Thinking that women would benefit if they were more open minded about height in a potential partner…

A bit taller is the best. I'm 1.58 m about 5 feet 2". There are nearly a foot between my high and 6 feet. I got many men to choose, unfortunately it happens that I don't like the vast majority of them regardless their height.

No. I think short men would benefit from being more open minded about their choice of a partner. Because while their height is a barrier to some woman, its clearly not to all, so they need to concentrate on women who don't mind. All this short man business means is that men who are under a certain height won't necessarily get their pick of any woman they fancy. And that's too bad, isn't it?

Precisely. It is the sort of thing that loser men whine about, because they can say that women are 'superficial'. See also men who call women 'goldiggers' because they expect a man to be solvent. I personally am not attracted to men under six foot, I am between five eight and five nine, so taller than average for a woman. However, I don't go around with a klaxon screaming that short men are ugly, I just don't go out of my way to date them (or didn't, in my dating days. I've been married for a while now) I don't see an issue with people having preferences.

As someone 5'4 I never viewed height as a criteria and my partners were always 5'4 and up my DH is in his eyes 5'6 personally I think 5'5 but either way it doesn't bother me and height never has

I agree. Incel post no doubt.
Again!
Its like making the statement why do all men like big tits. Its ridiculously goading.

I'm 5.2 so being with a shorter man has never been an issue. I had a long term boyfriend who was around 5.8 but DH is 6.4, which if I'm honest is a bit tall for me, we look ridiculous together 😆

I've never considered height - I've only had one partner who was 6 ft or above, DH is 5'8 -on a good day- to my 5' 4. I went out with a man shorter than I was for a while in my 20s.

My DH and his two brothers are 6ft3, 6ft5 and 6ft7 respectively. My sisters in law and I are all between 5ft and 5ft3. Which I think is hilarious really.

I never dated anyone over 6ft before DH though, it wasn't ever a factor!

Well this is an incelly post.

I have literally never known any woman give a fuck about height (we're not giraffes, height has no biological benefit to humans that would 'attract' us even on a subconscious level) and some of the most sort after of my male friends have been very short for men actually but with great personalities (because oddly thats what seems to matter, who would have thought it lol).

I have known men with 'short man syndrome' who critically struggle with women but its not their height that the problem (no matter how much they try to blame it) but I suppose its easier to blame that than face their lack of personality, victim complex and aggressive anger (which is what really puts people off).

My husband is the same height as me.

Also for the record my celeb crushes (sexiest men alive) are 5 foot 5, 5 foot 6 and 5 foot 8 so two are shorter than me and one the same size as me.

I have a friend of 5’2” who previously dated only men over 6’. I found this extraordinary in a practical sense - how did they kiss (unless lying down)? 😂
There was a guy of 5’8” for whom I had to vigorously advocate to be given a chance… somehow succeeded and they have now been together nearly 10 years 😊

This completely.

As a tall woman I’m well aware that my preference for tall men was a reflection of my own insecurities about my size and wanting to feel smaller. Luckily old Mr Mitsky is 6’4 and turns out I also really like his personality.

I used to get annoyed when my mini friends dated men taller than me when they had a much bigger pool!

YABU. Height doesn't really come into it for me, although I don't think I'd date someone who was a lot shorter than I am.

My 1st dh was the same height as me (5'4"), my 2nd dh is 5'9".

Although it was never an issue with my 1st dh, I do prefer that my dh is taller than me even when I'm wearing heels, but there are more important things than height, so in that way YANBU.

They never seem to get the real reason why women aren't interested in dating them, and it's always one of two things.

No matter how many times they are told exactly why, they just have this cognitive dissonance and refuse to be self reflective.

I’m 5ft and like tall men, my DH is over 6ft, he likes short women. It’s just what we find attractive.

My whole family are short and being on the shorter side certainly never stopped my brothers getting partners, they had loads of girlfriends when younger.

I'm 5'9 and am always shocked when a man under 5'10 likes me on an app. I think they're the strange ones for wanting to date someone taller than them.
Attraction is very important and I'm just not attracted to small men. I'm not stupid though I obviously know men of any height can be nice people, I personally just don't want to date them. I'm always dubious about any height that men put on dating sites anyway. Lots say they're tall when actually they're really small.

This is one of those things I see online all the time, including on MN, but not in real life, where none of my female friends have been that bothered about a man's height and where all my short male friends have not found it especially hard to get dates/partners.

I don't think anyone should date anyone they're not attracted to for whatever reason, it's a hiding to nothing. Height is not something that bothers me (but I am very short) - other things are though, I would not date a man with a big beard. That's fine, I'm sure they'd much rather find a woman who was attracted to their big beard.

That said a lot of women online show themselves up regarding how they talk about short men. Fine to not date them but if you can't stop sneering about how they give you the ick (which I've seen plenty of times on MN) then that's what's shallow and unpleasant. I've also read men on forums being deeply unpleasant about overweight women and it's the exact same thing. If a man isn't attracted to an overweight woman, his prerogative! If he sneers about "whales" online, he's a cunt.

I also think that if the only reason a woman won't go out with a short man is because she feels big, that's a bit pathetic. Maybe this is the short-girl syndrome rearing its head but I would love to know what it feels like to be a proper Amazonian goddess towering over my boyfriend.

Look around when you are out, and you'll see plenty of average shorter men who are coupled up.

Men who complain about not getting dates usually have poor hygiene or no personality.

She was!

Oh God yes. I've experienced this twice and it was awful. Never again.

I am a smidge off 5'11" and dh is bang on 5'10", so I used to be taller than him in the days I did heels (many years ago!)

ds(20) is 6'3". His lovely best pal is probably around 5'4" - 5'5"ish and doesn't have much luck with the ladies, pretty sure it is largely due to his height. Probably doesn't help that it is accentuated standing next to ds!

They've ranted and raved at you?

That is not really nature though is it. We are biologically programmed to seek out the strongest partner so we look for intelligence, physical strength and stature etc. Shorter men do very well in Portugal where most of the population are of a small stature.

This is ridiculous, it's like saying men will only date gorgeous slim models with big boobs. Would that tick a lot of men's boxes, yes of course it would. We are programmed to find certain things attractive. But the world is full of ordinary looking women and short men with partners so clearly most people don't really care that much at the end of the day.

Basically, yes - would you think a man was shallow for liking only big breasted blondes? I think we put these parameters on early in life and often don't bother diverting from them.

Is this a question to feed an article somewhere? Not sure I've ever heard this and I have friends whose partners are definite not 6' or even close and one whose partner is shorter than they are!