Thinking that women would benefit if they were more open minded about height in a potential partner…

Weirdly, I've noticed that usually it isn't even the very shortest guys who are the whiners. It's the guys who are about average or just somewhat under average who make it into their entire personality to be "short and suffering for it".

It's never the really tall men that give smaller men a hard time about being small either. Men between 5'7" and 5'10" are the people who IME get really insecure about it.

Dd was watching an American show on YouTube called ‘Pop the Balloon’.
In the episode I watched the women had to burst the balloon of the men they found the least attractive at first sight.
Many of the women burst the balloon of men who were under 6ft as they said they wanted a tall man.
The interviewer would then speak to the men who weren’t chosen . Some of the shorter men had great personalities and as a result the women would ask that these men receive a new balloon. In most cases, the women ended up picking the ‘shorter’ man.
I suppose shorter men have to have other great qualities to almost ‘compensate’ for their lack of height.

My Dh is 5 6" and he is wonderful, height never bothered me. He doe not have issue with his height either, always says he is very happy with how tall he is.

I think I've dated men from 5'5" to 6'6". It's not their height that means I'm not seeing them any more. It makes no odds when you're lying down, anyway.

But it is true a lot of men's profiles on OLD will say something like "5'10" - because that seems to be important here." (Not sure it is, except as a way to exercise my eye-rolling muscles.)

I've not seen many women's profiles, but I doubt there are very many saying "don't bother if you're less than 5'8"/6ft/ whatever." (there probably are a few.) I have seen men's profiles saying "don't bother if you're over size 14," or other things like that, so I'm not feeling too sorry for men who aren't doing well on OLD, much as I realise the guys being demanding about physical attributes aren't always the same as the ones who get little interest on OLD. (Would be interesting to see the Venn diagram, though.)

Ok so 15% of women is not exactly a majority, is it? Not to mention that a survey would not have sufficient sample size to represent population at large, nor is it a particularly strong level of evidence.

Ha, that's me. But I'm 5 foot 11. I'm just not really attracted to men shorter than me. Thankfully my husband is 6 foot 3.

My DB is 5ft 7. SIL is 6ft. Thank goodness she didn’t care about his height. She admitted to me she’d hesitated before swiping but she is very glad she didn’t.

🤣 Yes, you have to admire the boldness of the approach though. You could go to the effort of improving your self esteem, your health, you could build skills people find admirable, you could become knowledgeable about interesting subjects, you could take on interesting adventures or climb a career ladder and aquire a whole bloody catalogue of qualities considered to be attractive.

But no, we'll just sit at our computers in our dressing gown and harangue all women to find us attractive regardless of their preferences.

Nothing to do with how much they earn then😂

Appearance wise, the most attractive thing l find in men is height. I can disregard a lot of other physical things if they’re tall.

It’s top of my list. I’m 5ft 8. Dh is 6ft 2. He’s the shortest man lve been with.

I agree with your last paragraph.

I've dated men of all sizes and I wouldn't reject someone just for being short. However, at this stage of my life I would reject someone who has a chip on his shoulder about his height or any other thing related to his looks. In my experience, men who complain about feeling mistreated by women or society for their looks tend to be absolutely awful people.

I of course don't mean this to be about anyone who has a disability or disfigurement that they may be discriminated for. But perfectly average men who whine endlessly about how hard their lives are because they're a bit shorter than 6 foot or have a bit of a receding hairline are an instant yuck for me. Weirdly, I've noticed that usually it isn't even the very shortest guys who are the whiners. It's the guys who are about average or just somewhat under average who make it into their entire personality to be "short and suffering for it".

There was a meme that said "if you date an ugly man, he'll treat you like you're the ugly one" and as cruel as that sounds I've generally found it to be true, although I would amend it as: "If you date a man who feels he's ugly, he'll make you feel ugly too". Don't give chances to anyone you don't fancy out of pity, you'll regret it.

No, you know they don't. Its a myth men tell themselves because its easier that taking responsibility for their awful personalities

I am 5 foot 1, DH 6 foot 5. I have had a LOT of women rant and rave at me for taking an inappropriately tall man out of the pool. But I am a farmer from a family of short arses and I knew I needed some tall breeding stock so acted accordingly 😂

I've read some mad stuff on here but this is something else. I am 5'7 and have had relationships with men of my height, men slightly taller than me and one man who was almost 6ft. When I used to wear heels I was taller than the boyfriend who was my height but it never made me feel in any way self conscious, Of course we all have preferences but seriously!!!

Lol, no.
Men go on and on about how women will only date tall men, but in reality women date short men, fat men, ugly men, broke men, homeless men, jobless men, men drowning in debt, men who need intense care, etc, it's only online and in men's heads that women are as shallow as they are. Just because some women have a preference when dating doesn't mean all women do, just like when a man has a preference it doesn't mean all men do.
Women can't lower our standards any lower, the bar for dateable men is already on the floor

Only skimmed the first page...

There's an account called Ask Aubry on twitter & it posts loads of these moans from short men about how nobody wants to date them. Often they're physically unattractive low-earners too. Apparently it's women's fault that no drop-dead gorgeous, big-breasted, wealthy women want to go out with them.😂And the whole of womankind needs to change so that this one man can get laid.😂😂

My DH is 6'4". Cope.

Do women really do that? I'm 5ft 11 (as was my husband) and dated men from 5'7" to 6'2".

Only 15% Of Women Show Interest In 5'8" Men On Dating Apps, According To Survey

Well yes, because if they are 5'8 on the app, they are really 5'4 and while most women do not in fact think the taller the better, we also prefer not to tower over our partners.

I tried once to be 'open-minded' about height because I really like the guy's personality - went on a few dates but gave up as I felt no physical attraction at all. Accepted it for what it is - I don't get physically attracted to men shorter than me and since I'm 6ft in heels - that doesn't leave me with much choice but to date men 6+ft or not date at all. I get the idea of examining criteria for a partner that are consciously chosen but you can't force physical attraction.

With all due respect... that is complete nonsense.

Does bumble have other surveys detailing potentially absurd requirements from men about the women they are looking for? If they do, then maybe in the interests of fairness you could share them too.

I agree with pp: This is not a widespread thing imo.

my SO is shorter than 6 ft.

As are many male friends and family members who are all happily “coupled”.

I think whether or not this is true is academic cos young men & women absolutely believe it. From my pov, I'm 5'8' so quite tall for a woman (& even that can intimidate men) & I definitely prefer men taller than me which DH is but not say there aren't shorter man I find attractive, cos there are.

However! 2 of my 3 son's are over 6ft, one is under & he's very very aware of it. His younger brother is also hyper aware of being taller. I've tried my hardest to instill that it doesn't matter but it's already ingrained in their teens. That's more of a concern tbh & I'm sure it's cos of social media & dating apps which have turned attraction into a tick-box exercise. That wasn't really a thing beforehand & I think it's over-egged the importance of height. In the real world in real relationships, I doubt specific height means much at all.

Else everyone under 6ft would be single...and they aren't.

I've been in three serious relationships in my life and they've all been over six foot. And all similar types physically, actually. I don't do it on purpose but I do think I have a type. I have to have a strong physical connection with someone to bother.

I don't find small men attractive. I can find them good looking and wonderful people, they just don't do it for me where it counts and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that! That said, I've been married to my 6'2 DH forever so it's a moot point anyway.