To be annoyed what DH said regarding periods.

Hire one of those period pain simulators (is it just a TENS machine..?) and tell him to wear it for 2 days straight if he ever wants to comment about your periods again.

My periods went like that at 40. Really painful, quite like labour pains actually, and flooding one month then lighter the next. Went to the Dr and asked if maybe was start of the menopause. Got short shrift “no, no, no, you’re much too young for that”. My periods stopped completely by 44, so it was.

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its op I feel sorry for when it comes to her period , not her husband and kids! They are not the ones suffering

What a shitty comment
I hope he’s ashamed of himself

OP this was me, the migraines and the cramps, since I was 14. I was discovered to have an iron deficiency about 6 months, unconnected to my period, and started taking ferrous furmate (which I think you can buy OTC in the chemist but not 100% sure) I didnt expect it but the side effect of that is massively reduced pain when I have my period. I cant believe I suffered it for THIRTY YEARS, GPs weren't interested and it definitely got worse when I hit 40. Bed ridden, migraines, cramps so bad I would cry and all round misery. Definitely worth a shot

Your DH should not have said what he did.
It is not often he behaves like that, you say, so forget it.

However, don't forget that your periods are having an annoying effect on the rest of your household.
For two or three days per month your period holds you and your family hostage.

Op, I would be going to seek and try medical interventions that could give you back precious time where you can function without pain. Newer medications might be different.

They way you describe the situation, it sounds like his behaviour was out of character.

Maybe he has a transient moment of major stress in his life eg. Work or parent problems and hasn't said anything about it. Having an additional problem to tackle can cause the jug of negative emotions to overflow.

Tell him it is out of character and was hurtful to you. But ask him if he has stresses he isn't speaking about.

If this is a one off and out of character, I'd be inclined to cut him some slack.

While DP's periods aren't bad, she always gets a solid week of migraines just beforehand. And it's really fucking annoying! I'm not annoyed at her, because she can't help it, and I know it's got to be significantly more annoying for her.

But the situation itself can be really annoying, because we've had to cancel plans yet again. Or the house is a shit tip because we've been busy and I'll have to blast through it by myself in a weekend, but trying to do it as quietly as a dormouse so as not to wake her up.

It not fair on her, it's not her fault, so I don't express my annoyance, but there's been a few times where I've shut a cupboard too hard in frustration, or shes seen my face as I resign myself to trying to sell some tickets to something at really short notice yet again, and she'll think I'm upset at her rather than the situation.

No matter how hard we try, no-ones perfect and we will fuck up sometimes.

I understand your reluctance - I was the same - but honest to God, getting the Mirena coil was the best decision ever.

Come on now luv, it was only a period which get heavier as you get older. But men have to suffer man colds. 😀

If men had periods, science would have spent so much on it to make them more comfortable.

If it’s the only time he’s made a comment like this, it’s out of character, and he immediately explained he’d meant something different, is it possible he really did?

I’d be significantly more pissed off at having to get out of bed when I was feeling dreadful to make the kids tea - why couldn’t he do that?

Same here. Wish I'd done it years ago.

You should go back to the Drs, this is not normal. You don’t have to be incapacitated for two days each month.

Cmon now, many of us are women here, we all know having to spend two days a month in bed for your period is extreme.

Pretty sure the OP has decided that we all meanies.

Your husband needs to educate himself not only on periods but also the menopause.

I suppose he wants you to do that for him as well.

I would be furious at what he said

Periods that are so painful that you are in bed for 2 days every month is not normal and you need to go back to the GP and insist on a referral. I can see why your husband is frustrated (but he’s definitely annoying to have said what he did).

While your DH was horrible - I disagree with your approach. Your experience with hormonal contraception was decades ago. Take control of your own health and seek further answers. Your passive approach would frustrate me

I’d also urge you to see your doctor again. What medication are you having? Two days every month in bed is really extreme and shouldn’t have to be something you just put up with,

Yes what he said wasn't great but also I can see it from his point of view that he's probably frustrated with having to fly solo while you're in bed every month. You shouldn't be suffering like this and you need to ask GP for help. You seem to have decided that there are no options for you. Do you really want to live like this for the next few years?

I have some sympathy with him. My DH has a lot of sick days. He always has symptoms so not making it up but it does get frustrating when there’s two of you but you have to solo parent a lot of the time.
There are suggestions on this thread that could help you and you dismiss all of them. I had the coil fitted due to severe pain each month and 4yrs later I can honestly say it was life changing.

Your dh is right. Don't suffer. Go to GP. You should be able to get on with life with a period. Something is wrong. You are ill. Get help.

I'd say this. They're fucking clueless. You have my sympathy.

I got the Mirena coil in August last year as part of HRT (no need for it as contraception as DH has had snip) - Im 49 and I have bleed continually for 6 months and then lighter since January. It's got another few months then its coming out if the GP cant balance my hormones.

My husband has been complaint about my periods too. To be honest he’s right though. I mope about, have mood swings and am a general nightmare. I’ve put myself on the mini pill and I’m seeking investigations for perimenopause