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To still go on holiday whilst Dad is unwell

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Dinoswearunderpants · 16/04/2024 14:23

It's such a subjective question and I just don't know what to do, please be kind as I'm struggling loads.

We're due to fly to Orlando tomorrow for little ones 3rd birthday. However my Dad is really poorly.

He's been in/out of the hospital for the last 18 months. He's really unwell currently fighting a bad injection.

He's stable but so unwell. He could make a recovery or he could not.

He is adamant we still go on holiday. He doesn't want his grandson missing out. I've explained we could move it to another time but he even shouted at me today saying I must go.

I feel so conficted. I don't want to go against his wishes but also if the worse happened, how could I forgive myself.

I just don't know what to do. I could fly home if he has a turn but I might not make it back in time.

Or he could be getting all the rest he needs whilst we're away and I can see him when we return and perk him up with all the nice stories etc.

WWYD.

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hangingonfordearlife1 · 16/04/2024 14:29

i personally wouldn't go. i spent 5 months during lockdown with my oxygen dependent father who was declining. when airports opened he told me to go home to my husband as we had been apart for so long. i knew my dad was very sick and i probably wouldn't see him again but i live abroad and that's just the way it is. i didn't expect him however to die just two weeks after i left. i still cannot forgive myself and don't think i ever will.