Thinking that women would benefit if they were more open minded about height in a potential partner…

Many men on dating apps lie about their height and add inches. So maybe the women are saying they want someone over 6' to ensure they get an average height man of 5'10". Or maybe some people are on dating apps because they have unrealistic expectations for the people they date.

As far as so called short man syndrome goes there's little quality evidence to support it, it's just folk psychology. It's based on a myth about Napoleon anyway, he was above average height for the time and taller than Nelson whose height is never mentioned.

I am 5'2" and married a man taller than me but shorter than the average British man, he's 5'6" which is above average for the country he is from. My teenage daughters tell me I should have married someone taller so they could be taller😂they are shorter than me but taller than their grandmother.

Tom Cruise always get mentioned but the following celebrities were/are all the same height or shorter but don't get the same criticism: Dustin Hoffman, Prince, Tom Holland, Martin Freeman, Daniel Radcliffe, Robert Downey Jr., James McAvoy.

Just walked down my high street and checked. No correlation.

I’m a man, and it’s definitely a thing - but in my experience the type who say ‘don’t bother talking to me unless…’ in any sense are twats anyway. 😅

People have preferences and that’s okay - I don’t usually find myself attracted to overweight women but one of my best previous relationships was with a larger woman.
She was one of the most caring and friendly people I’ve ever met, and really opened my eyes to looking beyond my usual preferences.

Tall dark & handsome for me.
( 5. 10 minimum )

Sorry but this is nonsense. I have a massive crush on someone who is 5ft 7. He’s extremely handsome though! Facial handsomeness dictates my crushes, not height.

One of my ex’s was 6ft3” and I am approx 1ft shorter. Sex really didn’t work out very well so on that basis extra height would put me off.

I've been with men taller and shorter. How big someone is on the vertical is the last thing on my mind.

Exactly. No one - not even the most gorgeous person on earth - gets their pick of absolutely everyone.

And then it’s a sliding scale.

I seem to have the pick of absolutely no one, for example, as I give extremely fuck off vibes. I think that’s why!

Let's all pretend that tall dark and handsome isn't the literary ideal and that OP has just made this up😅

"Women" as far as a generalisation can be made like the above. "Men" as far as generalisations can be made have their own set of ideals. Both of them are pretty shallow positions that rarely, if ever, are genuinely reflected in real life as can be seen from any high street anywhere.

As a small pale and funny looking bloke, also poor, also bald, however I am extremely talented at one thing (a sport) and this plus my character somehow makes me desirable to someone that I also luckily find highly desirable, despite their obvious non Nordic super model appearance.

I don't have any expectation that someone should like me if pygmy little creatures aren't their thing, that would just be weird

And yet most men under 6ft end up in relationships.

Now, I really like that we’re the same size, it’s like a visual representation of the equality in our relationship 🤣

I'm the same @Radicat !

My first serious boyfriend was 6'2", my second long term boyfriend was 5'11" and my husband is 5'8 (and a ½)", so they've got successively shorter by about 3 inches each time. I do feel like DH only being a little bit taller than me reflects how I feel about our partnership in general😁

I have to say, where other women often seem to prefer height, I've always preferred strength. I don't feel particularly small or feminine just when he's taller, but when he can pick me up and carry me into the bedroom...

They're both appealing but if I had to choose, it's strength all day long.

So you are saying some women overlook nice men who they don't fancy? Yup. That's how attraction works

Exactly. Just like how men dont date women just because they find them nice/decent. You put a smoking hot woman on Tinder who seems a bit arrogant and a really nice down to earth woman who is very average looking, a bit older and overweight. They'll both get interest but I guarantee the hot young woman will get far, far more responses.

And maybe men would benefit if they were more open minded about weight in a potential partner?

My dh is 5’6”, I’m 5’5”.
We’re both slim. Dh however is stronger than most men I know, I put that down to stocky peasant ancestry 😂
He’s also very into sport and healthy eating.
I’d sooner be married to a shorter man who is muscly than a tall weakling!

No bloody way. I'm 5'10" and have tried dating men shorter than me and guess who had the problem with it?- hint- it wasn't me, THEY DID. I got constant comments about not wearing heels, how awkward it was I was taller, why am I so tall? blah blah blah. I never even mentioned height- it was they who had the issue with it.

So no, I will stick to tall men thanks. Besides, men have plenty of appearance requirements and throughout history, its women who have been judged most on how they look, so I dont even feel a teensy bit bad about this.

I’m female and 5’8 and my male partner is 5’9. As long as they are the same or taller than me 😂 I don’t think I could go extremely tall though!

The ‘evidence’ posted by the OP is laughable.

Precisely. It is the sort of thing that loser men whine about, because they can say that women are 'superficial'. See also men who call women 'goldiggers' because they expect a man to be solvent.
Agree with this.

A man who is secure in himself doesn't go around moaning that he isn't getting the women he's entitled too or making him the main character (victim) in life. He's also unlikely to be moaning about how awful women are with incel-style generalisations. He's rational and capable of understanding everyone is attracted to different things and different looks and will make difference compromises when deciding on a whole package.

I wouldn’t date anyone shorter than me but I’m 5ft 3 so unlikely to be much of an issue..DH is 5 11. Dated men taller and shorter than that . Not an issue

OP I really don't understand the point of this post. Physical attraction isn't a conscious choice.

Plenty of men are attracted to beautiful women with incredible bodies- but they don't all end up with supermodels because ultimately it's about more than looks.

For what it's worth, women having a tendency towards taller men is not 'socialised' physical attraction- it makes perfect biological sense. Standing next to a tall man (even not great-looking ones!) makes many women feel dainty and feminine, and protected. They seem more strong and virile.

I reckon an example of socialised physical attraction would surely be- men liking the big fake Jordan boobs look that adorned every lad's mag 20 years ago. Or the big trout pouts of today. Both not natural and are very new phenomenons that have gained exposure due to fashion.

Exactly! The fragile male ego when he doesn't get the supermodel, when hes not that great himself

I definitely only looked at men over 6' when OLD. There's a few reasons:

• I'm more attracted to taller men
• I wasn't looking to marry and settle down with the men I met OLD
• men can lie...I regularly met men around my height, despite their profile being 6' (I am an average height woman)
• short man syndrome

In real life the 6' limit doesn't really matter, as long as they're taller than me by a couple of inches and I don't feel like I'm dating a child

I think it's probably evolutionary...taller = healthier/wealthier/stronger = better chance of gene survival

Anyway...makes no difference to me now as I'm married and I wouldn't have found my husband on OLD as I would have dismissed him for other reasons 😂

All this short man business means is that men who are under a certain height won't necessarily get their pick of any woman they fancy. And that's too bad, isn't it?

And nor will any of us. 😀That's life all over, isn't it? It's SO unfair!

I’m not into short-short men but I would much rather have a solidly built 5’9 or 5’10 guy than a 6ft5 beanpole