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Thinking that women would benefit if they were more open minded about height in a potential partner…

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Moonfishstar · 16/04/2024 13:08

… and not write off the majority of men who are under 6 foot (85%).

Women seem to be fighting for a small proportion of men - with the disappointment that will inevitably bring to the many who inevitably won’t succeed. Of course, it’s even crapper for the good,
but short, men out there.

Of course, we all fancy who we fancy, and I’m not saying we should date shorter (or even average!) men out of pity or a “sense of fairness”, but how much of women’s desire to bag a tall guy is actually societal, and down to how they think other women will view them?

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Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 16/04/2024 13:36

Among all my female friends, I only know one woman who has a height preference, the rest just want a decent man, height (and, in most cases, looks) are fairly irrelevant. My youngest daughter is taller than her partner, she towers over him in heels and neither of them care. I've always like a man the same height as me (5'6) because I don't like big men, makes me feel like I'm out with my Dad.

TheFairyCaravan · 16/04/2024 13:35

DH is 6ft4. I didn’t go out looking for a tall man. I’m 5ft 4 so he’s quite handy to have around tbh.

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Moonfishstar · 16/04/2024 13:35

Spirallingdownwards · 16/04/2024 13:33

Hi OP. Out of interest are you male and shorter than 6 foot tall?

No!

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AllPrincessAnneshorses · 16/04/2024 13:34

Moonfishstar · 16/04/2024 13:30

There’s tons of evidence on this… masses of it. Here’s another one:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/after-service/201909/5-reasons-why-women-and-men-care-about-height?amp

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Translation: I really want women to "admit " how terrible they are for not fancying me, so I won't listen to their real life experience, just cherry pick so called studies that " prove" all women think a certain way.
Maybe it's the vibes you give off, mate?

Goldenbear · 16/04/2024 13:34

Moonfishstar · 16/04/2024 13:27

This isn’t an incel thing, and I’m definitely not an incel by any measure 🤣. Here’s another article.

https://www.eviemagazine.com/post/only-15-women-interest-58-men-dating-apps-according-survey

You may say it doesn’t apply to you (and even your friends) and that you don’t care, but to say it’s not “a thing” is to be blind to the evidence.

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I’m married and mid 40s I met my 5ft 8 husband 19 years ago in person so it is not a thing to me as I didn’t use an app.

surely it depends on statistics of your average height of a man in the country you live in. In the UK, I’m unsure of the average but I doubt it is as tall as the average in Denmark for example. It therefore seems a bit silly to have no context for this.

YaWeeFurryBastard · 16/04/2024 13:34

I used to think I’d only date a “tall” man, 5’10 plus (I’m 5’3), then I met my husband who’s 5’6 and I thank my lucky fucking stars every day that I decided to ignore my “criteria” and meet up with him. I was hooked from day 1. He is an absolute gem and pretty hot to match. We have a bloody wonderful life and we’re now married and trying for a baby after years of being single.

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Moonfishstar · 16/04/2024 13:34

AllPrincessAnneshorses · 16/04/2024 13:29

And as the female average is about 5ft 3 or 4, that's plenty of leeway.
DH is 5ft 8. I'm 5ft 1. Perfect.
OP, not recognising your sweeping statement in any way. Feels whiny and more than a touch sexist.

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Of course there are many shorter men with partners, and I’m not saying “every” woman will only date a tall man… but in general, it’s difficult to deny that stats.

I’m absolutely NOT saying that women should date shorter men to be “politically correct”… Just wondering (for those who do prefer their men to be tall) how much it’s actually innate attraction, and how much is socialised.

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Onetiredbeing · 16/04/2024 13:34

SallyWD · 16/04/2024 13:32

I feel better if a man is taller than me but they certainly don't need to be 6ft. My DH is 5ft 10 and that's fine.

Same here. I'm 5'3 so that's fine and I'm sure it would be fine if I was a bit taller too.

Spirallingdownwards · 16/04/2024 13:33

Hi OP. Out of interest are you male and shorter than 6 foot tall?

Cosycover · 16/04/2024 13:33

I'm not attracted to small men.

Don't like blonde hair either.

Small hands.

Men who smoke or take drugs.

How far we taking this OP?

Should I be finding a short arsed blonde small handed junkie?

CranfordScones · 16/04/2024 13:33

I think a lot of women rule out potentially great partners for spurious reasons. At the same time, attraction doesn't yield to rational pleading.

I can't imagine someone citing height as grounds for divorcing a partner so, to me, it seems odd to use it as a strict selection criterion. Suppose a man was ideal and perfect in every other way - would you compromise on that one factor?

PersonalityofaVacuum · 16/04/2024 13:32

I'm a 5"2 lesbian.
I need them 5 inches taller or I won't touch them-agree with a PP about feeling 'butch' otherwise. If that minimises my dating pool then fair enough.

SallyWD · 16/04/2024 13:32

I feel better if a man is taller than me but they certainly don't need to be 6ft. My DH is 5ft 10 and that's fine.

