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To think that the mother/daughter duo who took Michaela to court should face some natural consequences?

586 replies

KTheGrey · 16/04/2024 15:27

Apparently the mother involved wants to send her younger child to the school she finds so unsatisfactory in September. I don't think this is reasonable. I understand the logic of leaving a child at a school where they are established, but she should be expected to find a school she likes better for a younger sibling, surely.

She also intends to bring another suit, presumably tax payer funded again. I think that she should be expected to pay in full for any further suit she brings against the school. She could apply for costs if she wins.

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EarringsandLipstick · 16/04/2024 19:33

They don’t need to pray in school to fulfill religious requirements! They can catch up perfectly well either side of the school day as thousands of children have done for years.

They may have to. Muslim faiths pray 5 timed a day, and some of those times are during the work / school day.

That's not to say that it should interfere with other activities like a work meeting or a class, but of course it should be possible to accommodate.

The utter lack of tolerance here is actually upsetting.

bombastix · 16/04/2024 19:32

I thought it was a good, just result. There are a lot of choices for schooling in the U.K.

Supersimkin2 · 16/04/2024 19:31

Why would the school tolerate racist attacks on black people? And bullying and intimidation of young children.

The Playground Prayer group didn’t play nice. Bricks through teacher’s home windows, etc..

Not the smart way to try and prove your point.

KTheGrey · 16/04/2024 19:31

Otherstories2002 · 16/04/2024 19:13

If they’re doing that to deliberately annoy people of religious faith they’re pathetic.

If it’s entirely atheist, not pushing Christmas and Easter etc they’re fine. But mum also had the right to challenge it. Which she did.

Do you honestly imagine that head teachers do things to annoy people of religious faith? Your mind is interesting.

The head teacher has set out to give kids of any religious backgrounds a stellar education. To do this, she expects members of the school community to tolerate others and to make some compromises.

If you can't tolerate compromise or won't work hard it is not the right school for you. She's pretty upfront about that.

Nobody says the mum didn't have the right. But there is such a thing as vexatious litigation and also why do Maya Forstater and Sall Grover have to self / crowd fund when this lady doesn't? It is a strange world for sure.

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EarringsandLipstick · 16/04/2024 19:30

Itsdeepitsblue · 16/04/2024 18:44

@EarringsandLipstick why is it an ‘appalling’ post? 😂 congratulations on being offended. The truth hurts I guess?

What 'truth'? 🤔

mids2019 · 16/04/2024 19:28

As a pp eloquently described there are no practising Muslims in this country alongside a lot of non practising Christians.

Historically religions have thrived through authoritarianism (plenty of historical examples in fact history is littered with them....blasphemy anyone?). If we remove authority and social coercion through pressured religious ritual the religions become weaker

I think there are many Muslims afraid that their religion and culture will fade and be encompassed by our general liberal views because there are too many opportunities for their children to become westernised and ultimately become non believers.

Ritual Islamic prayer in schools quicky shows which Muslims are veering from faith and this lack of observance may have ramifications in the community. I suppose a similar example is the hijab.. . what are the family and extended community reactions if it is noted a girl simply removes it on school premises.

Jellycats4life · 16/04/2024 19:28

Bigmove25 · 16/04/2024 19:10

This!

All the people on the thread going on about the ‘right to pray’ are missing the point. It was allowed until the group doing it starred bullying and intimidating other children of the same faith for not upholding the same views. It was then banned to protect these children against this bunch of intolerant students (and their mothers).

This is key. The playground prayers weren’t about a devout bunch of students innocently getting their prayers done the best way they could. It sounds more like a power play.

SmokeyWigwams · 16/04/2024 19:28

gloriagloria · 16/04/2024 15:57

The rule was introduced after the children had started at the school. And they were praying the the playground, not demanding special consideration or asking for anything. The only thing against the school rules were they were gathering in groups of more than four.

I thought it was that they started harassing Muslim children who weren't joining in with the prayers?

Burpie · 16/04/2024 19:25

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 16/04/2024 18:46

I think the probability of the other child also being religious is quite high, don't you?

And if the mother bullies and intimidates other pupils and teachers at the school, god knows how she behaves as a mother towards her other child, I can well guess.

By punishing the other child, do you mean not allowing her to attend the school or to obey the rules, which are no praying in public spaces there? Of course the other child is not the sin of it's parents, but it can be influenced by their belief system around religion and culture.

