Nursery keep spelling child’s name wrong

@Tessiebear2023 I love your user name - is that because you are a Teresa?
It was only recently that I learned that Tessie was frequently a nickname for Teresa back in the olden days. I only knew the name from Enid Blyton books (she used it a lot) and read somewhere about it being a nickname.
You don't hear of many Tessie's these days - probably because there aren't many Teresa's 😂

I get this too, my name is Teresa, and people seem to want to add extra letters to it, usually an H or an S, but sometimes an extra E (?!)

Anyway, my schools NEVER got it wrong. I wouldn't let this go, they absolutely should be getting their own pupil's names right, sheesh.

I used to annoyed when primary school got my children’s names wrong especially on certificates etc. But my kids usually once they are old enough told the teacher that they’ve got it wrong. Do you put your child’s name in clothes or water bottles? Labelling everything with the correct spelling will help at nursery I expect and just politely mention it each time they misspell it and they will hopefully get the message. They will have to get their name right at secondary school as it’s on their exam papers and it’s a legality.

My surname has several variants, all valid but it still annoys me when I get letters addressed to me with the wrong spelling. How difficult is it to check? I even got one this week from a firm that wanted me give someone a reference and they couldn't spell my name correctly!

Many children learn to recognise their own name while they are still at nursery. They see it written down and can recognise the shapes, so it IS important for the nursery to spell his name correctly on everything.

Yeaaahhhhh annoying but nooo dont stress

its nursery. Not school

I would check it's right on the school records. DS has a not very common name and we've used a unusually used first letter of it and nursery unfailingly get it correct and therefore so does he. It shouldn't need flagging more than once and would annoy me endlessly

I've got one of those sort of names too. But my school etc. always got it right; unlike most other people who are not very close friends. I sign off every email with my correctly signed name, and people STILL reply with the wrong spelling. I think a lot of people are just thoughtless.

It matters on documents, Official forms and assessments and such.

It doesn’t matter what the spelling is. The nursery should be spelling it the way his name is spelled.

@QueryAutism its so rude and I would keep complaining.

This is what your child is going to have to endure for the rest of his life. My name can be spelled a couple of ways. I don't care if people get it wrong.

Same for my son (now an adult) his name can be spelt 3 ways, we chose the Scottish way, we have Scottish roots and I prefer it to the English spelling. Everyone spells it wrong. However id be a bit miffed off if his school got it wrong.

I have a SIL has one of those names that has 3 spellings, the difference is just how many n's and e's it has. I have some sort of block with it and I just can't remember which one she uses, for over 30 years I need to check her FB every time I write a card!

For your family I would try putting his name visually in front of them as much as possible. Get a bag that says (e.g.) Zach on it and when you visit put it on the table so they keep seeing it, badges, books, anywhere possible until it really sinks into their brains.

Not much you can do with nursery other than keep reminding them, or buy lots of cheap t-shirts/hats etc with Zach in big letters on them!

My name has multiple spellings and I even get called by something entirely different when I say my name over the phone. One of those things I learnt to put up with and laugh off over the years. I’ve had years of correcting people but it’s nothing I’ve got my knickers in a twist over.

This drives me mad. Youngest DS's name has two variants - one just a t and the other th. He has LD and health issues and of course nursery and school, so loads of files and correspondence. Name spelt incorrectly Every Single Time despite being told of error. I just rinse and repeat!

I have a name that has multiple spellings and even a name that is similar but completely different than I get called all the time - it’s so annoying and I’ve been correcting everyone since I was old enough to realise. I’m happy to say though that in school and official settings it was always spelt correctly and this is the least you should expect. YANBU

I have a European colleague with an easy 5 letter name that often gets misspelled. After gently correcting (British) colleagues to no avail, he’s started spelling the perps names wrong as well, much to their annoyance.

Parents have the responsibility to pick a name for their child and if they pick one with alternative spellings this happens.

I've got a name that isn't Karen but is similar. I'm in my 50s and it is still changed to Karen more often than not. Including a building society to open an account when they'd had my application form and passport!

I'm afraid you, and your child, need to accept this and if you have more kids and dont want it repeated, learn from it.

YANBU, an assessment report is an official document and all names ought to be double checked for spelling. On registers and anything like coat pegs and trays it absolutely must be spelt correctly and you'd be right to complain if it isn't.
The only place I'd give them a little leeway is on your son's drawings. Often children hand their drawing to any passing adult who won't necessarily know how to spell their name and will use any common spelling. In a busy nursery class it might have been written by a parent volunteer or a work experience student.
PS in my nursery I have a Jayden, Jaiden, Jaeden, Jaden and Jaydon all within one toddler room :)

This would piss me off, I have 2 children's who's name is often spelt wrong. My youngest has a unusual name so can cope with that. Pretty funny interesting pronunciations also. My eldest tho has a fairly common name and it's often spelt wrong, repeatedly, even by the school.

There are different ways to spell many names (Rhys / Reese, Elliott / Eliot, Aiden / Ayden, Steven / Stephen) and OP should definitely insist that nursery are using the right one so he can learn to spell his name correctly.

At this stage I would write a complaining letter to the manager and follow up with complaint in writing every time they get it wrong. That should focus their attention. Verbal corrections are clearly being ignored

Two issues here for me.

I wouldn’t want my child to keep seeing mis-spellings of their name when they should be trying to get their head round the correct spelling.

Second, and I may be called out for being ‘over the top’ here, I hope the Nursery, who have a duty of care for a child, would be able to give exact, correct, details in an emergency. If they can’t give correct DOB and name to emergency services they aren’t (imo) taking their duty of care seriously. Might be worst case scenario but they do happen.

Bloody annoying and yes they should get the spelling of his name right (tbh so should family and friends) but hopefully it won't confuse him
My DD2 has a name with 3 ways to spell it but we use the most common one and yet all through nursery they got it wrong. Thankfully when she started school they were able to spell it correctly. Perhaps it was easier for DD as the first few letters of her name were the same but she wasn't confused by it.