MightyGoldBear · 16/04/2024 13:31

In my opinion women are most interested In dating good, healthy non toxic misogynistic abusive men regardless of height.

I don't know anyone that cares about height.

AllPrincessAnneshorses · 16/04/2024 13:31

Moonfishstar · 16/04/2024 13:27

This isn’t an incel thing, and I’m definitely not an incel by any measure 🤣. Here’s another article.

https://www.eviemagazine.com/post/only-15-women-interest-58-men-dating-apps-according-survey

You may say it doesn’t apply to you (and even your friends) and that you don’t care, but to say it’s not “a thing” is to be blind to the evidence.

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All that proves is that dating apps are crap and full of shallow people.

Begsthequestion · 16/04/2024 13:31

Is it an American thing? Or a dating apps thing? Because it's not a real world thing over here in UK.

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Moonfishstar · 16/04/2024 13:30

eyeslikebutterflies · 16/04/2024 13:19

What are you on about? Where's your evidence? Agree with the poster above who said it all sounds a bit incel-y.

OP, all the men in my family including my son, dad, husband, brother and brothers-in-law are under 6 foot. They all have partners, wives, girlfriends. No one I know gives two shits that they're not this weird mythical height you've invented as essential to attracting a woman. What a load of bollocks.

There’s tons of evidence on this… masses of it. Here’s another one:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/after-service/201909/5-reasons-why-women-and-men-care-about-height?amp

5 Reasons Why Women and Men Care About Height

Research reveals how height influences our romantic and professional lives.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/after-service/201909/5-reasons-why-women-and-men-care-about-height?amp

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PeaceOnThePorch · 16/04/2024 13:30

It’s personal preference, they can date who they like. If they’re dating tall men because they’re thinking of how others view them, more fool them, but it’s still their choice.

All the men I’ve dated have been between 5’8 and 5’11. I’m not into tall men at all.

AllPrincessAnneshorses · 16/04/2024 13:29

aodirjjd · 16/04/2024 13:16

ditto. I often hear women say they prefer men taller or as tall as them but that’s it.

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And as the female average is about 5ft 3 or 4, that's plenty of leeway.
DH is 5ft 8. I'm 5ft 1. Perfect.
OP, not recognising your sweeping statement in any way. Feels whiny and more than a touch sexist.

RaraRachael · 16/04/2024 13:29

I wouldn't date anybody shorter than me. They'd need to be at least 5 inches taller than me so that, if I was wearing heels, they'd still be a couple of inches taller than me so around 6 feet.

Tatas · 16/04/2024 13:27

Tbh it's quite a big thing - I've seen if from friends / colleagues / family, even from people under 5"5!

I wouldn't date under 6", because they'd be shorter than me 😂 everyone has physical preferences, I wouldn't be looking for a short slim man because I'd look like a she hulk. Similarly my DH wanted a tall partner so he didn't feel like a he hulk!

DerekFaker · 16/04/2024 13:27

Moonfishstar · 16/04/2024 13:23

It definitely seems to be a thing on dating apps for example. Maybe it’s those who use dating apps, or an age thing?

https://medium.com/@whitep/women-have-hilarious-height-requirements-for-men-according-to-bumble-992862ba7772#:~:text=Even%20extremely%20tall%20men%20seem,feet%20guys%20in%20their%20search.

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Hmn indeed dating apps could be an issue.

I think meeting someone the old fashioned way, i.e in person, you'd be able to have a chat first and see if you click, which in my experience is one of the most important things. I definitely can't see women saying "No, don't talk to me, you're too short!" in real life.

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Moonfishstar · 16/04/2024 13:27

SocksAndTheCity · 16/04/2024 13:22

Yeah, textbook incel post without any context or examples. What say you, OP?

This isn’t an incel thing, and I’m definitely not an incel by any measure 🤣. Here’s another article.

https://www.eviemagazine.com/post/only-15-women-interest-58-men-dating-apps-according-survey

You may say it doesn’t apply to you (and even your friends) and that you don’t care, but to say it’s not “a thing” is to be blind to the evidence.

Only 15% Of Women Show Interest In 5'8" Men On Dating Apps, According To Survey

Only 15% Of Women Show Interest In 5'8" Men On Dating Apps, According To Survey

Focusing on women and celebrating what makes them so unique, Evie Magazine helps women seek truth and find beauty...the kind that really matters.

https://www.eviemagazine.com/post/only-15-women-interest-58-men-dating-apps-according-survey

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aperolspritzbasicbitch · 16/04/2024 13:26

Surely it's just a personal preference? Going against your preference may open up the market a bit, but what's the point if you aren't truly attracted to them?!

There's someone for everyone.

My biggest turn off in a man is long hair (which works well for my DP, as he's bald!)
If I was suddenly single and started dating male Rapunzels it would be more desperation than anything else?

MonsterSister · 16/04/2024 13:26

My huge statistically significant sample of two says that DS1, 6ft, struggles much more to find partners than DS2, 5ft7 in thick soles.

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