EarringsandLipstick · 16/04/2024 18:15

Itsdeepitsblue · 16/04/2024 17:52

imagine living in Albania and sending your C of E children to a school and then demanding they be allowed to pray to Jesus during school hours and expecting the tax paying citizens of Albania to fund a law suit for you? No. Neither can I. Imagine how they would go down. Entitled.

Sorry what? This is an appalling post.

EarringsandLipstick · 16/04/2024 18:14

I think an employer could object to prayer breaks if they interfered with the employee's work and if they were proved to be excessive

@Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain

Well, that's why I mentioned timing & location.

And the rest of your post supports that point - an accommodation should be made, and this wasn't done in the school, and it could have. However the ethos of the school is to operate in black & white, no room for nuance.

calligraphee · 16/04/2024 18:14

pam290358 · 16/04/2024 18:12

Except that bullying and intimidation of other students was involved.

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Bullying and intimidation is a separate matter - pupils play football and bully, other pupils play football and don't bully.

The legal question is whether praying should be allowed. The court has answered. There may be an appeal, and the question will be re-answered.

These questions matter and in a country like the UK it is normal to ask them in court. We are not a dictatorship, we are a democracy with access to the courts.

Rosscameasdoody · 16/04/2024 18:14

calligraphee · 16/04/2024 18:12

They weren't asking for special arrangements, they were asking for it to be permitted.

No, they were bulling other students.

Johannalaw · 16/04/2024 18:13

All religions should be a private matter. No religion should be anywhere near a school.

mids2019 · 16/04/2024 18:13

Seems like it is an attempt to start a slippery slope of making a secular school into a faith school and it is good to make this very clear this was not going to happen.

I think if there are calls for more Islamic schools because of this again we have to be cautious as there is a lot of entrenched misogyny in more extreme versions of this religion and I don't think we should have schools that use religion to impose values against what we would perceive as our norms.

I think you should be free to practise any religion but not in state institutions necessarily unless there are valid reasons e.g. church schools which have existed for very long periods of time and even then there absolutely should be options to opt out

Lifeomars · 16/04/2024 18:13

I have no time for that "strictest headteacher" woman but in this instance I think she is correct. Apparently the praying was causing disruption and was leading to bullying and harrassement. I think schools should be secular, I went to a C of E primary school and we had bible class every day, plus regular attendance at church and in my opinion this is not a necessary part of education. The school day ends before 4pm, this leaves time for prayers, I live in an area with a lot of Muslims and see the children going off to mosque in the early evening, seems a good compromise to me.

EarringsandLipstick · 16/04/2024 18:12

Custardcream84 · 16/04/2024 17:51

The veiled racism and Islamaphobia in this thread is pretty disgusting. Praying takes maximum five minutes and it’s actually pretty shocking to not provide a facility for that in this day and age in a school or workplace should someone request it. It is entirely unreasonable to ban so simple
a request and is really out of touch and tone deaf in an area that has such a large Muslim population. The backlash against and
scandal about schools such as this will soon come out with their zero tolerance policies on discipline and behaviour. The exclusion rate and isolation figures and everyone will be shocked at how it was allowed to happen.

I agree.

calligraphee · 16/04/2024 18:12

Polishedshoesalways · 16/04/2024 18:02

So they don’t need special arrangements- you can literally pray anywhere!

They weren't asking for special arrangements, they were asking for it to be permitted.

pam290358 · 16/04/2024 18:12

calligraphee · 16/04/2024 18:01

It was at lunchtime.

No more disruptive than playing football or table tennis.

Except that bullying and intimidation of other students was involved.

Misthios · 16/04/2024 18:12

All schools should be secular. There is no room for ANY worship or religious observance in schools, religion should be studied in an academic sense only.

You want to go to church/mosque/temple/synagogue, you do that on your own time.

KidneyWarrior · 16/04/2024 18:11

I support freedom of religious expression, but the claimants here don't sound like that. They sound like they were just being controversial. The girl can catch up with prayers at the end of the school day. I've never heard of duhr impacting on a whole work or school community before.

Rosscameasdoody · 16/04/2024 18:09

gloriagloria · 16/04/2024 15:57

The rule was introduced after the children had started at the school. And they were praying the the playground, not demanding special consideration or asking for anything. The only thing against the school rules were they were gathering in groups of more than four.

Actually they were going against everything the school stood for by way of inclusion. The students organising the playground prayer meetings were also threatening and intimidating other students, which is why the ban was imposed.

Polishedshoesalways · 16/04/2024 18:07

Sandwichblock · 16/04/2024 18:05

But they couldn't, that was the problem. They were praying in the playground in their lunch break. The school found it disruptive because students were putting pressure on others, and also because it was in public view and they were getting threats about not providing correct facilities. So they're not allowed to pray on school premises at all.

I can silently pray anywhere - I don’t need to make a song and dance about it.

Switcher · 16/04/2024 18:07

It's all completely disingenuous, they just want to be victims of some imagined persecution. I'm sure they'll find something if they look hard enough, like all such grifters do.

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 16/04/2024 18:06

Sandwichblock · 16/04/2024 18:05

But they couldn't, that was the problem. They were praying in the playground in their lunch break. The school found it disruptive because students were putting pressure on others, and also because it was in public view and they were getting threats about not providing correct facilities. So they're not allowed to pray on school premises at all.

The school also found it disruptive because this pupil and her mother were bullying other pupils, members of staff and inciting racial hatred. That's not the only reason the headteacher chose to ban them praying.

Polishedshoesalways · 16/04/2024 18:06

calligraphee · 16/04/2024 18:03

They can ans should use the courts to determine whether the school is acting in accordance with the law. They system worked fine - a case was taken, a ruling was made.

Do you want to live in a dictatorship with no access to courts? Move out of Britain if so.

Ha! I work in the judiciary and I can assure I support cases that are in the public interest, but this is not!

Muslims have the opportunity to ‘catch up’ with their daily prayers - so the need for special arrangements is null and void. If a child wants to take itself quietly off for mid day prayer then there is literally nothing to stop them.