Thinking that women would benefit if they were more open minded about height in a potential partner…

Noted, bigot.

I on the other hand hate coffee so I will only be attention as a form of protest. Will bring a teapot to share once you have seen the light. Not decaf though, because it's shite.

Queer it is. I shall reveal it to my family this evening. There will be a party. With coffee. I shall take my whole self to work on Monday.🎉

I think queer covers everything these days, obviously only if you are actually straight though, since homosexuality is wrongthink.

I'm finding it hard to confirm, but I'm sure I've read somewhere that "demisexual" started as a term in some Reddit fiction almost 20 years ago to pisstake the trend for labelling everything. I might be wrong.

Oh, be nice, I'd love a label. Can I have a label for never being up for it on a morning because coffee comes first? One that makes me sounds super interesting without having to invest any energy into actually doing anything?

Demisexual is just normal female sexuality and appropriate boundaries. It's not a special identity in my mind, and would apply to 90% of Mumsnet, even the boring older ones not the bright young things. I'm a bit sad for women today that they need a special label to hide behind so they can justify not having sex with strangers.

It's a very similar mentality to the op, trying to get us to overlook our prejudice and go against our own preferences.

No women shouldn't have to dish out sex to people they don't know, don't fancy, are the wrong sex etc. No lesbians aren't bigots for not saying no to penis and women aren't wrong for withholding sex from 'nice guys'.

Honestly world is going backwards.

I don't like those labels but I'd say I'm very close to demisexual if I had to specify a labels, except when it comes to height. It's the one and only feature which provokes an instant visceral reaction in me and makes me feel sexually attracted to even a stranger.

I'm 5'4" and I would've looked ridiculous with a six footer. However, there is no way I would have considered an oompa loompa either.

I'm happy with any height, I wasn't aware it was an issue until speaking with other women I found that they often prefer tall men. I just want the right person. I am demisexual, so I don't get an immediate physical attraction but go by vibe, so I don't know if that makes a difference. I have noticed that a lot of handsome men on dating apps are shorter, I wonder if they have less connections meeting in real-life and fare better online as their height isn't obvious.

when there's some posters who won't date someone shorter because of how it'll look when they wear high heels once in a blue moon 🙄

My experience in dating shorter men was that they were the ones telling me not to wear heels because they felt uncomfortable about it! I am not having someone dictate to me how I dress thanks.

Looking at this from another perspective, I’m 5’11’’ (and 35 inch inside leg so literally all limbs) and when I was single some guys were really funny about dating a taller woman. So it’s not just women who might have preferences regarding height. Happily my husband is half an inch taller than me and I rarely wear heels

My ex was 5ft11 and an absolute abusive cunt
My new partner is 5ft5 (I’m 5ft2) and is honestly the best thing that’s ever happened to me (behind my dc)

Hard to tell if they're being serious or not (they probably are) when there's some posters who won't date someone shorter because of how it'll look when they wear high heels once in a blue moon 🙄

You’re right, after 30 years together I should ditch him and invest in a stool.

Ridiculously long. Somewhat out of proportion really but I love him all the same.

I’ll say it again leg length and height are not always correlated.

He must have a very long body.

Ive had boyfriends of 6ft or over. None of them have had 29”leg.

Ds is 6 ft 4, he’s a 36” leg
DD is 5ft 11. She’s a 34 leg
Dh is 6 1 He’s a 34 leg
I’ve got a 32 inch leg.

29” leg is about 5ft 7/6

Ha ha this is so funny. I’m 5 ft 8, my DH is 6ft 2. My inside leg is 31 inches, his is 29 inches. Tall does not equal long legs!

I think people have strange ideas about what 6ft is. I'm 6ft in heels, which people are amazed at.'you're 6ft?wow!' But it's not that big.

Having said that, that does make me taller than all my friends' dhs. And a lot of the men in work. And about a centimetre taller than my own.

I wonder if, subconsciously, we expect men to be taller because they're always portrayed that way and because we associate height with power, we assume men will be taller.

I agree @SpudleyLass i also think (if you’re a
shorter woman in particular) it’s easy to lose sight of what 6 foot actually is. I think a lot of women saying they have 6 foot husbands actually have husbands an inch or two shorter, but ‘they’re 6 foot because they look tall’.

Only 15% of men are this height or over, so about 1 in 7ish.

They should rule them out if they're not attracted to them though, because often if a woman tries to date a man she's not attracted to then that will lead to problems in the relationships.

I'm 4'11'' and my husband is 6'1''. I had not set out to marry a tall man - it was a nice bonus but hardly the be all and end all.

Likewise, I've had shorter male friends whom I've met during the course of my marriage - 5'5'' to 5'8'' - had the circumstances been different, I would have been quite happy to date any of them but my husband found me first.

I don't think height is being selected for as much as the internet seems to think. I know that my husband has dated much taller women than me.

Yes - I wouldn’t rule out a tall man if I was otherwise attracted to him, but many women do rule out shorter men.

Used to work with a tall, ex military guy. Loads of women in the office drooled over him even though facially he was average!

Being a short woman isn't seen as unattractive and it's probably them keeping the short genes going-they're finding tall men to have kids with but some of the sons are still taking after the mother. It's not the tall women having short sons-even if they had a short dad the son would more than likely be taller than the mother.

@NonPlayerCharacter The stupid thing is, actually I was totally planning to spend my life with my Ex. It's just he became insanely jealous whenever I spoke to anyone tall and dark-haired. This went on for two years and he started obsessing with how much time I spent with my friends and assuming that anyone over six foot was somehow out to steal me away.

Yes, I did get fed up... And having him point out why my DH was better than him DID make me see DH as being more than just a friend. I don't think I would've otherwise.

My point on this thread is that men over six foot often have a level of confidence about themselves. I don't think I'd care about his height if he wasn't bothered himself. Now I'm married to someone who hits his head on beams instead 😂