Thinking that women would benefit if they were more open minded about height in a potential partner…

I like a really tall man, but I'm 5ft 5ish and my husband is about 5ft 9. I've dated 6ft 6, all the way down to 5ft 5. I'd probably pause at shorter than me.

The only women I've known who have been really hung up on this have been MUCH younger than me (41). Back when I was in my 20s we might have preferred a taller man but it really wasn't the be all and end all.

When you date organically you don't have filters to flush out people you're not interested in.

Wasn't there a famous quote by Onassis where he said something along the lines of women not noticing his lack of height when he was standing on his pile of money? I think that still applies today 😊

I would love a tall man but haven’t managed to meet one yet. DP is 5ft 9 to my 5ft 8. He’s broad and muscular and has a physical presence and doesn’t make me feel like an elephant. I couldn’t go out with a man that height who was slim and slight, it would make me too self conscious

Yeah, but all these men longing for a slim woman who is drop dead gorgeous with ample pert boobs, legs up to her armpits, and a peachy arse, have as much chance of getting such a woman, as the women wanting a gorgeous, 6 ft 4 Jason Mamoa lookalike have of getting that! 😆

Awwwww LOL they sound cute! 😆😘

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I do know a very sweet couple...she's six foot and a burlesque dancer and model, he's 5'6" and a bit weird looking and awkward. He's a photographer and takes beautiful pictures of her all the time. They're madly in love and it's like Roger and Jessica Rabbit.

If we're going off online dating-sure, many women may select that their preferences are for tall men.

Just as if you look at male preferences- many men may select that their preference is for slim women.

I don't see anyone telling those men that they ought open their minds and start dating overweight women because slim women are in short supply. (Pun absolutely intended).

Online dating allows people to select their absolute preferences-both men and women, and is a peculiar tool to measure human behaviour/attraction. Of course, if we're given a form to complete and told to put down our ideals-we may all say "Oh, I'd love a tall, dark and handsome man with muscles for days," but that doesn't mean that we wouldn't date or consider someone an option if they don't meet that ideal.

And even if a certain woman is fixed on getting that 6ft+ man, so what? That's her choice. She may or may not succeed in her aim. Time will tell and presumably, she'll adjust her expectations accordingly if she's unsuccessful.

They might actually be 6’5 but it’s equally likely they look like Steven Merchant rather than Jason Momoa.

I agree @Moonfishstar This is MUMSNET though, where all husbands are 6 ft 5, and everyone has very tall and athletic children. 🙄

Agree with ‘fussy but not too fussy’. My shallow non negotiables were hair (no bald men or receded hairlines - I just can’t go near it!), well dressed (no skate style clothing or naff logo t shirts), and NO dad bods. Hair colour, height (as long as not really short) I was happy to judge on a case by case basis and see whether I felt attracted to them.

6ft is not unusual in the North West, or certainly isnt in my town. All of my friends partners are 6ft plus, including my own at 6ft 1 who is the "shortest " haha

Haha. In the north west you'd be lucky to get one over 5 foot 6.
6 foot is unusual.
Most women prefer someone the same height as them or taller - not a giant.

However, as men have such high standards I think it's the one thing women have an advantage on!

My husband is considered short probably around 5ft6. I'm 5ft3 and not phased by height.

My mother however, has took the piss out of it for me ever since we got together 8 years ago. She actually turned down a pretty decent man because he was short

We like what we like though at the end of the day!

I choose people for their brains and personalities not looks.

Well there is a very cliche statement that women often use I want "tall, dark and handsome" so I think there is some truth to it, especially on dating apps. In real life, though, I don't think it pans out that way really.

There was also was a man on here not long ago who posted a thread about his height. I think he was 5ft 7 and worried that women would be turned off by it, due to wanting men 6ft.

Oh aye, and by 'women would benefit' do you mean 'might have sex with me' by any chance?

Most women are attracted to taller men for a reason, they might not be thinking about it consciously. Most women are attracted to men taller than them, and taller men are generally considered more attractive, which would you rather your son be?

