Nursery keep spelling child’s name wrong

You should definitely ensure they are spelling your child's name correctly. The child will be learning to recognise and write their name from seeing it displayed on coat pegs etc. They shouldn't have to just get used to seeing it wrong as one poster suggested.

I have a very unusual name that is constantly mispelt and even people who've known me all my life misspell it (including my own father). I'm used to it - I know how to spell it! Quite often when asked how to spell it I just say "however you like!" I have learnt not to be bothered by it.

I'm sure your child will grow up knowing how to spell their name, or shorten it to something that can be spelt.

It wouldn't be so bad if I actually liked the name...

My DDs name has multiple spellings. All equally valid. We picked the one we thought was most common in English but apparently that hasn’t translated to reality. She CONSTANTLY gets her name mis-spelt including by some very close friends and her teachers! Even her own grandmother has spelt it wrongly before. I mean surely it’s not that hard is it?? I try really hard not to let it bother me because DD is going to have this for the rest of her life and it’s going to make things stressful for her if she’s constantly getting annoyed by it. We just let it go and make sure all legal documents are right. For the sake of your sanity I advise you do likewise.

My DD's name can legitimately be spelt 4 different ways and is common across Europe. She learnt to spell her name at 2 years old and from then on corrected people who spelt her name wrong.

And yes her nursery spelt her name wrong on multiple occasions.
Her school teachers don't but other children and parents do.

i can tell if she doesn't like a person that much as she will moan about them spelling her name wrong.

YANBU especially since you've corrected it politely several times. A persons name is so important and personal.

When someone starts at work with a long name you've never heard of before, you learn how to pronounce it as soon as possible. When you need to write it down you copy it from somewhere else (like their name on Teams) and if you make a mistake you apologise and be more careful.

You do this out of respect. If someone was still making no attempt to get it right after 2 years of working together (and weren't mortified about this fact upon being corrected) you'd think the person a dick.

Why would it be different for a child?

From what you've said the name isn't even particularly unusual - just not the most common spelling - but even if it was unusual it shouldn't matter.

I'm an ex-teacher and often came across names that were spelled differently than I would immediately have assumed and I got used to them very quickly.

Someone's name is their name. It's not difficult to learn that someone uses Isobel instead of Isabelle (which I think might be the closest I can imagine to the kind of spelling difference you're speaking about).

But even if you were talking about Daniel spelled Danyul then still YANBU - they should learn it!!

Yes the less common spelling will be misspelled regularly but this should ONLY be when first meeting people. It's not hard to care enough to learn. If you've been friends with someone for years and still write "Shaun" instead of "Sean" in their Christmas card because you "forget" after being corrected then you are being rude.

No name or spelling variant should be an issue after 2 years.

YANBU.

As your DC gets older, I'd try encourage them not to be bothered by it because it'll just be easier for them if they don't get wound up every time.

But the nursery definitely should be spelling it right.

Nip it on the bud now. Dc have trophies from secondary still with wrong spelling. With younger ds we insist they have them re made...
Very disrespectful imo.. It it their job to know each dc. Surely that includes knowing their actual name? Not just a version of it...

My son has a name with only one spelling yet a common misspelling. It’s misspelt a lot. We’ve even had personalised items of clothing with the wrong spelling! It’s annoying but at nursery stage, we let it go.

YANBU. I wonder if it has been misspelled on the school’s central management information system and I would ask for a printout to check.

its annoying!

That's definitely annoying.
Can you get your child to actually point it out.
My daughter's Reception teacher spelled her name wrong once (genuine mistake - it was a typo) and my girl told her off quite firmly 😂

Don’t let it bother you. My name also has a few legit spelling variations, as does my surname. People frequently spell both incorrectly but if I let it bother me, I’d be permanently grouchy. However, that being said, I purposely chose a name for DS that has only one spelling and cannot be shortened 😂

If it is a legitimate spelling then YANBU.

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