Nursery keep spelling child’s name wrong

Because if you're Kathryn, it will be spelled Catherine at times. Whether because people have only heard it, or because people know multiple Catherine/Katherine/Kathryns and lose track of who uses what spelling or just because people sometimes do things that aren't perfect.

Life will be easier for Kathryn if Catherine doesn't particularly irritate her. If she finds it really annoying to the extent that she resorts to passive aggressively misspelling other names then life will be that tiny bit harder than if she moves on with a little eye roll.

Surely we all want our children to go through life with as little annoyance as possible, and enough resilience that the little things don't get under their skin.

Glad nursery are correcting it OP, I'm sure they aren't rolling their eyes at all.

You keep telling us OP that everyone you know keeps spelling the name incorrectly despite being corrected by you so you clearly have chosen an unusual spelling of a name despite saying you haven't

This thread is pointless and going round in circles

This is appalling,it's important.

Why shouldn't they be bothered,it's their name being spelled incorrectly.
It's really annoying when you have to keep telling teachers the correct spelling.

My son has a child with the same name but different ending.
They kept spelling his name wrong.
So in the end I started to do the same to them,stopped pretty sharpish .

My surname is Smyth.
I am forever asking school to change the kids name pegs/book names at start of school year.

OP YANBU. I nearly cried when DDs name was incorrect on her coat peg at nursery 15 years ago. It took until she was in Year 8 to get every person in her world to spell ISABEL not Isabelle or Isobel or Izzy or Issy. the way we wanted it to be.

They can't be bothered otherwise they'd look it up on their system. They're lazy.

My sister is called Joanna had someone at work write ‘thanks Joan’ that annoyed her no end. I’m Alison and to this day my uncle spells it Allison’

A friend has always spelt my (ex)dh's name wrong. She writes Anasty instead of his proper name - very similar but e instead of a. Makes me laugh - I've never corrected her but obviously have always spelt it correctly in correspondence with her.

It used to drive DS (16) mad at school. He has an Italian name (DH dad was Italian and we have an Italian surname). It’s 4 letters! Pretty easy to spell but school would insist on changing a letter or adding a letter to more English names. Even as young as 5 DS would have no problem correcting them!

Don’t do this either! Why do so many MNers make such passive-aggressive suggestions for perfectly straightforward communication?

I would email asking for YOUR child’s assessment as they have sent the wrong one and perhaps ask if they had sent yours to someone else as they obviously have the children muddled up

If it was one or two instances I’d leave it but the fact it’s the wrong spelling on everything, for two years, would make me want to bring it up quite sternly. Both my names are misspelled or mispronounced frequently and most of the time it doesn’t matter but if I was trying to learn my own name I’d be pretty confused! Is the nursery generally good in other areas? Because they sound a bit lax if they don’t care about this simple thing.

How have friends and family got away with spelling the name wrong for years? Do you correct them?

My mum wrote my auntie’s name wrong in cards for years until I noticed and corrected her. My auntie was very sweet and never said anything but because of that the misspelling had just carried on and on

Oh goodness I have to correct people on how to SAY ds's name.

Yep it's irritating.

DD is 17 now but when they were younger, nursery, infants school and two primaries spelt it wrong constantly. Their name can be ie at the end, or y. We even had someone spell the start with a letter that it's never spelt with, probably down to the bloody Kardashians.

Now? Doesn't happen, they're at 6th now and shortened their name when they registered. Also, no one in the family including us calls them the name and hasn't in years because they have a nickname that has stuck.

You will ask and ask, but I wouldn't waste your breath. It's not done to be offensive, they just have so many kids and so few staff it happens.

Teach your DS his name and spelling at home, then he can point it out. It will come in handy for adulthood! My name has three different spellings, it's always spelt wrong.

My name (as pronounced) is actually only spelt one way, although there are variations on the theme in terms of pronunciation (think Georgia / Georgina). Doesn’t stop people spelling (and pronouncing) it the male way, and also one of the the alternate version ways.

My surname, on the face of it, is very straightforward, has one correct spelling, is English in origin, and gets absolutely butchered in spelling and pronunciation. The result is, I end up getting called things which bear very little resemblance with my full name…I do correct people though. It’s amazing how little they care though!

My maiden name had 6 possible correct spellings and no one ever got it right. Every certificate through school was spelt wrong. I was relieved to get married and now have an easy to spell name with only one spelling. My first name had two common variants, mine is by far the most commonly used and people still get it wrong.

I know they are separate names. I'm just pointing out that when I was growing up Jonathans always used John. I am very old though.

Yes sorry I meant 2nd spelling, Johnnie. Female names used to end with a y and male ie (Lesley, Leslie). I do realise all the "rules" are now out of the window which is why it's much more difficult now and you have to ask.

John and Jonathan are totally separate names with different Biblical sources. The diminutive of Jonathan is Jon, not John.