No point trying to fight reality.

But (and it's a really big BUT) I'm willing to bet it isn't just your height that is stopping you from pulling.

Because there are always exceptions, one person's trash is another's treasure and all that. Many people who aren't conventionally attractive manage find love and sex easily. Overweight, short, ugly...all proven not a barrier to a relationship given you have actually cultivated a vaguely likeable personality (hint: if you are blaming women's sexual preferences for you not getting any, you are nowhere near having a likeable personality. I'd suggest counselling and move on from there).

That's interesting.
I'm 50 and I've never dated anyone under 6'1". I'm an average height for a woman. I was very attractive when younger and had a good job and could choose.
When husband dating (so over 27) - my non-negotiables were over 6", good job, didn't have a season ticket for a football team, non fussy eater and wanted children. I'd already been engaged by that point.

If someone was under 6' and fitted the bill I would have possibly renegaded on that, but not the others. DH though is tall and we have been married 20 years.

I think that you should be fussy when chosing a partner, but not too fussy. Similar aims in life and likes/dislikes are very important.

Each person needs to get a similar amount out of the relationship and that can also include a attractive (to you) partner.

I won't date a guy shorter than me.

But I'm five foot "tall." So, it would be quite the feat to be shorter than me.

This is such a chronically online thing. Most women, not all-because there's always room for exceptions-aren't going to turn down a guy who ticks every box because he's not over 6ft tall.

It's a lie men who are unsuccessful with women tell themselves so it makes out that women are shallow and oh so unfair to them and they're being rejected because of something they can't control.

When the reality is likely that they don't make for attractive partners- in terms of personality, etc, but it's far easier for these types of men to blame something outside of their control i.e., their height and women's alleged unrealistic and unreasonable expectations-than it is to look at themselves and look at themselves hard-and be honest.

In the real world, if a guy ticks every box, bar height, many women will happily date him. There will always be exceptions to the rule-but if men are going around online, whining that no woman will date him because of his height-that, for me, is code for the fact that this guy has a ton of red flags waving in women's faces. That's it.

@purdypuma it’s because you have a smaller head in relation to your body🙂. I watch useful YouTube videos!

I'm not sure why OP is getting a hard time, this IS a thing and it is 100% down to online dating IMO.

SO many women have come on here to say they prefer taller men, so we know it IS a thing that a lot of women's preference is someone taller, but years ago you would go out and meet someone and decide whether you like them based on who they are, and how attractive you find the whole package. Now, people pre-decide whether they find someone attractive based on a criteria that they have made up in their mind of what the 'perfect' partner looks like to them and they won't even contemplate someone who doesn't fit their criteria, they don't need to, as there's already so much choice! It's all bullshit really as the perfect partner rarely exists, but while you've knee deep in online dating there is always at least 2 or 3 people waiting in the wings if you decide the current one isn't quite up to your 'standards', so you can keep looking, men are just as bad as women at having criteria on OLD, I just think 'tall' is an extremely common one for women.

I met my DH on online dating but the whole thing is completely toxic IMO and puts way too much emphasis on superficial bullshit, which ultimately has no real bearing on a successful relationship, it only covers the initial attraction element.

I think you must be my mate! I’m a 6ft tall woman and for years dated only guys who were my height and taller. After a couple of less than ideal but tall boyfriends, I prioritized looking for someone kind who makes me laugh instead. I am now married to a 5ft 9 bloke.

I dated someone quite short…taller than me as I’m tiny but still short. His last girlfriend had been taller than him and he’d obviously been used to holding her hand the ‘wrong’ way round. So when he held my hand it was like holding the hand of a small child which made me feel really uncomfortable.

I'm 5"4 but get told I look taller (not sure how that works!). I do prefer taller men over 5"9 at least but my sister prefers short men & is married with her husband only being 2 ins taller.

I did try to date a guy the same height as me but I just wasn't attracted him as much as I should be despite him being a lovely person. I think I'm just naturally attracted to taller men.