To be annoyed what DH said regarding periods.

https://www.endometriosis-uk.org/adenomyosis

It’s really not for most women though!

Obviously what your partner said isn't acceptable, but I do think you have to push harder to get the GP to take it seriously rather than just accept being that unwell.

Simply from a work perspective how aren't you on sickness management? I don't think I could be off work 2 days a month without someone starting absence management procedures.

He was a jerk. He needs to apologise properly, not make some lame excuse about period maths 🙄

Tell him if he thinks he’s bored of you being in pain then imagine how fucking tired of it you are.

He's allowed to fuck up sometimes but he needs to own it and apologise like a grown up.

@Puskaboots YAB massively U for not kicking him in the balls for that comment

for a more civilised option get him one of those period stimulators and insist that he wires up for the duration for each of your periods

you do sound very badly affected though. have you considered alternative treatments such as acupuncture?

Pycnogel - a supplement made from pine bark extract was an absolute game changer for me.
I'd read it had been proven effective for period pain in scientific trials, though I can't vouch for that.

I was at the point where periods felt exactly like to worse miscarrying / being in labour. I was totally debilitated and this has really helped.

It won't help with your husband's bad attitude though.

I wonder if it was the combined pill
You didn’t get on with before? The mini pool might be worth a try seeing as it’s also years later and our bodies change. It’s got rid of my periods and associated migraines. I think there is also a non hormonal coil?! 🤔
Periods shouldn’t cause two days bed bound. A GP can also offer migraine pills and other types of things not just pain killers. Could you have endo?

My periods aren’t awful but they still make me feel like absolute shit every month.

We shouldn’t have to suck it up and not moan just because we have them regularly.

If this was a disability or health condition that flared up once a month, people (men) would be more sympathetic.
Its why women struggle with male GPs taking them seriously because they have the same attitude as your DH.

I would be really pissed off and I would explain just how painful they are and how you are doing your best each month.

I would also make sure that you take the time for yourself every month and do whatever you need to do to feel better because I can guarantee that if he was ill or in pain he would.

It is worth going back to your GP. Firstly peace of mind (an ultrasound to check for endometriosis / adenoyosis) and secondly to discuss pain etc. They can prescribe mefanemic acid. It is best taken from before your period starts (so from when you get migraines). It stops you feeling like you hare having your insides ripped out and allows you to get on with your day.

You need to go back to the doctors if period pain is keeping you in bed and stopping you doing daily activities, that’s not normal.

Personally I take up to 800mg of ibuprofen (4 standard tablets in one go, for first couple of days which makes it tolerable. 2 normal tablets just don’t do anything first couple of days but taking time off work every cycle isn’t an option.

I’m surprised it’s taken your DH so many years to comment and not say go back to the doctors and get / take something stronger.

I got a chemical burn on my stomach from these. Still have a scar, be careful!

I think I would have responded, How many periods have YOU had? Wtf makes you think you have any idea what even a normal period is like, let alone a period that is so painful and debilitating that I have to spend two days in bed? What gives you the right to comment sarcastically on something I experience that you have literally zero clue about? Is it testosterone? Or just entitlement?

And then, when I was done with ranting, I'd go back to the GP and demand they give you some better help and support, because losing days every month to your period is not really okay.

OP, when I hit 40, my periods became really bad.
Pain, nausea, strong ..bla bla. However, 44 now and they eased considerably (not peri yet, child free).
I put these problems to me having 4 vaccines in the past. 🙄
Your husband's comment was that of a 12 yo.
Annoying, infuriating.
But- not for LTB! 😁

I get migraines related and not related to my period, just terrible migraines. If you are also getting sick with them take the migraleve anti sickness tablets or just travel sickness tablets to stop the sickness.

Tell him you’re happy to kick him in the balls for 5 days every month for the next 25 years and he can let you know at the end of it whether he’s had enough kicks to the balls to no longer react.

It's awful that you (and so many other women) suffer so much every month.

If he's a good man and the comment is out of character, I'd put it down to a shitty comment born out of stress. I'm sure you're both busy with kids and work and all the rest, and a few days a month it's all on him. Not your fault obviously, but he was probably just feeling a bit stressed. I'm sure many of us have said something uncharacteristically mean when we're feeling a bit overwhelmed.

Have you been offered the mini pill - progesterone only? I was really hesitant to start using hormonal treatment again after years off but my periods became unbearable
Its stopped them and I don't seem to have any other side effects
As for your husband he's a dick but I'd be more concerned about you been bedridden for 1-2 days a month than a stupid typical bloke comment

I used to get a migraine every month with my period. To start with I was spending one day in bed, but then that turned into two. The doctor put me on low dose amitriptyline every night and it's solved the problem. I also had a coil fitted for heavy bleeding (to the point where I was getting difficult to leave the house), having previously had terrible trouble with the pill, but the coil is fine and the bleeding's stopped. You don't have to suffer in silence, go to the doctor and get some help.

It sounds like you DH was thoughtless rather than intentionally mean. I'd suggest having a heart to heart and explaining I'm detail just how badly you are affected by this.

There's a board in the vagina museum where women put a sticky dot on how much pain they're experiencing during their period. I think what you are in the last column for extreme pain. Very few dots op. Have you been assessed for endometriosis? It's not normal to suffer like this every month so go to your gp and stay until they refer you. Just because its your normal doesn't mean you have to suffer.

DD got a daith piercing which fixed her migraines. Quite a common benefit apparently.

For mirena at 40 as part of hrt. Wish I had it out in years ago. No more periods

Google period simulator.
It's apparently pretty good.
Research it and get your DH to try it.

Had one when I went to a private consultant after issues in year one but nothing since then. No issues though

He knew you suffered like this when he married you.

What a dick

Not read through but have you considered mirena coil or meflemenic acid. Sounds worth a GP chat?