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Thinking that women would benefit if they were more open minded about height in a potential partner…

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Moonfishstar · 16/04/2024 13:08

… and not write off the majority of men who are under 6 foot (85%).

Women seem to be fighting for a small proportion of men - with the disappointment that will inevitably bring to the many who inevitably won’t succeed. Of course, it’s even crapper for the good,
but short, men out there.

Of course, we all fancy who we fancy, and I’m not saying we should date shorter (or even average!) men out of pity or a “sense of fairness”, but how much of women’s desire to bag a tall guy is actually societal, and down to how they think other women will view them?

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iLovee · 16/04/2024 13:16

What women do you know in real life?

SoOriginal · 16/04/2024 13:15

Agree with pp, not something I’ve experienced or seen in friendship groups. All friends are dating/married so someone under 6ft. I am too. In fact, I avoided the taller men as I’m only 5’3. Where does your stat come from?

ComtesseDeSpair · 16/04/2024 13:15

Physical attraction isn’t fair or logical or an equal opportunities exercise. It’s also not something that anyone can force themselves to feel because “be kind.” Ultimately that means that sometimes people of both sexes will find themselves being rejected for being short, overweight, bald, having an odd face, having small boobs or any manner of other physical characteristics. Height has never been something that bothers me personally, I’ve had several partners the same height as or slightly shorter than me; but there are other characteristics I’m not attracted to, and that’s fine.

Begsthequestion · 16/04/2024 13:14

I've never actually met a woman who tries to adhere to this supposed 6ft barrier. Only seen American men complaining about this on Reddit.

I personally don't care about height and have dated taller and shorter people than me.

JamSandle · 16/04/2024 13:14

I dont know any women in real life who are only holding out for 6'4 guys. My friends are in relationships with men of all sorts of heights. It's only online you seem to read this stuff.

DerekFaker · 16/04/2024 13:14

I voted YABU because I don't believe that this is a widespread thing. Sounds like something incels like to moan about rather than reality.

Catza · 16/04/2024 13:13

Who are these women? Do we have statistics to support your statement that all women (or even the majority) write off guys under 6 foot? I am tall-ish at 5'7 my partner is nowhere near 6'. In fact, I don't particularly fancy tall men on average. Obviously, height is neither here nor there when it comes to actually having a relationship but I tend to notice shorter and heavier built guys more so than tall ones.

Youcannotbeseriousreally · 16/04/2024 13:13

Of course we could have more options if we flexed on any search criteria. That said, I’d never date anyone under 5’11 , luckily my now husband is 6’4. Short doesn’t do it for me at all. I think it’s related to feeling smaller beside them and not like an elephant? I wouldn’t date a really skinny guy either for the same reason!

the dating scene was brutal for many many reasons so no amount of flex really helps!

skippy67 · 16/04/2024 13:13

I wouldn't date someone shorter than me. It's none of my business if others choose to. Bit of a weird post OP.

AllTheWatersTurnedToClouds · 16/04/2024 13:13

I just want one taller than me, and I’m nearly 6’ in heels 🤷‍♀️

small men make me feel butch, which I don’t like

Sadiee0 · 16/04/2024 13:12

I dont know anyone who will only date someone over 6ft. In fact out of all of my friends and family I can only think of 1 couple with the DH being over 6ft.