Thinking that women would benefit if they were more open minded about height in a potential partner…

5'3 - 5'6 is my preferred height range in a man. Upper limit 5'9.

It's unfortunate my partner is as tall.as he is! 😅

I'm 5'3. My partner is 5'11 but, tbh, he's a bit too tall for me really.

The last man I dated was the same height as me and the one before that was about 5'4

I like a short man!

Studies show that 45% of women in online dating wanted a man over 6'. 25% had a preference of over 5'8" and only 2% wanted a man shorter than that.

I’m 5 ft 2 and DH 5 ft 7. DS is 5ft 5. He’s talented at sport, fit, handsome and lovely but his height has definitely been an issue with girls. If he looked exactly the same but was 6ft it would be a different story. I really feel for him.

I’m only 5ft3 so most men are taller than me. I did meet up with a man (for a date) once and when he turned up he was about 5ft1, I didn’t think it would bother me but then I didn’t think I would ever meet a man shorter than me, it gave me the ick 😬. I also dated a man that was 6ft5” and when I walked holding his hand I strangely felt like a small child. I would probably prefer to date someone under 6ft though I can’t afford to be fussy 🤣, personality is way more important to me.

Bad example really as Tom Cruise married two absolutely stunning women who could have their pick of men and both were taller than him. As is Nicole Kidman taller than Keith Urban.

I'm pretty tall and even I wouldn't care if a man wasn't 6ft.

A lot of taller men seem to like short women. I think that's as much a thing as women liking taller men. Anecdotally there are a lot of short women on this thread who say they don't care about height but are married to men over 6ft!

I wouldn't date a man smaller than me, that's not unusual. I am tall and my husband is two inches taller and I am happy with that.

I’m 5 ft and wouldn’t want a tall man.

Would put me right off, but that's just me.

I've had boyfriends shorter than me and also much taller. If I fancy someone, height has nothing to do with it. It's normally down to intellect and sense of humour and other factors but height is definitely not a criteria. My current boyfriend is the same height and I fancy the pants off him.

I don't actually agree with you that tall people have advantages in life. And who on earth chooses a partner based on the height of the hypothetical children they might hypothetically produce?
Personally I choose to be with someone because I love them.

I agree OP. I'm 5 foot 7 and DH is the same height. He's conscious of it, but it doesn't matter a jot to me. People can be too superficial about this kind of thing.

My dh is 5’4 and never been without a partner. This thread is daft.

That's true, I didn't think of it that way. I think it's because I've always been conscious of him being short since he was a baby. If someone on mumsnet said they didn't find blonde hair, blue eyes or obsessed with star wars attractive then I wouldn't be bothered by that. And I'd agree on the obsessed with star wars bit tbh!

I think women have a deep deep seated predjudice against men smaller than them in the context of partners.

In the context of partners, you can be as "prejudiced" as you like. You may or may not find what you want but you don't have to date anyone if you don't want to and you don't need to justify it.

I voted YABU because of the 6ft thing - the vast majority of men are under 6ft and most have/ or had partners ( isn’t 5”9 for men about average in this country?).

I do understand your underlying point though - I suppose it’s unfair that many women tend to look for men taller than them (I guess most want taller than about 5”5 since that’s the average woman’s height) . But then men also supposedly often look for women thinner than them - which is equally superficial 🤷‍♀️. I guess you can’t help what physically attracts you.

To for it to be prejudice rather than preference, women would need to be making negative judgements about things they could not know based on the characteristic they did know. Eg, all short men are poor/boring/nasty etc. By not considering short men attractive they are judging based on a characteristic they do know and consider a negative, his height. Just because you may disagree that being short is an aesthetically negative characteristic, it doesn't mean those who observe it to be are showing prejudice.

I've only ever liked/gone out with short men! I feel intimidated by tall men. I am tall myself (5'10.5") but get nervous around taller men. My DP is 5'6'. My ExH was 5'8'.

It doesn’t really matter what their reasons are, preference or prejudice, no one needs to justify who they find attractive or who they’re willing to date.

Physically, I actually prefer short stature men, think Kelly Jones lead singer of the Stereophonics as my ideal. When I met my DP, I was physically attracted to him (he is short, athletic) but it was his personality that I fell in love with and the electric chemistry between us.

I think it’s weird (gives me the ick) when really tall men want short partners. So they’re child-like? Because they can’t deal with a female on their level?

I’m quite a tall woman (5”8”) but haven’t dated anyone over 6 feet tall - so long as they’re taller than me I’m not bothered - they’ve all been 5”10-6ft.

Lol, 3 of the 4 posters above you are 'that woman'. So I guess its more of a thing than maybe we all realise.

I think women have a deep deep seated predjudice against men smaller than them in the context of partners. Probably due to the opression of women who were expected to be smaller, daintier, more delicate than a man. So very few women now are comfortable being bigger than their man.

Socially ingrained predjudice. And I fully expect people to swear they are not predjudiced (its just my own preference and I have a right to it yada yada) because people rarely recognise that they are.

I'm 5ft 7..
My first husband was 5ft 7..
This was the 70s and l wore platforms.
I've since dated a man at 5ft 6 for two years and a guy at 6ft 4 for 5 years .
Height doesn't matter.

I get it op. And I see it. Even on this thread.