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No I don't. I know lots of children who are more or less religious than the rest of their family, and going to secondary school is the perfect time to start thinking about your own beliefs and not just following your parents.

By punishing the other child I mean restricting their school choices which is what the thread is about.

Pertinentowl · 16/04/2024 19:25

WrenNatsworthy · 16/04/2024 16:55

Gosh it's depressing that 3/4 of of MN so far think they need to face 'further consequences'.

What do you mean OP? Flaming pitchforks at dawn?

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Possibly a change of skin colour. You know, so everyone can ‘fit in’.

I think you are all lying. You expect other religions to follow what is happening to Christians becoming secular. That, to you is evolution. You can’t handle anyone not agreeing with that so you want to squash them in some colonial show of best of British.

calligraphee · 16/04/2024 19:24

LocalHobo · 16/04/2024 19:21

I think we need a consensus to banish all religions from education settings

I think we need a consensus to banish all religions from STATE education settings. An independent school can be faith based, but this should be funded by that institution/individual parents. As it is in France.

Also, I think this legal case should have been funded by Muslim leaders, not the tax payer.

This attitude is really offensive. Minority religious groups are taxpayers too and the justice system is there to protect all citizens.

Emotionalsupportviper · 16/04/2024 19:24

KTheGrey · 16/04/2024 15:49

I don't think they made a change. I think that the no religious stuff is made clear when you sign up.

It was made clear. I understand that there had been difficulties with this particular pupil and the girl had boasted that she'd "bring her (Mrs Birbalsingh) down" when she had been disciplined because of rudeness.

Teachers and pupils had been physically threatened regarding the praying ban.

Apparently applicants to the school are told about the very strict discipline enforced, that there is no overt prayer of any faith in the school (though if a pupil chooses to pray silently then they can do so), and that all meals are vegetarian so that there is no argument about meat being Halal, Kosher etc.

The whole ethos of the school is to bring all children together in an atmosphere of tolerance and friendship.

A Muslim community leader explains here that the Koran requires prayer, but does not insist on particular themes - these are culturally imposed.

I get fed up of people who want their children in particular schools because they get good educational results, and then make demands to change to discipline/ teaching methods etc - the very things that are producing those results.

We have it with our local church schools - the applications list is huge - but then half of those parents object to X.Y and Z and don't want their children to be disciplined when they misbehave etc. If you don't like the school, don't send your child.

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Q3akAgCVCk

NoisySnail · 16/04/2024 19:21

I am not shocked at the comments on this thread. MN is always full of racism on threads like this.

LocalHobo · 16/04/2024 19:21

I think we need a consensus to banish all religions from education settings

I think we need a consensus to banish all religions from STATE education settings. An independent school can be faith based, but this should be funded by that institution/individual parents. As it is in France.

Also, I think this legal case should have been funded by Muslim leaders, not the tax payer.

IkaBaar · 16/04/2024 19:18

I wasn’t sure whether it was the right decision at first, but I then read more about the wider situation. To me it seems the right decision for the Michaela school and can see why the head made it.

I don’t think anyone else has mentioned that the court felt the student had not written the statements entirely herself!

asterel · 16/04/2024 19:17

It would be interesting to know whether posters would be as supportive if a large group of Pentecostalist children commandeered part of a small school playground to hold a session of testimony and speaking in tongues while other students were just trying to eat lunch!

I don’t think that would be reasonable either, and the school would be right not to allow that too.

SammyScrounge · 16/04/2024 19:15

makeanddo · 16/04/2024 15:39

Not surprised by the outcome of this case, it's the right decision. Disgusted that it was taxpayer funded. Hope the school doesn't give place to younger child. Why would someone so religious send their child to a secular school when there are so many faith schools in London?

There is NO requirement did a child to pray at school. If you want your child to do it then find a school that offers it.

Mummy wants the best education for her children and the best school is Michaela. Mummy thinks the school would be perfect if only it would drop its secular stance.
She could,of course, attend one of the several schools in the area which accommodates Muslim prayers.
But their results are not stellar like Michaela's.
So, Mummy can have an academically successful school but no religion or a school which prays but little chance of a superior education.
It doesn't seem to have occurred to her that it is her responsibility to ensure that her girl received proper religious training by attending the mosque regularly and sending her to the equivalent of our Sunday School.
She should also teach her daughter.by example, by being the perfect model of a Muslim woman.

