Thinking that women would benefit if they were more open minded about height in a potential partner…

Perhaps she had an urgent need for the fondue set and there were no stools in stock?
Or perhaps she was joking...? I'm leaning towards one of these as the explanation, but can't quite make my mind up which is most likely...

I think that comment was tongue in cheek.

For me personally it's nothing to do with society
I have a visceral reaction to tall men. I think it's massively sexy. It adds hugely to my enjoyment of their body and to sex in general. It literally makes me giddy. I'll stop now 😂

So rather than buy a stool for £10 you'd risk a lifetime of misery with an unsuitable man just because he is tall ?

OK then. People on here go on about making good choices ...

I'm 5'5'' and my husband is 5'7'' (5'6'' and 5'8'' respectively when we met twenty odd year ago) and I can honestly say I hadn't even considered men's heights as a factor when dating. I don't think my friends did either but I could be wrong, it was just never discussed.

More recently though an acquaintance was dating and she was adamant about 6' being her minimum height for a man - I thought that was quite odd as she is only 5'1''. She is not someone I would be interested in a friendship with though as she is very into comparing and competing with others (and letting them know with the jellyfish comments). So, from my tiny sample I can come to the very unscientific conclusion that is only women who are a bit unpleasant who think like this and the average/short men are at an advantage as they weed themselves out 😏

I always preferred men taller than me, but I'm 164 cm., so not really hard to be taller than me. OH is 192 cm.

My Boyfriend who was a decent height got totally obsessed that I was going to run off with one of them.

Well to be fair, he wasn't wrong.

I had friends at Uni who were over 6ft. My Boyfriend who was a decent height got totally obsessed that I was going to run off with one of them. He was a nice guy other than this. Until he became a jerk.

He was obsessed with one particular friend who was tall and dark. I ran off with friend. "Reader, I married him". It wasn't about height, he was just far lovelier than my BF.

@Whycantiwinmillionsandsquillions i absolutely agree with your assessment of what a lot of men describe as “naturally besituful” !

"Naturally beautiful in a man’s eyes is someone wearing make up but they can’t tell that they have foundation on, blusher, concealer, mascara, lipstick, bronzer, lip filler plus their blond hair is bleached."

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Yes yes yes I've lost count of single friends who won't consider a potential boyfriend because they aren't 6ft plus. Bloody stupid in my opinion but then I like shorter men anyway but wouldn't say no to a talk one if he was lovely lol

I agree with what someone else said. Being short can’t be seen as unattractive otherwise we would have died out a long time ago. There’s an awful lot of short people, I think I read the average female height in the UK is 5 3 which shorter than I would have guessed.

I'm 5'11, and would feel uncomfortable having a partner shorter than me.

What people forget about dating apps is that it's basically a catalogue where you pick and choose your requirements. Most people will then look for someone who fulfills 80% or more of their "list" because it's easily quantifiable and makes it simple to filter when you have 100s of potential matches. I would surmise that if instead of a dating app, you met the people with characteristics you weren't too keen on in real life eg religious, kids, hobbies you'd be a lot less likely to write them off straight away.

5 years is hardly an age difference worth mentioning!

I only married my 6ft 1 husband so he can reach things that I can’t get to in the cupboards.

Not a problem for me as I'm only 5ft. In fact I never go for tall men. It's just physically uncomfortable having my face naturally lining up with their armpit and I get a cricked neck from having to look upwards all the time!

My nan was only about 5'2" and was 5yrs younger than my grandad, who was a few inches shorter than her. Love doesn't care how tall someone is or about age differences!

Out of 5 of us as a female friend group, 4 of us have DH (well) under 6 foot, the fifth has a wife who also is under 6 foot!!! I have honestly yet to come across someone who says their potential partner has to be over 6 foot

If this was such a problem and we all only mated with men over 6 feet then all men would be over 6 feet due to natural selection. The fact there are short men means there are plenty of people happy to reproduce with them

I know quite a few couples like this and think she must be stronger than him!

Highly unlikely. The way men and women have muscle distributed and used is very different. A very fit bodybuilder might be stronger in some areas than a man, but a very overweight woman won't help strength much at all seeing as men have a much higher muscle to fat ratio and advantage in things like hand strength.

I think it also depends on the build of the couple. If you look at Rosie H-W and Jason Statham, he seems very much the masculine one and her the feminine. But then she’s very slight and delicate looking, he’s well built and has a very strong face. I notice physical differences more if she’s very overweight and he’s very thin - I know quite a few couples like this and think she must be stronger than him!

I beg to differ lol

Of course women value height, it's a primal, biological thing in the same way a hip to waist ratio for women is a perceived biological indicator of fertility. Lots of studies on this. On this aspect YANBU to suggest its an aspect of appearance that women do consider in a partner.

However, it's silly to then suggest that noone who meets that criteria can ever find a partner. Just walk down the street and you'll see all kinds of couples with varying body shapes and sizes. Of the happy couples I know, there are women who are taller than their partners, women who are overweight, men who are overweight, men who are much, much shorter than 6ft etc etc. So YABVU to suggest that certain body types are doomed to be single forever because this simply isnt true. If this were the case, then no men under say, 5'6" would ever be in relationships and they'd be permanently single. Which clearly isnt the case.

Regarding your friend, the fact that he is looking for a back up option before he leaves his wife is deeply unattractive and frankly unrealistic. What woman (even if she was fine with his height) would want to date a married man who is still entangled with his ex and is using her as the excuse to get a divorce. I would run a mile from a man with that kind of attitude even if he was 6'2" because it's fcked up and a huge red flag. If he really wants a successful relationship, he needs to divorce his wife first, be properly single and available, and then look for a partner. If his wife wanted to marry him, then surely that proves that he can find someone else! If his height really was a complete dealbreaker then he wouldnt have found someone to marry in the first place (so this completely negates what he told you). I suspect his issue isnt really about his height at all. He actually doesnt sound like a very pleasant person.

Also, I am still wondering what these alleged "benefits" are that you keep mentioning as you did not seem to concern yourself with them when you chose your tall partner....

I think the op definitely has a point.
Lots if people are conditioned to view certain attributes as attractive.
Tall, dark and handsome?
I reduced my height limit after giving my head a wobble and realising that as long as my oh was taller than me he didn’t need to be over 6 feet tall.
That’s how I met dh. He isn’t tall but he is taller than me.
I think lots of stereotypes come into play subconsciously.
Such as a man wanting to date a women who is a size 10 and naturally beautiful.
Reality check: men have no idea what a size 10 looks like. Is that a woman’s Jean size or bra size for example? How do they know the dress they are wearing is not a size 12 for example, they don’t.
Naturally beautiful in a man’s eyes is someone wearing make up but they can’t tell that they have foundation on, blusher, concealer, mascara, lipstick, bronzer, lip filler plus their blond hair is bleached.
What makes a relationship last is not how tall someone is.
Of course you have to be physically attracted to the person too. But physical attributes will not make you blissfully happy in 50 years time. The actual person will.