Thinking that women would benefit if they were more open minded about height in a potential partner…

Yes some short men are twats, and Rishi is one of them. Just as some tall men are twats! And some middling men.

This...

Maybe occasionally, on online dating, years ago...for some women..

Whenever I hear one demographic complaining about "women" or "men" not wanting them, what they normally mean is "the kind of women and men I feel entitled to".

I've previously met shorter guys online dating knowing their heights.

Honestly the issues with things not continuing were normally more holistic/personality based...at no time did I think "if they were 6 foot this wouldn't have happened!". Height was irrelevant.

And I got the impression they had plenty of female attention, previous relationships as well.

I get what you mean OP.

My partner is only a tad taller than me and i'm not close to 6ft, but I would never had considered him had we not instantly clicked. It really challenged my preconceived notion of "taller the better".

I don't care about a man's height. My very tall female friend at uni was quite nasty about it to men's faces. If they tried to talk to her she was horrid and said sorry you're too short go away. I am a bit taller than DH when I wear high heels. One of my sons is very small in height and worries about it. I'm not worried because I know not all women are like my uni friend and he's a great, caring lad with clear morals.

To be fair all this is definitely a thing on MN.

I would even say my own mother is somewhat proud of having a 6’2” son which is daft in my opinion.

My exh is 5’8” (not one of the reasons he’s an exh, although I do think it played into his ridiculous “equalism” where he refused to acknowledge male privilege). My son won’t be particularly tall - I’ve prepared him for that already, although the NHS “red book” thinks he’ll be about 5’10”, which is probably a good height to never have you height remarked on.

I found him unattractive long before I found out how tall he was. Doubt I would change my mind if he was a foot taller!

I wasn't aware women had this criteria - they'd be on a hiding to nothing in parts of Glasgow.

I would probably prefer 5ft 9 or over but if I was really into someone I wouldn't care.

It does remind me of being 15 though and having a 14 year old boyfriend who hadn't yet had his growth spurt and as we walked into the cinema I heard someone shouting "she's taller than him" and much laughter.

I know quite a few couples where the woman is taller than the man (generally the woman is 5'8+). It's never been an issue. I wouldn't likely be attracted to a man shorter than me, but at 5'2, that seems unlikely...my DH is 5'10, so under 6' still.

That’s so funny if you’ve gone and made a profile just to say this!

Im sorry Rishi - you aren’t the perfect man of whom I spoke.

It's pin money compared to your wife's income Rishi.

The thing I don’t like about SOME short men on OLD is that they lie about it. If someone has started off looking for a relationship with a lie, that’s it for me.

I have no problem dating someone who is 5’6” as I am. What I do object to is someone who has lied about their height - or their job or anything else.

Men with short man syndrome may lie about height, where stacked shoes etc.

Whereas a man with good principles - who is brave, kind, reliable and selfless - is very attractive at any height.

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Never a problem for (multi-millionaire) me!

Exactly the same. I'm 5'9 and my husband is 6'2.
Tallest I've ever dated was 6'8 and I loved feeling 'small' compared to him.
I'll admit to preferring if my husband was 6'4 or above as then I'd be smaller in heels

I’m kind of with you on this a bit. I am 5’8, so tallish for a woman. I always had in mind that I was only interested in men who are a good bit taller than me - so 6’2 plus really.

Then I met DH, he’s the same height as me. So smallish for a man, and on paper I would have ruled him out as too small (and I was internet dating at the time!) but he was funny, and attractive to me, so I dated him. But I literally had to give my brain a talking to that it was not weird to date a guy the same height as me! Mad!

Now, I really like that we’re the same size, it’s like a visual representation of the equality in our relationship 🤣

When they’ve got hollow legs, play sports for their country and polish off a box of cereal and a loaf of bread when they eat toast, it’s no wonder they’re all 6 footers at age 13 though. I suppose if it wasn’t for them only getting a tiny portion of chicken as a chicken feeds 10 for 2 weeks, they’d be even taller. 🤣

I can’t think of a couple I know where the woman is taller, so it’s I think it’s the relative height that matters. There are other factors though. Maybe both wives of millionaire Bernie Ecclestone (5’2”) were overcome by his sparkling personality.

It should depend on the height of the woman, surely. I kind of expect a partner to be taller than me, but I'm 5'5 so not too much of an ask. If you are 5 nothing I dk why you would need a man a foot plus taller? I guess to reach lightbulbs?
Men don't seem to mind women's height. My dad was 5'7 and said if the woman was taller he can always use a ladder, haha.
It's no guarantee of penis size, if that's what people are hoping. But there is such a thing as short man syndrome, if the person has confidence issues it'll make them worse?

I think so. And it’s the way they often want to be given things as “recognition” of their tallness that might benefit others as well.

For example, someone who suffers from car sickness may need to sit in the front seat. Someone who is tall doesn’t need this as the seat moves forward and backwards and can be moved to accommodate them. They can have the same amount of room in the back. But they make a huge fuss about “needing the front seat”. Often at the expense of the co owner of the car, whose spouse is driving.

Someone who is claustrophobic needs an aisle seat on a plane or other scenario where space is limited - in fact it’s of little benefit to someone tall as you can’t sit with your legs in the aisle on a plane anyway - you either have enough room or you don’t. If you don’t you need to book extra legroom But they MUST have the aisle and trumpet the fact they MUST have it - they can’t even just book it quietly and sit there, like others do. Men who have tall man syndrome will want it taken from someone else in recognition of their achievement.

Someone with a bad back may need a comfortable firm bed, or a bigger bed, or someone who is pregnant or even fat might need the bigger bed if people are staying at another’s house as part of a group, or guest accommodation. But someone with tall man syndrome will have to have the best bed because, you see, they’re tall.

Now this is not all tall men, but this is what I mean by tall man syndrome.

As a pp said, sexual attraction is not an equal opportunities employer.

I've been rejected for : being blonde, being white, having a small arse, various facial features, being too tall, being too 'mannish', lanky, girly, low maintenance, high maintenance, uptight and too wild.

And yes, having been bullied for not fitting the petite bill, which society places far more importance on than any male attribute (see any romcom) I think I reserve the right to date someone who doesn't make me feel too tall and big.

Admittedly as a tall girl, I've taken someone from the average for a bloke, only a bit taller than me pool, so perhaps I will get excused for that.

I mean height wasn't my priority. My hubby seemed cool, kind and had nice hair. And I don't mean a nice guy as in the incel sense. He's my cup of tea but not everyone's. I'm glad we are allowed to reject and like who we like and I didn't have to submit some sort of monitoring form.

I’m 5ft 1.5. Most adults are taller than me. DH is 5ft 7 and perfect for me.

I’ve often seen people saying on here that such and such a celeb is gorgeous but disappointingly short.

I prefer tall men but have indeed dated average height men. In truth, 6ft 2 and above is my preference.

I don’t know anyone who thought they needed a tall man. Kind and funny are more valued in my group.

@KimberleyClark I have a very good male friend who thinks like this!

He genuinely thinks his height is the only thing going for him but he’s so much more than that. His personality and behaviour far outshine his height and good looks.

I prefer short men and he literally cannot get his head around that, thinks every woman wants a tall man.

Quite. MN mothers do seem to be irrationally proud of their sons’ heights!