To be annoyed what DH said regarding periods.

Didn't know acupuncture can beneficial good in that way too @AnneLovesGilbert 🤔

this is one of the reasons why i ❤️ going onto mumsnet,

every so often learn something new didnt about before..

thanks for telling us..

I had very bad periods from the age of eleven. Two weeks pre menstrual tension. Regularly got sent home from work. Passed out on the bus going to work once. Every month 2 days off work awful cramps feeling sick sweating. The doctor gave me pills for period pains they were useless.
At the age of 21 I went on the pill, it cured the problem. I sympathise with all you ladies.

@Carriemac thanks for replying. I do have a large fibroid. I had an ultrasound followed by a gynaecology appointment about 2 years ago and she took a biopsy whilst I was there. It was bloody painful so when she then suggested she could fit a mirena coil, I declined it as I was cramping like hell after the biopsy! She never mentioned having it under GA though. She suggested I could take tranexamic acid or have a scrape for the bleeding. I opted for the tranexamic acid, I wish I'd asked to be referred for a scrape.

The GP has referred me back to gynaecology. The referral letter was sent last July, I'm still waiting for an appointment 😔. I'm on my second lot of iron tablets in just under a year for anaemia so I'm hoping it won't be too much longer.

It's bad enough having painful periods, but migraine on top of it must be awful. Your husband knows nothing about what some women have to go through each month and for a large part of their lives. He is horrible.

If you are not planning on having more children, maybe think about hysterectomy. It certainly solves the pain problem.

@Helen1625 I had terrible flooding , turns out I had fibroids and had a 'scrape ' and a mirena coild fitted under GA and completely sorted it. Ask for an ultrasound - that's was how I was diagnosed

I fully empathise with you cos I used to get bad migraines every month until the doctor put me on topirimate to prevent them happening, they don't stop them completely but I don't get as many and they aren't as severe. My partner is not sympathetic at all. Tells me I'm "always ill" it's not like we choose this is it? I'd have a sit down with him and chat about how his comment made you feel. Also have you considered the mini pill? I didn't get periods on that at all. It is amazing!

Thank you so much for replying and for sharing your experience with me. Sorry you went through such a difficult time ❤️

I have no pain but the flooding, duration and clotting is awful. I've had very little success with tranexamic and mefanemic acid.

I'm going to look into the acupuncture.

Thanks again

I had really bad periods in my 40's. I went to see a Chinese doctor of Chinese medicine and Chinese herbs sorted me out. The NHS don't care about women.

I only had to read the subject heading to say YANBU! Having read your whole post - assuming he is the father of your children, you might want to remind him of the biological purpose of periods and that without them he wouldn’t even exist or have children if his own. Add up exactly how many periods you’ve had, since he’s so interested, and point out that they are more inconvenient for you than they are for him. I’d definitely get yourself checked out though, my periods were all over the place at your age and it turned out to be premature menopause.

I doubt he'll say that again. And why couldn't he tidy the kitchen and do dishwasher?
I've had a man saying to me "actually childbirth isn't that painful. Gallstones are much worse". He'd never had them.
Passing stones through your dick, or a watermelon through a lemon sized hole?
They just think that's what women's bodies are for so it can't be that bad if they willingly get pregnant. Fucking eejits.

OP would not be the first woman whose medical condition has been handwaved away by the medical profession, and made to believe - BELIEVE - that nothing can be done and they just have to put up, shut up, and take the painkillers 'if it's that bad'.

I’d be going back to the GP. Bit odd that you’d rather be out of action for a week every month than get it sorted with the GP.

He is being a dick.

Separately- have you really taken two days off work a month all your adult life? That's really not right- you need to be assertive with your doctor.

They honestly have no clue! I've watched vids where men think we can turn 'them' off and on WTF! As women our pain tolerances are high because we've been told and come accustomed to monthly pain, mess and inconveniences from a very young age and it sucks!

I'm sorry yours are rough on you 🌸

Some years ago, in my 40's I developed very painful periods and heavy bleeding. Eventually, after medication had been tried and tests done, I had a hysterectomy at 46. They found endometriosis throughout my abdomen and also in my appendix, which was removed at the same time as 'it didn't look very happy!' No wonder it was so painful every month. My DH was very supportive and helpful, despite not understanding the pain I was dealing with.

I too get a really bad headache the day before I started my period and it's down to hormone fluctuations unfortunately.
I've also had issues with my period since turning 40 as it now can't make up it's mind as to how long it'll last and how many weeks it should wait between cycles! Luckily I have the option to go private thanks to work, so have done that and waiting for test results etc.

Hopefully if you go back to your GP you can get a referral and find out what's happening!!!

Mega sympathies with you!! Also the frustration of everyone asking if you’ve tried x,y or z and demanded to see a gyno….. I have severe endo and have had every contraception, pain pill right through to robotic excision surgery by an Endo specialist. There is nothing more available and a diagnosis isn’t a cure. Sometimes all you want is some sympathy and not people demanding you resolve a chronic issue that’s under researched and incurable!

Lots of comments like this but in all honesty there are zero treatment for a lot of women's health conditions. They're so under-researched.

There's also no support for gynae chronic pain conditions - you don't get painkillers.

It's abysmal.

Yes, and pain, duration and extending my cycle. It’s five elements acupuncture so they treat you how they find you rather than you going with specific symptoms.

I went after several miscarriages and not managing to conceive for a year, I was battered and extremely open minded at the time to anything that might help me heal/strengthen/level out, and quite quickly my cycle changed as described.

The best meds for flooding are Tranexamic acid which I was already taking and mefanamic acid for the pain but it was still awful. I went from passing huge black chunks to light red no chunks, far lighter and generally less disabling.

Sorry you’re suffering too @Helen1625

Awful comment!

Agree with PPs though that when you hit perimenopause things can get much worse. I was fortunate to have easy enough periods all my life (was on the pill) until late 30s, when - although I didn't realise at the time, I was starting an early menopause.

Suddenly my periods became really heavy. Still not too painful or emotional fortunately - but I would flood every hour or two which was totally new for me. Took several years for them to slow down and stop - but it was hideous - and only then did I learn from other women that this was normal. I imagine it can be even worse for someone who already has a difficult time - but nobody ever talks about it!

Your DH needs to step up to the plate now - but also be prepared that you may need even more support in the future. Why are some men such dinosaurs......??

He should be more sympathetic that you go through this so frequently, not less. 😥

@AnneLovesGilbert just to clarify, are you saying that the acupuncture helped with the flooding?

I've never heard of this, but would be willing to give it a go if it helps to lessen the floods

My fibroids gave me rxcessive bleeding and Dr srnt me gor a hysterectomy.

Gog onto the contraception they put on your arm. No more bleeding! Result.

Go back to GP and explain that you won't be leaving until they've sorted out a solution. You shouldn't be like this.

What is childbirth the old fashioned way? Is there some kind of new, better , bougie way to have a child?