Thinking that women would benefit if they were more open minded about height in a potential partner…

@IntermittentFarting This is true. DH is a foot taller than me & I like kissing him when we're on stairs & I can be closer to him in height!

Hahaha fair do's 🤣 we are all different!

Hmm.. you won't get a crick in your neck kissing him!

I've been skipping about in this thread - have we still not had the list of benefits to women?

I can't say OP's friend sounds like much of a catch, so no benefit there. Your suggested benefit made me laugh, though, so thanks for that. Anyone got any more? Maybe being able to borrow some of his clothes?

Noo! 🙃
Have you really seen anyone say or imply this to a woman in these circs? I sincerely hope not, and that someone called it out, if so.

Mind you, the way AIBU is going these days.... 😞

If OP doesn't want to be thought of as an incel/tedious MRA, OP shouldn't sound so much like one. If it waddles like a duck...

One thing I like about tall men is that the ones I've known socially have all been laid back kind of guys. I discussed this with (tall) DH many moons ago, wondering whether the extra height makes them unafraid of other men & therefore more relaxed. This in turn might make them more attractive to potential partners.

Some short men OTOH... Oh dear. A woman once said to me that she'd had a failed date with a pompous, up-himself bloke who swore a lot. I jokingly said (using every sterotype in the book), "Was he short & a director of his own company, who drives a Jaguar?". She looked at me in astonishment & asked, "You know him???".😂

Actually, my experience has been that IRL, men worry far more about height than women do. Judging only by OLD is inaccurate (but easier to access from your Mum's basement). Men compare themselves to one another a lot, & are aware of their pecking order, in a way which traditional wisdom holds that only women do/are. This is not new. I was astonished to read about guys lying about their height, not just online but in person & even when face to face with a man who actually is the first man's claimed height - & is several inches taller than him!

“ But it does bother him sometimes- he always tries to stand on tiptoe or be on a higher chair if we are having a photo taken.”

🤢 think my fanny would be as dry as the fucking Sahara Desert for this man

Yes OP, of course, women are all so shallow and all of us only want to date men who are over 6 foot, course we do , in fact, the 5’8 man I’ve been in a relationship with for the last 14 years is getting kicked out for being too short right after I post this. Meanwhile men are never shallow and all of them are delighted to date a woman taller than they are 🙄

Why don’t you mind your own business? People are free to date whoever they want.

Staying for the money? Well they’re clearly a gold digger or cock lodger cough

Oh so op is a missionary for the way of short.
But not her, she's enlightened, the heathens can have her short, stringing his wife along friend.
Can't wait for this list of benefits. The only one I can see is that if a short man tries to assault me I've a slightly better chance (but not much) of throwing him off.

Yes it is definitely a thing and I agree with you OP. We are socially conditioned to think the man must be taller. I am a tall female (5ft 8) and my partner is slightly shorter than me by an inch, it doesn't bother me at all he's amazing. But it does bother him sometimes- he always tries to stand on tiptoe or be on a higher chair if we are having a photo taken. Makes me sad that he feels insecure about his height.

Yes, it's like the difference between "man hating women", who speak out about male behaviour, use pattern recognition, or simply try to stay away from men, and women hating men, who rape, abuse and murder women, every day, in every country.

"Misandry" has absolutely no societal impact at all.

My first thought was that women don't hold out for men over 6 ft. But then I realised that, with one exception, I've never had a boyfriend who was under 6ft. So maybe subconsciously I'm attracted to taller men

DH is 6'1", but when I met him he was very skinny (10 stone 7lbs) and I was initially put off by that.

What I was very attracted to with DH was his brilliant sense of humour, his compassion and his world view. That would have been the same if he'd been 6 inches shorter.

You know, you might actually be right. If she hated being kidnapped that much, surely she'd have improved her security by now.

I don't recall many posts from women saying they stay in shit relationships because they'd not find anyone better; usually it's because they're financially dependent, can't afford another house with three kids in tow, are browbeaten or frightened by violence, or some other fallout if they leave.
If anyone does say she's staying put because she'll struggle to find someone else, I don't agree that she'd get nothing but sympathy. More likely she'd be told to get some self respect and let her chap go and find someone who appreciates him.

Why is it beyond your imagination that he’s staying for companionship, shared lifestyle and commitment to their family life?

OP literally said he's staying with his wife because he thinks he'd struggle to find anyone else!

And being rude like that really doesn't add weight to your argument... I think it actually diminishes it.

Is he though? I'm beginning to think she's more into 10 ft armoured turtle monsters.

She has to be little spoon though.

Maybe, but he's good enough for the princess!

@Moonfishstar, clearly, a guy of 5'4" without very significant wealth or fame is going to struggle.
The strange thing is why this would be a reason to stay in a marriage? As a man, I find that odd. If it is purely for get sex, frankly there other ways. Perhaps, I am more selifsh than most men: getting out a serious relationships, I have always enjoyed having less demands of me and even having a clean place to stay that is harder in a relationship.
It seems he has some deeper emotional need there.

I think they meansmooth talking dark haired lotharios of 6ft plus with rippling torsos rather than Mario.

Italian men are unattractive - said no woman ever, perfect example as they tend to be fairly short. Also most women in Europe generally including the UK are around 5ft 3.

And women will fear being seen as a Karen, a humourless hag, a harpy, an uptight bitch, in a way men are not.

"Shocking and blatant", no less.

Shocking, I tell you! SHOCKING! And BLATANT!

Given the firestorm of Internet misogyny on any given day, up to and including death and rape threats, demands to choke on a penis and violent pornography, I can't help but feel these guys might be too delicate for the discussion if this is what SHOCKING AND BLATANT hatred looks like to them.

Maybe they do. But instigating a grievance for sexual harassment or bullying is no walk in the park for women either, particularly when the perpetrator is senior and more powerful. Yet countless of us have had to grasp the nettle, and in doing so have helped create a culture where the abuse of us in the workplace is (officially at least) less tolerated. If men want to bring about a similar shift and I could contribute usefully, as a witness for example, then I would. But I'm not going to be diverting my energies away from supporting women and girls to take up the cause they are too fearful to take up on their own behalf any time soon.

Agreed, shocking and blatant misandry…

Misandry! BINGO!

Yeah, isn't OP just great to be doing this work for someone's soon-to-be-ex with all his sterling qualities so he has a better chance of upgrading to an improved model?

What are the odds his wife has posted on MN about her obnoxious husband ...