Otherstories2002 · 16/04/2024 19:13

KTheGrey · 16/04/2024 16:04

I beg your pardon. You are quite right; March 2023. I was under the impression that they had no prayer room on purpose though? Along with doing revision on Sundays which annoys Christians and having eggs touch plates which is not allowed in Hinduism. And teaching Macbeth with witches which upsets thr Jehovah's Witnesses.

If they’re doing that to deliberately annoy people of religious faith they’re pathetic.

If it’s entirely atheist, not pushing Christmas and Easter etc they’re fine. But mum also had the right to challenge it. Which she did.

Otherstories2002 · 16/04/2024 19:12

Of course it’s ok. She is challenging a policy, it doesn’t mean she thinks the quality of teaching is poor or that her children should be forced out of the school.

She won’t be able to do the same thing again, the judgement has been made. She would have to appeal the judgment to the high court.

calligraphee · 16/04/2024 19:11

Polishedshoesalways · 16/04/2024 19:05

But there has been access to fair justice and this is available to everyone.

We can’t possibly offer free justice to everyone and anyone for anything - there has to be a limit because we would be bankrupt very quickly, the court system would collapse.

There are public interest criteria stipulations for good reason.

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We have never had unlimited access, for obvious reasons. And no one is suggesting we should have unlimited access.

But access to justice has been vastly cut back by the present government, and that is not a good thing.

Bigmove25 · 16/04/2024 19:10

Polishedshoesalways · 16/04/2024 18:58

They don’t need to pray in school to fulfill religious requirements! They can catch up perfectly well either side of the school day as thousands of children have done for years.

This!

All the people on the thread going on about the ‘right to pray’ are missing the point. It was allowed until the group doing it starred bullying and intimidating other children of the same faith for not upholding the same views. It was then banned to protect these children against this bunch of intolerant students (and their mothers).

VJBR · 16/04/2024 19:09

makeanddo · 16/04/2024 15:39

Not surprised by the outcome of this case, it's the right decision. Disgusted that it was taxpayer funded. Hope the school doesn't give place to younger child. Why would someone so religious send their child to a secular school when there are so many faith schools in London?

There is NO requirement did a child to pray at school. If you want your child to do it then find a school that offers it.

Well said.

Polishedshoesalways · 16/04/2024 19:08

Smallyeti · 16/04/2024 19:05

The consequences should be that if the school does’t meet the faith needs of the parent/pupil who brought the case, the child should leave if they’re not happy with the ruling. Other than that I’m not sure what other consequences would be warranted.

I am Jewish but atheist. I know many Jewish parents who are happy to send their kids to non-faith based state schools. The ones who want their kids to have more religious education and practice in school hours, send them to Jewish schools. Same with Catholic and Muslim parents I know. My parents were happy for me to go to the local CofE primary and state comprehensive and to sing hymns in assembly, take part in nativities etc. They felt religion and education don’t belong together. I totally agree. I’d like all faith schools abolished completely.

Thank you for your measured and thoughtful post. I think we need a consensus to banish all religions from education settings.

Noicant · 16/04/2024 19:08

I would encourage everyone to read the judgement PP posted. It’s very enlightening about the context and why Michaela school banned prayer.

The crux of the judgement seems to be if you don’t like it you can find another school. I’m glad this was brought to court and clarified. The abuse one of the teachers received was extreme, racist and disgusting (I assume from the language that she is black).

Honestly past being able to wear articles of faith (crosses, Kippans, turbans, hijab) people shouldn’t be asking schools to organise themselves around individuals faith. It may be the most important thing to an individual but it doesn’t mean society or institutions have to organise themselves around your personal beliefs.

If you wouldn’t want your own child intimidated into a prayer group you shouldn’t want it for other peoples children either regardless of their background. The judgement explains why the actions of the claimant undermined school cohesiveness and is worth a read.

Polishedshoesalways · 16/04/2024 19:05

calligraphee · 16/04/2024 18:59

No it wasn't a mistake, I used the word mob on purpose because when we agree with the majority they are a great bunch but when we disagree there is trouble. My point was can you really not see a situation where you might be the one seeking to access justice?

Why do you assume I have any religious views?

I have strong views that it is right the courts are used to determine the answer to questions like this. I do not want decisions made by a 'majprity of taxpayers'. Taxpayers/citizens choose the government, the government makes the laws, the courts pass judgements.

But there has been access to fair justice and this is available to everyone.

We can’t possibly offer free justice to everyone and anyone for anything - there has to be a limit because we would be bankrupt very quickly, the court system would collapse.

There are public interest criteria stipulations for good reason.