Thinking that women would benefit if they were more open minded about height in a potential partner…

So your partner is 6'3"?

Yet you are telling us we should date shorter men?- why didnt you go for a shorter man then if they're so great? This means that you are part of the problem.

I'm 6 feet. Ex dh was over 6 feet and a twat. Current dh is 5 feet 8 and a star.

I’m 5 11” I don’t think short men want to date me either

Exactly my point. I'm tall and I have to say, I've had nothing but snarky comments from men significantly shorter than me. I have had random men tell me I'm "too tall" for a woman. I've tried dating men shorter than me and they all had an issue with my height.

Loving how many of the comments are a split of “this isn’t a thing, where’s the evidence?” and “this is a thing, I only date taller men” 😂

I’ve managed to have terrible relationships with men of all heights so now stick with the nuclear option of dating no one.

OP- what height are you and what height is your partner?

I’m 5 11” I don’t think short men want to date me either. I think you can’t help who you are attracted to I like guys who rowed/ played rugby and have broad shoulders. Possibly shorter ladies could stop fighting for them so there are more for me 😍🙏

My dh is 5.8. I prefer it to being with someone who is over 6ft

I agree with your heightest point. I ran a dating night and ended up having to include height on the application form as had so many complaints from women about being matched with short men. They were matched on personality but height seemed to be a deal breaker even if they got on. Me personally, I only used to find short men from a lower socioeconomic class attractive so bucked all the trends, but I still picked wrong’uns.

'You may not think it should be a thing, and it may not be something that features in your relationships - and that’s good - but pretending it doesn’t exist is akin to living in a feminist utopian fantasy.

And this idea that anyone who doesn’t subscribe to your utopian worldview must be an incel is pretty offensive…. not that I’m personally offended.'

I dont think you get that whilst you are offended at anyone that mentions incel, that we arent allowed to be offended when someone states the 'feminist utopian fantasy' card. Thats offensive.

Dont you think it comes across as a little misogynistic?- women should look past height and give men a chance. When people bring up the fact that men are very appearance focused you say we cant mention that as its like primary school. So, what you are saying is, it's fine for men to choose women based on their looks but women shouldn't- we should be "better" than that. But why- why should we be better?

Women have been judged on their appearances for decades (eg being slim and youthful) and still are FAR more than men ever have so really, in terms of this being a predominantly female site, surely you should be focusing on that.

Again, What are your thoughts on the men who have told me I am too tall?

My friend is 5ft 8 and has always been successful with women! He's polite, charming, hard working & good looking, always had them lining up. His wife is lovely too. Theyve been happily married 15 years.

Agree with a pp this sounds like an incel moan, i don't think women target taller men at all. We target nicer, respectful men....

I’ve never said this was a woman only issue, so I can’t see how I’m being disingenuous! Of course, men have their hang ups too. I’ve never suggested otherwise!

So then why isnt your post directed at both genders?

What are your thoughts on the men who have told me I am too tall?

Regarding “hypergamy”, what I have found is there is no point in dating ‘down’ economically / career wise because men’s fragile egos can’t handle it and they resent you.

I am not sure anyone is denying that people want an attractive partner. Typically, women would like a partner who is wealthy, clever, high status, athletic and tall rather than now.
Men might put looks first, but that is no different really.
OP, what do you think of women who prefer a short and dumb partner, as many men do? Does that not say something worse about the relationship they are after?

But equally it’s silly to pretend that no women, or a very very tiny proportion of women, care about height, because many do, as evidenced by many studies and many posts on this thread

I am tall myself so yes, I do care about height in a man. So fcking what? I'm 5'9" - 6 foot in heels, do you expect me to feel guilty for not dating a man of 5'2"?

Do you accept that actually many men have an issue with taller women?- I have been told by a few men that I am "too tall" to date. I've dated men shorter than me who told me not to wear heels because it makes them feel insecure about their height. Should I just obey them and shut up and let them control what I wear due to it, because poor them.

My husband is 5'10" and loves the fact I am tall but I have found that many shorter men have an issue with me, not the other way around because they are the ones bringing up the height issue all the time, not me.

I am aware that I am not for everyone and I love my height, if someone doesnt want to date me as a tall woman thats fine. I'm not gonna get all pissy and whiny about it as none of us can have whomever we like- people are either attracted to you or they arent. But you are being very disingenuous to suggest that this is all a female issue- as I said above, men also have an issue with women's height and you have conveniently ignored that fact.