Nursery keep spelling child’s name wrong

You have no idea of the challenges the member of staff is facing. Your child is going to learn to react to this issue which will undoubtedly come up again and again. React to it sure. But your child is watching how you react to it

Oh I'd definitely say it and I'd be asking them to reprint the report but I'm a petty. My son has an Irish name complete with silent letters and I still expect nursery/ school staff to get it right. It's a bit rude to continually spell someone's name wrong

Can you write a firm letter saying it is important all staff write it correctly?

Having said this my daughter has an easy name eg Emma, she’s been called Esme, Amelia,Ema,Anna - FFS it was only because she spoke early that she insisted and corrected every single time …. Same with other children

This happened to my dd at pre school I let it slide a couple times then like you said I sent a polite but firm email ensuring they spelt her name correctly as it's her identity

I think it says a lot about the person spelling it wrong. I know you have to pick your battles and all that but if someone is not even going to check which spelling it is, or, giving the benefit of the doubt, won't listen when corrected after unintentionally getting it wrong then I don't think they think much of you if despite you correcting it because it's important to you, they just don't bother.

I would get the impression that they couldn't be arsed and don't give a shit, if they're that dismissive of something so small I wouldn't waste my energy on trusting them with something even more important about me, they just aren't that bothered about me.

I have a name that can be misspelt, most people check, and many when they wrongly presume are happy to be corrected and will try to get it right, though some persistently get wrong regardless, the latter could make a bit of effort but they don't so I won't waste energy on someone who can't even bother with something as spelling my name right. I won't necessarily make an issue out of it but their card is marked!

@Needmorelego Good on your daughter Let’s hope she doesn’t have to keep telling people how to spell her name correctly

my name as a few ways of been spelt and people including family members still spell it wrong best thing is they spell it the more complicated way 😆

My DS is called Casper, and it regularly gets spelled Caspar by adults who see it written down a lot. I do correct it if it's a teacher - it's important that teachers model good spelling. Otherwise I just tell him that sometimes people can be a bit spelling-blind, and just to deal with it.

YANBU.

I think this is so beyond rude and I work at a nursery! I work with staff members that pronounce names wrong continuously and I correct them EVERY time.

My name is Kellie as opposed to Kelly and I get this ALL the time and honestly it still infuriates me every time, particularly when people are messaging me on Facebook and can see my name right there!

Ds has an unusual name. He is named after his grandfather who was not English as it is the tradition in their country. The first half of the name sounds like a traditional English boy's name though it ends with an I not a y. I have always called him by this name and in the early years used to write his name with the y spelling but now use the i one as ds prefers that ( he is 20). Ds likes his full name (8 letters) but accepts most people will use the shorter 'English' name.
There is no hyphen in the name but when he started reception I noticed his peg and work sent home had his name spelt English name then the next part of his name with a capital letter - think John A instead of Jonathan. This persisted for a couple of months despite me telling them It was worse in year 3 when I was looking through his school book and saw repeated comments from the teacher 'well done Michael' - she could have looked at the name on the front! His name doesn't even start with a M and doesn't bear the slightest resemblance to the name Michael.

While I agree (and have experience of) unusual spellings mean that other people are always going to be getting it wrong, we aren’t just talking about other people here. It’s his nursery who spend more time with him than virtually anyone except his parents and whom should be teaching him to recognise his name. Them being able to spell it and making sure it’s right when it’s in places he will see it is a basic need for them to do that. And getting it right in a report to parents is basic professionalism. There is no excuse after the first few weeks. I would be raising a fuss, OP. It’s not good enough.

At nursery a child will be learning to recognise then spell their name so it is essential that the correct form of it is used so the child recognises it correctly.

The name should be correct on the system and staff should learn it correctly. It's not like a friend who seldomly has to write it and accidentally picks the wrong alternative each year on a card which is mildly irritating but not of lasting wider consequence.

I changed nurseries for this exact reason. My daughter has a similar name with many accepted spellings and when she moved from toddlers to preschool they changed the spelling and I couldn’t get them to change it back. I asked, I complained, I wrote in and when it was STILL wrong on her peg, I gave notice. I just thought that if they couldn’t even get her name right then what else were they getting wrong? She’s 18 now so I’m confident in saying it made absolutely no difference in the end, but it felt extremely important at the time. 😂

We’ve had this with one letter wrong - think Anthony or Antony. You’re making me feel guilty - we just let it go, but it was at a sports club not nursery or school. I think most of his certificates are in the wrong spelling. The group leader is dyslexic so we’ve not made an issue of it.

My name is a very common name, but women are generally 10-25 years older than me with that name. I worked somewhere 23-26 years ago and throughout the time, there were 6 of us with the same name, fortunately all had different surname initials. I was the youngest by at least 10 years.

There is a version of my name with a different spelling and pronunciation. Get both of these sometimes.

Now my surname, its has about 4 spellings and I have to spell it out to everyone. Its the mispronunciations that grind me. It's a village in Lancs and they pronounce it the same way I do for my surname.

My name has one spelling for female
And a male version

People can't even get that right

If a female is stood in front of you, and you're holding hospital notes that say Samantha, don't wonder why nobody gets up when you shout "Samuel...".

My work signature says Samantha. So does my email
Every day "hi Samuel"

My eldest boy is called Ieuan (Yay-Ann) and the things he's been called, and the spellings we've seen have been incredible!

But Welsh names are important to us and the world has enough Jacks.

Or accept that the child will have a lifetime of correcting people.

So we should all use generic names to appease rude people? I think not...

This is why it really is best to choose names which will tend not to be misspelt.

They should be spelling it right. In your shoes i would push until they spell it right.

However - your DS will probably have this struggle his whole life.

It's shit having a name you can spell in different ways. Worse if no one can spell your surname either! I spent the first 20 years of my life having to spell out my whole first name AND second name on the phone or to anyone filling out any form.

My names aren't even particularly unusual.
First name - only 4 letters - but sometimes has a silent letter in it and can be pronounced differently either way.
Surname - think Griffin, but folks try and spell it Griffen, Grifin, Griffine or Gryfen or all sorts of bloody things!

I thought when i got married it would help but lo and behold my DHs surname name is even worse! He warned me - he said you'll be spelling this out for the rest of your life Laiste, and i said nooooo, can't be worse than my maiden name ..... but he was right! 😩

This is why I wonder if there's an error on the MIS. Staff may be double-checking the name on the register.

Dd had one teacher that always spelled dds name incorrectly. She changed the last two letters eg, Daisy to Daisie.
I corrected her multiple times but nothing changed. In the end it was quite funny, almost like she was did it on purpose.

It's one thing coming from schoolmates, though, Nursery staff and teachers should spell it correctly.

I’m a Charlotte and one of my DMs friends simply would not accept that it was spelt with C. I had birthday and Christmas cards to ‘Sharlotte’ until she passed away. Best one ever was a high school classmate who wrote ‘Sharlet’ on my Christmas card 🤣. Used to annoy me, I just laugh now.