Dh - his annoying habit .

At the moment I’m living in the “pick your battles” mindset. So many things annoy me at home, both committed by DH and DC,!but if I argued over them all I’d be a very miserable person so I’m picking my battles every day

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It doesn't matter

yeah, my husband doesnt seem to attempt to make the bed anywhere near my standard if he gets up after me (schedule varies), he seems to throw the pillows and cushions roughly where they are meant to go on the bed and doesn't bother straightening the duvet, and I've given up trying how to make it look nice and tidy, instead when i get home from work i re-make the bed to my satisfaction, coz i'm such a tidy freak 😂 I once took a photo of how he made the bed, then another one after i tidied it up and sent both to him to see if he could see the difference - he claimed not to! 😂 He also leaves his electric toothbrush on the sink without the plastic head cover i gave him every time he uses it, so i routinely put cover on and put brush in the cup holder where we are supposed to keep them. He'll never change, but then he has his uses other ways so i just let it go 😀

You have a bathroom stool?

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I'd let it go. It's less effort to just put it back under the table myself than shouting up the stairs. Everyone has annoying little habits - it's all about give and take.

DP and I often travel separately to the same place because he can't deal with my two modes of punctuality being either a) chaotic faffing and being 20 minutes late, or b) in a bid to avoid the above leaving myself such a margin for error that I arrive 20 minutes early. He says it's less stressful to just get on his bike and arrive on time.

Mine pulls the bathroom stool to the middle of the floor every day to dry his feet. It used to irritate me but now I just put it back. In the grand scheme of things he does a lot of good things too. Don't sweat the small stuff.

Oh good grief, I'm quite sure the OP won't miss his annoying habits when he goes

If that's all he does that really bothers you I'd take a chill pill, one day you might miss seeing his chair left pulled out

Cryptofascist - pull it out further so it annoys him and gets the point.

I think I hate the OH leaving the chair out is selfish. It's like his need for space trumps everyone else's. It's almost like man spreading to leave the chair in other people's way. In any case, I think it's rude to to get up from the table and not move the chair under the table.

My OH leaves the chair out and it irritates the heck out of me. 'His' chosen place at the table means it awkward to for everyone else else to go around.

One of the DC cannot abide the noise of cutlery clattering on crockery. So we all make an effort not to do that that one thing.

My OH hates hair in the shower. So I bought a brush to use with conditioner. I can play the joker card about the chair.

Irritating things my husband does: leaves his socks on the floor after taking them off; uses cotton buds on his ears then leaves them lying around; doesn't put his tools away after fixing something. Things I do that irritate him: cancel subscriptions to streaming channels if we're not watching anything atm; insist we get back home from things at a certain time because I told our 15-year-old ds that's when we'd get back; make him get to train stations at least 20 minutes before we're due to travel. I'd just put the chair in op. Nobody's perfect.

If this is the worst thing you have to complain about, count yourself lucky. Leave the poor man alone and push the chair in if it bothers you that much.

Push it back yourself - 2 seconds out of your live verses hours of stress and anger

He wouldn’t even notice if she wasn’t able to put the chair back under.

Its a non issue

@Notanana did he read the article ?

What would he do if you weren't there to put the chair back in?
As for the toilet seat issue - it should be down because you sit on a seat.

Ladies have social superiority. It’s just a rule like steam gives way to sail.

I'm sorry but this is his home too not just yours. He should feel comfortable to do as he feels within reason at home. Leaving a chair.out is hardly a criminal offence sounds to me like you have a bit of OCD and control issues. To call him back down is borderline control freak behaviour. I know I wouldn't come back and if I did the chair would have been dumped as far away from the table as possible. As for the coffee table if he has to move it clearly it's in the wrong place. Suck it up and get over it. Maybe get some support for your controlling behaviour.

This is why I'll be single til I die, I cannot fathom why normal/typical people (in my life - men) think that someone else will come behind them and clear up.
I live with my parents and my dad can't even take his plate to the sink, put his biscuit wrapper in the bin, his chair under the table! My mum has enabled him their whole married life so there is no point in me even bringing it up! I have just accepted that I'm better alone lol!
However, working in a school I see children, of a reasonable age, leaving their chair when they know they are required to stack them. One in particular will be asked not to forget but yet will, on a daily basis. It's not a coincidence that this child is being assessed for additional needs. Some people, adults and children just do not have things on their radar.
For the OP, if these are the only things annoying you, it's not a cross to die on.

This. It's saying he doesn't care enough about your feelings to put the chair in.

I expect you have a couple of minor habits that irritate him too.