To think a family member is being awful, although we’re living under their roof?

You'll have to bite your tongue and do your best for another five months or move elsewhere.

Look on house sitting sites. Something might come up locally that suits - though you might have to feed some one's dog.

Also attend local church. Congregations tend to be people established in the town and someone could have an unused granny flat that they are willing to rent out,short term, to a person they know.

Was the baby planned? Why would you have a baby when the circumstances are all wrong? Presumably your dp was entering training, or knew he was going to be training, prior to you deciding to start a family. Did it not occur to you that it was bad timing? Your gp offered to have you but probably didn’t foresee how difficult it was going to be and now regrets it.

just count to ten, under your breath, smile sweetly
presumably she can cook, she was cooking before
i have been in your situation, it is tough but doable

I'd put up with it until September. Think of the money you'll save. If you really can't do it, then find a cheap bed sit until then.

If your grandmother is in use to do h
The things her way this is the standard bickering associated with the change.
Either, you are patience with it meanwhile you stay at hers of move.
Some people adapt in the middle but I don't think this is the case.
She is no awful, You are not unreasonable felling bad neither.

I wouldn't move in with partners family either, find your own place - whether it is temporary or permanent, the 3 of you together and get away from this person.

She is not nice, she is nasty

The rights and the wrongs aside, the only solution to this is to move out. Everyone would be happier for it, this hasn't worked out. Make the arrangements, then tell her kindly but firmly.

Why don't you move out? It isn't working.

supernova23 they are not living rent free. OP is cleaning, shopping for food and providing a home cooked meal every night. Ie a live in assistant. That would more than cover the rent.

I feel like there needs to be a support group for people who have moved in with elderly relatives due to the housing crisis.
I am in a similar situation, trying desperately to find a house but there is nothing, living with elderly family members, doing their cooking, cleaning, food shopping without much gratitude and some frankly unsettling behaviour.
It is very hard on your mental health. My kids are older so I get time off at least. I really hope you sort out something soon. My advice is to keep meals simple if possible and go for long walks to clear your head. It won't be forever!

Eh? It ‘literally’ sounds made up?

No it doesn’t. But report it if you think it is.

She sounds very unpleasant but it I assume she’s probably not happy with two adults and baby living rent free in her house.

Either move in with one of your parents or get your other half to pause his studies. It’s a strange time to be studying when you have a young baby. Really you should be living somewhere settled and working before the baby.

It is a huge upheaval f or her. it is must a huge imposition and quite tiring.
have a chat with her.
find out what she wants,

You have got funds though? Use your savings to rent through this tricky period. That's what they are for. I dont think an adult, with a child, and some savings, living rent free at a relatives is ever going to work out.

Unfortunately you've put yourselves in the position of being dependent children in her house, so that's how she's treating you (alongside snappiness that suggests she's finding it hard). I'm not sure why you decided to do maternity leave and training at the same time without any funds, you must have known you would need to eat and pay bills?? Best thing would be to defer training until you get back to work, so that you can rent your own place straight away. Baby can still share with you at 6 months old though a 1 bed would be best so that you can have time to yourselves while the baby sleeps.

It sounds like she has narcissistic traits - constantly belittling you, creating problems out of nothing, and when you try to have an adult discussion about how she upsets you, she cries, therefore turning it back on you and making YOU out to be the bad guy. It's no wonder it's affecting your mental health - this is the effect narcissists have.
Sincerely, I hope you can find somewhere else to live.

Definitely time to go!

Will this affect your relationship with her? Id be really hurt if my nan said those things to me. Fat comments post baby are cruel for any generation

Move out and rent or stay with your inlaws
Why did your partner think now was a good time to not be working?

She is obviously struggling with you living there. You need to move out for the ale of your relationship with her. This isn't fair on any of you.

If you’ve tried talking - and it sounds like you’re trying your hardest to be respectful in her home, I think you need to move out sooner rather than later. I’m guessing she had no idea or recollection of what it would actually be like having a tiny baby in the house again after so many years & is reacting badly to her routine being disrupted.
On your side, it’s a tricky time getting used to being a mum & getting to know your baby - but it should also be a really special time and this is being ruined. For everyone’s sakes, even if it takes some savings, you need to move out. Good luck :-)

No, it doesn't. Troll hunting is banned, as well, so if you really thought it was made up you should have reported the thread, not posted.

I'm talking about static caravans. Some of them are quite roomy and look comfortable. Worth doing some research? 🌹

The combination of a six month old baby and elderly people is rarely a good one.

She will have expectations of baby care that are generations old and will worry you are not caring for the baby properly/meeting the social expectations from when she had her babies.

She also will really struggle with the baby crying.

Clearly some of her comments are way out of line, but equally she is being incredibly tolerant just having you there at all.

You do need to move out. It won't work long term and your relationship will be destroyed.