Thinking that women would benefit if they were more open minded about height in a potential partner…

I agree but I feel the same way about tall men who want prizes for it.

I do think this is a dating app phenomenon rather than something that generally happens in real life.

I notice that the women on Love Island always yap on about wanting tall men. I suppose to make them feel even more petite and miniscule.

Yeah in real I don’t know anyone that cares apart from the whole wanting the guy to be taller than them. I’m 5ft 5 and dh is 5ft7.

I don’t mind shorter men, what I do mind is shorter men who are chippy about it. I matched with a guy on a dating app, the first thing he wrote in response to my opening message was “have you read my profile” which I thought was a bit abrupt, I responded with a “yes, of course” and then I got a voice note back saying had I seen his height on there going on and on. I had seen it, it hasn’t bothered me, but it was such a turn off that the first 3 messages I had from him were banging on about it. No height doesn’t bother me…it does bother a lot of men though.

I love a shorty! Any "short" man I've ever dated has assumed I'm sacrificing something.

but how much of women’s desire to bag a tall guy is actually societal, and down to how they think other women will view them

I can’t speak for other women, only myself. I couldn’t give two frogs how other women see me. Just don’t care, never have. Historically I’ve never been attracted to a man under 6’, I didn’t ever limit myself to men over 6’, just never been attracted to anyone under. I’m short, pretty much on 5’. I’m sure that there have likely been men who didn’t find my height attractive, and nor were they obliged to. So what?

Of course, we all fancy who we fancy, and I’m not saying we should date shorter (or even average!) men out of pity or a “sense of fairness”, but how much of women’s desire to bag a tall guy is actually societal, and down to how they think other women will view them?

I can only speak for myself but it's definitely a case of the former for me.

Ditto. (But I'm not 6')

The fact that I am much bigger than my DH would make it even worse if he was shorter than me.

It is the only "rule" I had when dating.

As the average woman is (allegedly) 5'5" there are plenty who wouldn't want a guy over 6'!

Eh? I’ve never met anyone who said height was a problem.

I know absolutely loads of men under 6' - some of them are really quite short and they're all paired up, so this is obviously nonsense in the real world. I can think of several couples I know where the man is shorter.

Having said that, I'm very tall and have only once been in a relationship with someone smaller than me - not just shorter but quite petite, and he made me feel like total shit because of his insecurities. I ended up feeling like an elephant (I really wasn't) and have not looked at a short man since.

I'm really really small by bloke standards and have never personally encountered this anywhere in my real life, although it's a very common theme with online dating and is also a common discussion on here.

But in my life no one has ever said "you're too small I can't go out with you"

They might have thought it and just been polite though but it's not been something I've really had to think about

I'm 5.9.. DH is 5.5.. I've always dated shorter guys. No particular reason, I just liked who I liked.
Could also be said for men who don't date tall women.. also a thing 🤔

Ok sure, if you change the whole premise of your post it might make a bit more sense. Sure.

Glad we cleared that up for you.

I'm 5'9 and my wife is 5'2 - no problems here.

I worked in an office with this, how shall we say, facially challenged bloke, who thought he was irresistible to women JUST because he was 6'3. 😬 Height isn't everything.

I've dated men from my own height up to 6'3". I don't think about height when I get to know someone, I think about whether I fancy him.

And if I don't, then I don't. I can't help it.

True. It seems to be a non negotiable for many men. The whole a man should be taller than the woman he is with thing works both ways.

How many men would be happy being in a relationship with women a lot taller than them? I've only ever been with 1 person who was smaller than me and that was only by a tiny amount.

I wouldn't be happy being half a foot taller than my partner and I can't see the man being happy with me being half a foot taller than him! It's shallow I suppose.

Oh god definitely not Rishi 🤢

I think you need to change your thread title to men would benefit tbh. Who are you to tell women what they should find attractive or not OP?

maybe all the men under 6ft can identify as taller and then we’ll be told to accept that ludicrous lie too

I'm 5ft8" and my lovely DH was 5ft6" when we married but now that he is older he has shrunk a little. I'd say I'm about 5" taller than him now. Doesn't bother me one jot.

I suspect op is a small man.

Oi. My husband is 5ft 8 and he's perfect just the way he is thank you very much 🤣

Or that they don't make logical sense and must be ingrained by society or a result of trying to one-up other women, because women don't have inherent individual desires.

I expect most women do prefer a tall man in the same way most men would prefer a superfit and very naturally beautiful woman. Most of us are aware that we're not physically perfect and that in a long term, mature relationship, while attraction is important, other things matter more than our partner embodying every physical preference and fantasy that we have.

Ha - I bloody hope not! I have heard he's short, but that's not the reason he's unattractive. Wonder who this small but objectively attractive man is.