AIBU that the other children are not my responsibility

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Youngandbeautifuliwish · 16/04/2024 13:47

I am aware I may get flamed.
DD has complex medical needs and SEN but is academically able.
we have thankfully a very good EHCP which is fully funded by the LA rather than the budget going to the school and so the LA Employ her 1–1 directly and she follows DD so when DD is in school she is in school
when DD is at home she is at home etc
we are very thankful and it does mean that all DD 1-1 interventions are done and she is dedicated solely to DD.
recently this years school teacher is clearly not happy with the system and keeps raising complaints / changing the routine and being a bit huffy about things and saying things like “ she is not the only child with sen in the class “ aiming at the amount of intervention her 1-1 gives her compared to what the others get. Now she is very complex which is why.
I understand the frustration but we fought hard and along time to get all the support in place it wasn’t something that happened over night.
previous years have been fine and the school are very understanding in terms of management but this year has unraveled a bit and is causing EBSA and school refusal.
I guess usually they can stretch the 1-1 as they please and she is overwhelmed maybe in the class so would like extra help
but I don’t believe this should come from my DD package and however much I wish I could improve sen provision I am not going to allow it to effect my daughter ?

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Chamomileteaplease · 16/04/2024 14:15

If it's just this one teacher, why not ask for a one to one (😂) chat with her and let her express her frustration. You can then counteract with common sense - ie this support worker is there for your daughter only and is not a class helper. Hopefully job done.

LiterallyOnFire · 16/04/2024 14:14

God. SN parenting is a never ending battle, isn't it? I feel tired just reading that. Cheek of them.

I would minimise the energy drain of the situation by politely putting my objection in writing and indicating my willingness to take a complaint to the LA/tribunal. Hopefully they'll back off fast. It could even be that not all staff properly understand the EHCP funding situation.

FictionalCharacter · 16/04/2024 14:12

I wouldn’t be at all impressed with the teacher’s attitude. She has no business aiming her complaints and huffing in your direction. If she needs support with the rest of the class she needs to speak to the HT. If she thinks other pupils need more support in school she should speak to their parents. None of it is your problem or your business.

AcheyBalzac · 16/04/2024 14:12

Must preface this by saying I know nothing about any of this – SEN provision, schools – however I think this teacher’s behaviour is unacceptable and you would be well justified in complaining. The provision your daughter has been granted is none of this teacher’s concern, and it sounds as though their behaviour is actually deleterious to your DD’s needs and ability to learn. Not helpful to your daughter or any of the other students.

Devilsmommy · 16/04/2024 14:10

Your daughter's 1-1 is rightfully hers, you fought to get it and I'm sorry but the other parents who have sen children in the class need to fight for their own. Why should your daughter lose out and be negatively affected, those other children are not your responsibility

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Youngandbeautifuliwish · 16/04/2024 14:06

@murasaki no its more when they are at school and doing her 1-1 interventions.

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murasaki · 16/04/2024 14:01

You fought your battle, the other parents need to fight theirs. If the TA is at home when your daughter is and that's permitted by your EHCP then surely that's the end of it. Are they genuinely suggesting someone they don't pay for goes to the school when your daughter can't, thus depriving her of any education and support she can get at home on those days?

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